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To cry because a child died on the way to school.

83 replies

MitziKinsky · 07/12/2011 20:14

In a road traffic accident.

I have no more details except they went to DS1's school (the year below). School has held a mass, and informed all parents.

I am sitting here in tears; thankful it was not my child, my heartbreaking for the family of a child I've never met.

OP posts:
ivykaty44 · 08/12/2011 08:56

Op this is awful, a school near to me lost a young boy last week as he tried to cross the road to get the bus to school. The facebook status from all the youngsters in the area was heartbreaking.

Then my dd2 told me on Sunday it should have been his birthday - my heart went out to that family, so much heart ache.

stoatie · 08/12/2011 09:34

*Op this is awful, a school near to me lost a young boy last week as he tried to cross the road to get the bus to school. The facebook status from all the youngsters in the area was heartbreaking.

Then my dd2 told me on Sunday it should have been his birthday - my heart went out to that family, so much heart ache.*

I think this is the same boy I was posting about. My 15 year old (at different local school) told me about it in tears. I had had an awful day at work yet suddenly realised my awful day was nothing as I was so fortunate to be able to hug all my children tight that night. So terribly sad

knockneedandknackered · 08/12/2011 09:41

that's heart breaking your bound to feel somthing if yours went to that school i wish drivers would drive slow instead of thinking there in a raceSad

Bloodymary · 08/12/2011 09:42

I am in tears reading this thread.

So many children lost because of car accidents. I will be holding my little ones hand whilst crossing the road forever more I think. Sad

flippinada · 08/12/2011 09:49

Of course YANBU, how terrible :(.

OhThisIsJustGrape · 08/12/2011 09:49

Years ago a friend of mine was killed crossing the road after coming out of the pub. It was the early hours of Christmas morning and she was just 18.

Not a Christmas day goes by where I don't think of her family and what they must have gone through when woken by the police that night. Christmas would never have been the same again.

It's so easy to get bogged down by everyday life but threads like this one really bring it home to us all just how very precious our children our and how we would do anything to keep them safe from harm.

JaneBirkin · 08/12/2011 09:53

I'm so sorry OP.

There is a road near here where a little girl of 8 was killed in 1982. I was a little younger than her at the time, I think, but remember the newspaper story and that they changed the speed limit to 30 after she died.

When I drive along that road I always stay strictly under the limit although people behind try to make me go faster. I feel like getting out and saying to them, look, you probably don't realise why this road is 30, but I'm not going faster for you.

Not to say I break the limit elsewhere but I always think of that girl, when I drive that road. I looked for the news in the archive a while ago but can't find any mention of her, so I hope her parents know that people still remember her.

porcamiseria · 08/12/2011 10:23

Oh sweet jesus

may they rest in peace

i cried in a client meeting this week as someone on their site dies in an accident, fucking heartbreaking

ToldYaSo · 08/12/2011 10:58

this is partly why I cringe when people on here say oh my kid is road aware/sensible for their age and knows what to do

doesnt matter. There is always that one time when they get distracted or their head is elsewhere, or someone is driving madly. :(

SooticaTheWitchesCat · 08/12/2011 11:03

That is so sad Sad it makes me want to cry too just thinking about it.

SnapesMistressofMerriment · 08/12/2011 12:25

A few years ago near here a boiler burst in someones attic and boiling water fell over the baby sleeping i the room below. It was so bad her father burned his arms lifting her out of the cot and she died a few days later.

I still think of it now and get very :(

porcamiseria · 08/12/2011 12:26

fuck snapes I read about that, some things are just too too horrible to even comprehend

cuteboots · 08/12/2011 12:32

Such a waste of a little life that hasnt really started.

FleetwoodandFairycakes · 08/12/2011 12:32

Bertie I think I know the one you are thinking of. (I just looked at where you are in your profile). It happened last week? Anyway if it is the same one I used to work with his father - we shared an office for a while. Sad and he is devoted to his children and such a nice man.

FoxyRevenger · 08/12/2011 12:41

Oh Snapes that story came into my mind a few days ago. Just awful, horrific. Sad

Bartimaeus · 08/12/2011 12:42

A lad at my mum's school was run over and killed recently - he and his friends were playing at running out in front of cars Sad. The whole school mourned, then the police had to come in and lecture all the kids because several kids continued to play the game Angry as well as just strolling down the middle of a main road in rush hour traffic Shock

RainboweBrite · 08/12/2011 12:49

Of course YANBU. What a shocking, awful thing. I would be Xmas Shock if you weren't so upset. There but for the grace of God...

PurpleWithaBlueBun · 08/12/2011 12:57

I will never forget the girl in my year who I saw on Friday in my class and who died over the weekend due to meningitis. Tragic.

AKMD · 08/12/2011 13:07

Of course that's a reasonable reaction. I'm in tears just reading this thread :(

SirCliffRichardSucksEggsInHell · 08/12/2011 13:07

Poor thing Sad

I've posted before about our walk to school and how dangerous the cars make it. We've nearly been hit by cars coming out of a garden centre right onto the pavement without looking or giving way.
A car jumped the lights at a double pedestrian crossing at a busy bypass and if I hadn't grabbed ds he would have stepped out into the road as he saw the green man come on. I reported it but the cameras on the lights have been taken down because of the cuts Angry
And then going into the village the road and pavement is very narrow and cars come speeding down the 30mph road and then swing out onto the pavement when they meet something coming the other way. More than once ds and I have had to shrink back against the embankment as they brush past us and again, the police don't want to know.

And when you hear the attitudes of some car drivers it makes you so very angry. Angry

There but for the grace of God.....

JaneBirkin · 08/12/2011 13:12

Ds keeps asking to walk to school on his own, but there's no way really. We live a mile and a half away and there are several very busy roads to cross.

It's not even that though. It's the knowledge that he could just suddenly panic, or forget, and dash out, and that would be the end of him.

Or some loony car driver might just have an off day. It is never safe really, to leave them, is it?

HairyBeaver · 08/12/2011 13:17

OhThisIsJustGrape I think we know the same person and live in the same town. I didn't know her personally but knew her BF quite well :(

FleetwoodandFairycakes · 08/12/2011 13:20

I think phones have a lot to answer for too - kids have their phones and are checking them whilst walking along the pavement, briefly look up and then step into the road, still looking at their phone. I see them do it all the time (and I am guilty of looking at my phone whilst walking, but since this little boy died I have stopped doing it - it's not worth the risk - cars can be so dangerous).

JaneBirkin · 08/12/2011 13:25

I see car drivers on their phones every single day.

There needs to be a massive crackdown.

FleetwoodandFairycakes · 08/12/2011 13:27

Yes and drivers on their phones. Phones in general have made roads more dangerous I am sure.

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