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Original poster

aibu to cook a roast and put DP on a plate as he didn't come home until 9:15pm

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rotool · 06/12/2011 23:22

DP said he would be home early,cooked a roast DS's and I ate ours I put DP's on a plate and put it in the micro at 9:15pm when he came in. No,he wasn't in the pub but working but should I have cooked twice,once for the boys and then again for us at 9:15?

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abbierhodes · 06/12/2011 23:24

I don't see a problem here.

Pandemoniaa · 06/12/2011 23:25

I'm still intrigued by how your DP fits onto a plate.

Trills · 06/12/2011 23:25

Do you have a big plate to put him on?

troisgarcons · 06/12/2011 23:26

aibu to cook a roast and put DP on a plate

I'd have put the roast on a plate

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 06/12/2011 23:27
Grin

What is the issue? Has he complained at having a microwaved dinner?

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rotool · 06/12/2011 23:27

No big plate but I wish I had a bigger micro,would have put him in it!!! JOKE

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rotool · 06/12/2011 23:29

Yes,complained big time and that I didn't eat with him,said " I am not a dog"

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winnybella · 06/12/2011 23:29

Are asking whether you should have made the roast twice, from scratch? Of course not. Hope he didn't think that you should have.

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rotool · 06/12/2011 23:30

winnybella - that's just what he did think..grrrrrrr

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winnybella · 06/12/2011 23:30

x-post. Oh, ffs. So he's late and he expects you to cook the dinner twice so he doesn't have to eat a reheated meal? Wow.

squeakytoy · 06/12/2011 23:31

Er no... my mum, in the days before microwaves were invented, and sadly I can still remember them, would put my dads plate of dinner, on top of a pan of simmering water, cover it in foil, and leave it there until he got home when he was working late.

We had no phone at home, so if he got held up, there was no way of letting her know.

alarkaspree · 06/12/2011 23:33

I don't get the 'I am not a dog' comment. He's being an arse.

My dh would never expect me to wait until 9.15 to eat with him. Sometimes I will but that's my choice.

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rotool · 06/12/2011 23:33

I think it was more that I didn't wait for him and he had to eat on his own which he hates,I had no idea what time he was coming home..unexpectedorange "cooking his own food" in ten years he has never cooked his own food.

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Harecare · 06/12/2011 23:34

I always eat with kids around 5 and DP reheats his dinner. I couldn't wait til 9pm to eat. I do keep the gravy separate though as it makes everything go soggy otherwise.

winnybella · 06/12/2011 23:35

Well, he is being very unreasonable and a bit of a twat, to put it mildly.Does he think you're his servant? Hmm That you should spend an additional hour or so in the kitchen because he was late?

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winnybella · 06/12/2011 23:38

Why should you wait til 9 bloody 15 to eat, fgs? I mean, I live in France and am all for Continental dinner time etc etc but still, unless it's a 'date' iyswim or we order something specific that kids wouldn't eat, there is no way in hell that DP would expect me to go hungry for hours just so he doesn't eat alone. How childish of him.

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rotool · 06/12/2011 23:39

Oh yes, I am the servant because I only work part time

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FoxyRoxy · 07/12/2011 00:06

My dad ate his dinners alone, warmed in the microwave, for years as he had a long commute and wouldn't get home till 8 or 9pm. He certainly didn't expect my mum to cook two meals or for her to wait and eat with him.

I have evening classes two days a week and on those days I either cook myself something when I get in or warm up whatever DH has left me. He doesn't wait for me, he eats with ds and so he should!

Yanbu and he is being a twat.

Pandemoniaa · 07/12/2011 00:13

Anyone trying the "I'm not a dog" nonsense round here would soon discover his dinners were in the dog. Bloody cheek!

What is it with these men that think Queen Victoria is still on the throne?

iscream · 07/12/2011 04:06

That is what I do 4 nights a week. (Dh is on a late shift.) Except dh put's it on the plate and zaps it himself.
Tell your dh it isn't all about him! Sheesh!

mynewpassion · 07/12/2011 04:13

I don't think its unreasonable that his dinner was on a plate in the microwave. Its dumb to cook twice.

However, if the kids were already in bed, is it hard to sit with him and talk to him while he eats dinner? Maybe he just wanted some company after a hard day at work.

Sloobreeus · 07/12/2011 04:18

HIBU. Did you sit with him while he ate or did he have to sit there alone? We all have to do things we hate - eating alone seems trivial. He could read a book or newspaper. Pandemoniaa - some guys like the Victoria thing because it serves them very well. They go off, kill the mammoth then expect adulation and being waited on when they get home while her in cave helps DCs, sees to laundry, tidies up, makes packed lunches, sorts out admin, finds lost items, deals with school issues etc etc etc. Or do you sit at home reading a magazine and eating chocs Rotool (ooooooh, lazy wifey)? Wish I had a DH/P to be mad with. Oh no I don't!

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