To not want to eat a full turkey dinner with all the trimmings two days in a row?

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My BIL has declared he is always going to spend Christmas day with his GF. PIL seem fine with this and have said they would rather we go boxing day every year so they can have the whole family together on one day. Fine, we are happy to do that.

The problem is BIL's GF family are all vegetarians so he has to eat nut roast Christmas day (his choice). However PIL feel sorry for him, so do a Christmas day dinner on boxing day, massive turkey all the trimmings etc. etc.

However, we have a big turkey Christmas day with my family and the last thing I feel like doing boxing day is eating it all again. I get really panicked when I feel like I'm force feeding myself and it was awful last year trying to get this dinner down me.

I know this is exceeding ungrateful and I'm lucky to be getting two fine meals in a row, so AIBU to be dreading day two of turkey already??

It's just a roast dinner

I don't agree that it is ALL just about being with family/friends-the food being immaterial. Of course it's togetherness that's important, but I also get that it's nice to look forward to the meal, rather than dread it.

As others' have said-just ask for, and eat less.

There is a difference between him saying he will always spend xmas with his girlfriend and saying he will always spend xmas with his inlaws though. He could bring his girlfriend to his parents' house or to your house or have xmas in their own house if the relationship lasts. It's easy to do a nut roast as well as meat.
Just because BIL always goes to his parents doesn't mean you have to follow. I'd hate to have a rigid visiting routine for xmas.

Why should they take it in turns? Me and DH have never had xmas dinner at either his mums (she goes to her mums anyway) or his dads.
We've had it alone, and at my parents. DH isnt bothered by this?

Day1: "isn't that part of the fun?? eating until you can't move and moaning 'don't show me another turkey until next Christmas!!'"
Day 2: "I get really panicked when I feel like I'm force feeding myself and it was awful last year trying to get this dinner down me."

Eh?

Yep, I'm confused too

Also, thank your lucky stars you are fortunate enough to be in a position where you are worrying about how much food you will have to eat!

Just ask for less.

I always have my turkey dinner on boxing day as well, I make sure I buy enough to last two days.

I would love to have two christmas dinners, one year it actually happened and it was amazing!

Eat what you like, not as if you have to stuff your face on both days.

YANBU in the sense that eating the same (rich) food two days in a row is rather bloating...however there are worse things to worry about. My SIL's birthday is boxing day and my in laws insist on cooking another turkey as some sort of celebration. Thankfully I've just given birth so won't have to go this year.

mnisstoo er where did I say food means more to me than family Of course seeing family is the most important thing.

The PIL really don't seem bothered BIL doesn't want to spend Christmas day with them, they are quite chilled. We were going to go Christmas day but PIL said they would rather we went the same day at BIL so they see us all together...

I do realise that I am being UR though and will make a special effort to enjoy it

My friend and his girlfriend used to have two Christmas dinners on Christmas day. One at each of their parents homes.

My friend and his girlfriend used to have two Christmas dinners on Christmas day. One at each of their parents homes.

Have also done this before, it was rather grim and I felt very ill by the end on the day!

We now have dinner at my mums and a buffet on the night at the in laws.

Well it´s all ILs fault-they should hae turkey properly on Christmas Day & not be saving it for Boxing Day when the guests are there.

In the name of family harmony, DH and I have eaten a full Christmas dinner twice in 4 hours on more than one occassion.