aibu to cook a roast and put DP on a plate as he didn't come home until 9:15pm

[rotool]

DP said he would be home early,cooked a roast DS's and I ate ours I put DP's on a plate and put it in the micro at 9:15pm when he came in. No,he wasn't in the pub but working but should I have cooked twice,once for the boys and then again for us at 9:15?

I get home from work between 9.30pm and 10pm. I have my tea at work but if there was anything left over for me to microwave when I got home I would see it as a bonus!

I would never cook two hot meals. I just wouldnt. I know it is the norm for many families here, but I think it is too late to eat around 8-9pm when most of the adults in Britain seem to eat

I don't know anyone who cooks two meals and eats that late at night at home - different if it's a meal out.

Even 1950's wife wouldn't cook 2 dinners, she'd heat it up between 2 plates over a pan of simmering water!

he is being a twat, last night dp was late home, the kids and i ate at 6pm and dp ate later at about 8pm once he was in, i left his in the saucepan, he reheated it and then had it sat in the living rm whilst he watched tv. it wouldnt have occured to dp to moan about something like that and he woudl get short thrift if he did!

'I don't know anyone who cooks two meals and eats that late at night at home'

Er, we do. DH isn't usually home from work until 8-ish and I usually eat with him then. And often cook twice, if it's not the sort of thing that keeps well. That said, if he had said he'd be home early and I'd cooked on the assumption we'd all eat together as the OP did, I would definitely have put his on a plate for reheating later.

I said I don't know anyone - not that no one does it.

Gosh the things some woman have to put up with?

My DH would think it was his lucky day if I'd cooked his tea at 5pm

What?!

No.

But if you ate with him then DS would have to eat alone.

he's lucky his dinner was not in the dog , you cooked, he was not home, whats wrong with heating it up, at least he had a dinner

He may not be a dog but you certainly aren't a skivvy stepford wife

Thank you,you have all made me feel a whole lot better. For everyone who asked if I could not have sat with him and talked whilst he was eating, I did.
I am a doormat, it's easy to say that I have created the situation but you don't have to live here and yes I know I could leave and not have live here either but believe me he would make my life more of a hell than he is now.

You poor thing. It sounds like there's a he'll of a lot more to it than just a roast.

My DH would be very impressed to receive a roast dinner mid week, if he chooses to come home late (especially as he said he would be in early) then he can hardly complain that he has to eat alone.

Rotool - reading your last post is really upsetting :( but if you want a serious talk about that you should start a thread in relationships. I think you'd be surprised how many women felt like that, but eventually made the break & wished they'd done it years ago.

There's nothing really to say about tonight. He was completely unreasonable but that sounds like 'nothing new' in your house :(

your last post has made me feel sad, how horrible for you to feel like that.

Also how was he 'like a dog' did you bit it in a bowl and place it on the floor?

dH frequently eats alone, i make dinner at 5/6 for the boys plate his up, never kmow when he'll be in, then when he comes in he puts it over a pot of water (how old fashioned we are aka broken-never-replaced-microwave) . If he's in late he'll take it into work the folloing day. Either way he's always grteful there's food mde for him.

Back when i was doing 12 hour day, he did same for me, and that was whenn we did have the boys so we were both eating alone so to speak