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To think that after 6 years of marriage my husband might know how I take my tea?

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designerbaby · 10/12/2011 00:32

Or even care about making a cup I would enjoy?

I like: strongish, one sugar, one sweetner.
He makes (on the rare occasion he makes me one): so weak it's barely tea, half a sugar - unstirred. For me, undrinkable. If I'm in the kitchen I go back, stick the tea bag back in (if he's left it in the ramekin we use for the purpose) add a sweetner etc. I might as well have made it myself. If I'm working 2 floors up it generally goes untouched.

I know, it's hardly assault and battery, but it makes me feel like he doesn't really know me or give a toss, y'know?

It's not as much if a problem ad it might be. His usual trick is to say - would you like a cup if tea? And then do nothing whatsoever about it. To the point that I think it's his way if saying "Would you like a cup if tea? Oh, good, you can make one for me while you're at it".

Oh, and he made HIS HALF if the bed yesterday. I mean, really?!

I probably am BU. But he's really getting on my tits just at the mo.

[Shuffles off to count blessings, through gritted teeth...]

db
xx

OP posts:
fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:22

well I type too fast and spell like shite and cross out stuff that was never there in the first place, so that sort of slight misdemeanor is pants. And its always when Im trying to be taken seriously. I don't even have an iPhone to blame Blush

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:22

Yeah, it's my last night living in London so I went for a few drinks, then a few bars, then a wonderfully dirty houseparty, then brought my lovely beautiful friend home to pass out in my room after she hooked up with my housemate. ahhh London, I will miss you.

Feeling pretty happy. Only leaving because I'm back with family for a month for Christmas then off backpacking again (poor, poor PhD, please, please write yourself).

Xmas Grin
fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:23

see, misdemeanour is spelt wrong, told ya Grin

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:23

give it up fuzzy, throw that iphone in the river!!

[blackberry loyalist]

NeuromanticisedVisionsofXmas · 10/12/2011 04:24

ha, Phd's don't write themselves, nor Masters, this is why I'm up at 4.30am!

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:25

Well done you TBM, Im proud of you even though im not your mum Grin

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:28

Thanks fuzzy. Wish my darling mother was about (passed away when I was 7 - really, really not saying this for sympathy so PLEASE do not say the standard 'ohhhh im so sorry' etc).

I havent done any PhD work for 3 days due to packing. I now feel terribly guilty. I have a scholarship for it so really, really have to be good. And it's philosophy. ARGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Will someone write it for me please? I will give you so, so much wine Xmas Grin

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:28

bless you TBM I have neither, its a very unfasionable affair. Im also proud of you NVX (sod typing that name and trying to highlight it at this time of the morning)

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:29

I'd give it a go after a few but it wouldnt make any much sense. I'd try for you though

NeuromanticisedVisionsofXmas · 10/12/2011 04:31

I would you know, but I wrote 3000 words already since this morning, and still have 5oo plus refs to do before I can sleep!

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:32

Thinking about it, I could type it up for you if you like?

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:34

Poor you. I did two years of an open university degree and threw in the towel so I know how hard it is!

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:34

Alright fuzzy. Write the skeleton for me as I'm only 3 months of 4 years in. I'm writing about a chap called Auberon Herbert who invented Voluntaryism and the influence of the 1848 'libertarian revolution' -- before we disagree, this is not ideological it's just my real interest.

How might I structure such a beast??

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:35

Oh neuro I can proof read if it might help?? Sobered up and everything.

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:36

I haven't got a flying fuck only to say reign in the beast.

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:37

Did that help?

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:38

on a scale of 1 to helpful, it scored minus 5

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:40

that poor huh, so tell me about this hubert bloke then?

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:41

Why did he have such an influence?

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:44

obviously something to do with liberty, did he take one or was it something freeing?

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:44

disciple of Herbert Spencer. Believed in ultimate freedom. In the early-mid 19thC this was not the 'positive freedom' of Green etc, it meant purely freedom 'from' - ie freedom from the state, taxation, legislation. Auberon Herbert advocated a voluntary society where you are all entirely free (J S Mill's 'harm' principle - you leave everyone the fuck alone and they do too, you cooperate, you celebrate difference, you just don't hurt anyone) and where you don't have to give up the goods you have worked for through taxation. However, people are altruistic and they voluntarily contribute money for public goods, defence etc (hence 'Voluntaryism').

Idealistic, but I'm a philosopher not an economist.

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:45

Basically anarcho-capitalism with a soft edge

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:48

Well that is a very wonderful thought but human nature will never support that.

fuzzynavel · 10/12/2011 04:49

Or be able to achieve that

takingbackmonday · 10/12/2011 04:50

Agreed. But the joys of philosophy doctorates is they are pretty abstract and you write about ideals not actualities.

Still the hardest thing I've ever done. The self doubt is crippling.

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