To not want to eat a full turkey dinner with all the trimmings two days in a row?

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My BIL has declared he is always going to spend Christmas day with his GF. PIL seem fine with this and have said they would rather we go boxing day every year so they can have the whole family together on one day. Fine, we are happy to do that.

The problem is BIL's GF family are all vegetarians so he has to eat nut roast Christmas day (his choice). However PIL feel sorry for him, so do a Christmas day dinner on boxing day, massive turkey all the trimmings etc. etc.

However, we have a big turkey Christmas day with my family and the last thing I feel like doing boxing day is eating it all again. I get really panicked when I feel like I'm force feeding myself and it was awful last year trying to get this dinner down me.

I know this is exceeding ungrateful and I'm lucky to be getting two fine meals in a row, so AIBU to be dreading day two of turkey already??

YABVU just don't stuff yourself on Boxing day!

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YABU

You have been invited as a guest to their house for a meal. You should just eat what they kindly cook for you and be grateful.

so your unhappy that you are lucky enough to have two lovely xmas lunches cooked for you??? just have a smaller portion and skip pudding and have it later in the day when you feel ready, i am working a late shift on xmas day and will miss out on sitting round the table with my family and havin a lovely lunch completely this year, but hey ho thats life, next year will be different, just roll with it!

I don't stuff myself boxing day piglet I just don't feel like eating it at all, even the smell when we walk in the house makes me feel queasy. I honestly think this would be the case if I had a tiny portion Christmas day, but I'm willing to try it...

Exactly letmehelp thank you

You're right susie I'm sorry you will be missing Christmas dinner . (I could post you some of mine...?)

so op your problem is that you dont really like the smell of turkey?? thats different then, my grandmother hates the smell of turkey cooking and can hardly force any lunch down her at all because of that, she has always cooked chicken, or beef when she cooked xmas lunch, so people can prob relate a bit more to your issue!!

thats ok you win some you loose some

I know loads of people who do this. IMO it is part of the ritual of Christmas - a desire to share a traditional Christmas meal together which I completely understand. I would think you were precious if you brought left-overs along tbh so in my view you should just not stuff yourself and try to join in moderately on both days.

I do like turkey, but after eating it once I feel like I can't stomach it the next day, weird eh?

ruby I do have a bit of an issue if we're at someone's house and I feel like I have to force feed myself as I'm not hungry or full, is a horrible feeling. I do eat a lot but sometimes people just give you so much. I know I should ask for less but it's a bit awkward when it's served up to you.

Yes I don't think I could really turn up with some slices of cold turkey tucked under my arm sarah

Next year you could have either boxing day or Christmas day in your own house and then have what you want one of the days. If the smell of turkey makes you feel sick on boxing day I don't get why it doesn't also make you feel sick on xmas day. If it's just because you really stuff yourself on xmas day then I would eat less then. I can happily eat the same meal for days on end, and often do if I make a big something or other.

You are an adult, you don't have to eat everything on your plate. Just tell them you don't want much, eat what you want and leave the rest. If they moan tell them you only asked for a small amount and don't want any more.

Don't be so miserable. Join in, eat a fair amount and be grateful you have two invites.

Does chicken smell terribly different to turkey?

I am endlessly mystified by the way some people get so stressed, weeks in advance, over a glorified Sunday roast. The poor old blameless turkey is the scapegoat for a million other unspoken ishoos that people have.

I don't understand conversations that go:

We always have beef/pork on Christmas day because none of the 24 people in our family like turkey.

How many people don't like chicken? None. That's how many. So if you can eat chicken you can tolerate turkey. It's just a giant chicken. You just aren't trying hard enough.

If it makes you feel better, I'm doing it four days in a row. I love turkey and am a glutton though, so am looking forward to it. I may award a prize for the best effort, a la "Come Dine with Me"

You're so right 2rebecca we did offer this year but they were like 'no no we'll do it' but I'll insist next year and BIL might get nutroast 2 days in a row .

And no I don't have an issue with BIL for those who asked!

There is something about Turkey that seems to provoke this feeling in people. I made a "chicken" casserole with diced turkey breast last week as it was on offer. I've always thought they were much the same, but by god the smell It wasn't a success.

I don't think people would have the same issue with eating steak or curry, for example, 2 days running. I do think there's something about Christmas and family arrangements that brings out the awkwardness in people.

If it really is an issue for you (rather than a preference) could your family have something different on Christmas Day?

I would be grateful for somebody else doing the cooking. i'm doing 4 separate large dinners (10+) people over the christmas period, have only one day where I am being cooked for. I would love somebody to do me a meal.

fellatio Turkey's posh Chicken innit? But I too know people who hate turkey and like chicken

real you are a hero that deserves a taxidermy turkey as a trophy!! I bow down to such turkey chomping skills.

Oh no chesnut now I feel bad!! Would you like to come to us boxing day??

Get curry in one night and give yourself a rest.

I get really panicked when I feel like I'm force feeding myself and it was awful last year trying to get this dinner down me.

Think you're blowing this up out of all proportion because this is a little melodramatic, unless you have issues with food? If you can't bear not to stuff yourself silly on Xmas day, just say "small portion for me please, I'm still full from yesterday" and leave what you can't eat? That would be perfectly ok. Or try eating a sensible amount on both days!

It only happens once a year!

You're right olgag