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To be selfish over my pudding?

63 replies

cambridgetinsellyferret · 05/12/2011 21:28

Need to vent - was in the local pub yesterday, came to dessert time and I ordered a pudding, Dh said he didn't want one but would have some of mine.
To which my response was that he should order his own if he wanted one.
He then showed a perfect catsbum mouth and said that he wouldn't bother then.

Point is he wasn't even paying for it (treat from parents)

AIBU to want a full pudding instead of the half that I would have been left with??

OP posts:
Flisspaps · 05/12/2011 21:29

Absolutely not.

Pudding is sacred.

KittyAnne · 05/12/2011 21:31

You'll feel better if you share and your arse will thank you for it in the long run.

pictish · 05/12/2011 21:31

tut

silly man

ViviPrudolf · 05/12/2011 21:33

YABU.

When DP orders a pudding he clearly means that he is ordering himself half a pudding and the other half is for me, calorie-free because its off someone else's plate. He denies this is the case and insists ordered a whole pudding because he wanted a whole pudding and if I wanted some I should have ordered my own. Silly Mr. 'Pru.

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 05/12/2011 21:36

YANBU.

DamnBamboo · 05/12/2011 21:40

Why wouldn't you give him a spoonful?

It says more about you for the the fact that you won't share rather than the fact that your Dh thought you might.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 05/12/2011 21:43

YABU pudding should be shared. I always want a whole pudding but can never finish a whole one.

Eyes bigger than belly (wish I could say the same about my arse).

Grumpla · 05/12/2011 21:45

Leave the bastard.

Or at the very least stab him in the hand with a fork if he tries any pudding-related funny business again. Angry

motherinferior · 05/12/2011 21:47

Wot Grumpla said.

There are some things in life that are not to be shared. Pudding is one of them.

Eggrules · 05/12/2011 21:48

How rude. He should have ordered a different one from you so you could choose the best one.

midnightexpress · 05/12/2011 21:48

Joey doesn't share food.

slavetofilofax · 05/12/2011 21:49

YABU. DH and I share puddings. Sometimes a spoonful is enough and a whole pudding is too much. You are being selfish about pudding.

Although I did have to educate my dh after a blazing row so he knew that sharing a pudding does not mean he gets to put the pudding in front of himself, eat half of it and make it look all messy and then pass it over to me. God knows why he he ever thought this was acceptable pudding sharing behaviour, but now he is aware that sharing a pudding means two spoons, at the same time.

motherinferior · 05/12/2011 21:52

What about those many times when a Whole Pudding is only just about enough?

sloppyguiseppe · 05/12/2011 21:57

YANBU.

I am bad at sharing food. Remember in Friends when Joey's date doesn't order her own chips but thinks that she can pinch Joey's? Then he explodes "JOEY TRIBIANI DOES NOT SHARE FOOD"! That's me, that is.

FestiveFriedaWassailsAgain · 05/12/2011 22:00

Dh is very good for pudding. His lets me choose my own pudding and his pudding then he eats whatever is left from them both. 8 years I have been training him now

QuintessentiallyFestive · 05/12/2011 22:07

This is your dh telling you that you need to lose weight. He is very keen for you not to put on weight, that he rather have some extra calories, to ensure that YOU get less....

clare21 · 05/12/2011 22:09

If we go out then we order 2 main courses we both like the sound of, and swap half way through, and then tend to share a pudding. But our best friends don't do any swapping and we're always a bit surprised to eat out with them. The kids have picked up on the sharing thing too, and always offer us a bit of pizza in exchange for theirs....

WhoopsyLa · 05/12/2011 22:54

YANBU I am also a bit possesive and once ate a whole pudding to myself while MIL and DH looked on....they didn't want one apparently but I KNOW that they would have tried mine if I had offered...if they want a pudding then they should order one!

I also hate sharing dishes....like chinese food etc...no...I decide what I want , order and eat it! Can't do wth people scooping with their slobbery cutlery! Blech....

WhoopsyLa · 05/12/2011 22:56

I also relate to Joey.....I am one of 4 kids...I think that's to do with it.

How many other non-sharers are from larger families?

In our house you fought for your pudding!

CatPussRoastingByAnOpenFire · 05/12/2011 23:19

My DP does exactly the same thing. It drives me dappy! I DO NOT SHARE PUDDINGS!!
If he wants one, he buys his own.

lottiegb · 05/12/2011 23:28

I do this but only a tiny spoonful 'I'll just test it for you' as I understand this is not reasonable, unless both of you have agreed to share.

Soups · 05/12/2011 23:30

YANBU If you want a whole pudding then you should have it. If he wants a taste then that's fine, a spoonful is fine to give away. He should not expect half! What a daft man.

I say this as a pudding sharer who comes from a large family. I don't have a sweet tooth tho, but NO ONE gets to take my chips or Monster Munch Xmas Angry.

tigerlillyd02 · 05/12/2011 23:35

Some places to an 'extra large' version of a pudding specifically for sharing. I'm sure I could eat a whole one of them too though. Puddings are the best part of a meal out. No way would I share! YANBU

Pandemoniaa · 05/12/2011 23:37

I always share food but then I've got a rather peculiar relationship with it. I wouldn't necessarily expect something as sacrosanct as a pudding to be treated with such casual generosity though. But a little taste wouldn't have hurt would it, OP?

Also, how can people not share Chinese food? The whole point of it is the balance of different dishes and you get a much better meal if you eat it as intended - by sharing as wide a variety of things as possible. The more the people, the more the sharing and the nicer the grub!

TinyArmy · 05/12/2011 23:39

Steamed treacle sponges are my favourite, and I get to eat them so rarely. If DH brought his spoon within six feet of my pudding I would fight him. With my teeth.