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To think that after 6 years of marriage my husband might know how I take my tea?

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designerbaby · 10/12/2011 00:32

Or even care about making a cup I would enjoy?

I like: strongish, one sugar, one sweetner.
He makes (on the rare occasion he makes me one): so weak it's barely tea, half a sugar - unstirred. For me, undrinkable. If I'm in the kitchen I go back, stick the tea bag back in (if he's left it in the ramekin we use for the purpose) add a sweetner etc. I might as well have made it myself. If I'm working 2 floors up it generally goes untouched.

I know, it's hardly assault and battery, but it makes me feel like he doesn't really know me or give a toss, y'know?

It's not as much if a problem ad it might be. His usual trick is to say - would you like a cup if tea? And then do nothing whatsoever about it. To the point that I think it's his way if saying "Would you like a cup if tea? Oh, good, you can make one for me while you're at it".

Oh, and he made HIS HALF if the bed yesterday. I mean, really?!

I probably am BU. But he's really getting on my tits just at the mo.

[Shuffles off to count blessings, through gritted teeth...]

db
xx

OP posts:
fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:51

Never be crippled by self doubt, enjoy the ideals and let yourself run with it

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:52

you're very nice :)

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:57

And you sound like a gorgeous young thing too. Just take a saying off an old bird here. Never let self doubt get in the way of you doing things to the potential that you can cleary reach

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:58

Go write the rest of it, I know you can and so do you

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:59

thank you :)

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:59

not tonight!

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 05:00

Old bones have to go to bed now tbc safe in the knowledge that you can achieve what you wish. x

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 05:02

Please pm me and let me know how youre doing. Will let you off for tonight but get it done x

NeuromanticisedVisionsofXmas · 10/12/2011 05:57

thanks taking, I had a flash of inspiration and finished it. Woot woot!

Auberon Herbert, juicy topic! An anarchist MP, he had some nice ideas for a toff. Xmas Wink

designerbaby · 10/12/2011 09:15

Bloody hell, I post, it's all quiet, go to bed and miss a semi- argument, a really good party AND deep philosophical debate. Dammit, it would have been like reliving my art college days... Still, always happy to host - and to be honest even at college I was often passed out asleep long before the party was over, so I guess it was authentic.

DH wouldn't know what kind of wine I like either, but that's probably 'cause I'll drink anything...

He actually made me a cuppa this morning, voluntarily... Grin. It had one sugar and was the same colour as milk. Angry

I think I'll start putting six sugars in his leave the teabag in and feigning ignorance.

Passive aggressive? Me!?

db
Xx

OP posts:
carabos · 10/12/2011 09:25

OP, I'm afraid the answer is "he's just not that into you". If its true that in every relationship there's an adorer and an adored, then it's pretty clear that the adored ain't you.
What are you doing wasting yourself on someone who doesn't worship you? You deserve better.

TheRepublicOfDreams · 10/12/2011 09:29

I love this thread. :)

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 15:22

I will indeed PM you! I like toffs. Moved to parents' for Christmas today, there's no recession on Guildford High St.

Lovely thread :)

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