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AIBU?

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To be selfish over my pudding?

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cambridgetinsellyferret · 05/12/2011 21:28

Need to vent - was in the local pub yesterday, came to dessert time and I ordered a pudding, Dh said he didn't want one but would have some of mine.
To which my response was that he should order his own if he wanted one.
He then showed a perfect catsbum mouth and said that he wouldn't bother then.

Point is he wasn't even paying for it (treat from parents)

AIBU to want a full pudding instead of the half that I would have been left with??

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Xmasbaby11 · 06/12/2011 19:14

YANBU. I'd give him a spoonful but that's about it, if he deliberately chose not to order one!

Panzee · 06/12/2011 19:33

Public school is great for teaching you how to eat.
Fork in right hand, scooping at a rate of knots. Left arm surrounding plate, preventing attack from neighbours. Head down over the plate to defend an overhead attack. :o

FairToMiddlin · 06/12/2011 19:41

YANBU

Same goes for Chips & Crisps

Naoko · 06/12/2011 19:43

Not even slightly unreasonable. My pudding is mine, unless we've specifically ordered a sharing dessert (some places do really nice ones) and then there's enough of it that you couldn't eat it on your own anyway!

Then again I've taken to ordering my DP a dessert whenever he says 'I don't want dessert', because I know that as soon as mine turns up he'll suddenly change his mind and steal half of it. That's not an acceptable solution :o so I just order him chocolate fudge cake because I know he can't resist the stuff...

whatdoiknowanyway · 06/12/2011 23:17

DH still thinks I was being unreasonable when we went to visit DD at university. Went out for dinner, he 'couldn't possibly manage pudding' so we ordered one (very rich) pudding designed for 2 people between DD and me.
Outrage when he then told the waitress to bring 3 spoons, without asking us, and proceeded to use his to take a good third of the pudding. DD and I rather forcibly expressed our dissatisfaction, he thinks we were unreasonable.
I don't mind sharing if I have agreed to share but if you say you don't want pudding then you can have a taste of mine BUT THAT'S IT! Order your own.

And, yes, i am one of 5 children but DD is one of just 2 and she was equally cross.

saintmerryweather · 07/12/2011 07:55

I was going to say yanbu but then i remembered a time when my ex andi were having a meal out with his family. we were both feeling a bit stuffed from the massive main course but since we had been told we had to try the chocolate fudge cake i asked if we could share a piece as it was quite a big portion (we were assured) my ex snapped 'if you want one, order your own'. i was quite shocked since he often helped himself to mine, having more than half. since i start feeling sick if i eat that bit too much i decided i wouldnt order my own and would go without (i wasnt doing a cats bum face!). Imagine my joy when it came out looking like the cake slice in matilda! My exs face just fell and he asked for another spoon for me. i made the fat bugger eat the whole thing himself. So YANBU in not sharing as i would never do it again but be prepared to take the consequences! My ex was sick that night :)

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cambridgetinsellyferret · 07/12/2011 20:20

Sorry, forgot to say- it was a Lemon Meringue pie with home made ice cream.

TBH I should have been sensible and ordered a chocolate brownie. DH doesn't like chocolate puddings.

I'm from a 2-child family and all puddings were carefully portioned out by DM. But considering her pudding repertoire consisted of Angel Delight and rice pudding cut in slices there were pretty few fights about having more...

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AKMD · 08/12/2011 08:25

Ah then YAdefinitelyBU. lemon meringue pie isn't the same now that it isn't allowed to be radioactive yellow :(

CheshireDing · 08/12/2011 08:30

YANBU!

If food is to be shared, it needs to be confirmed by all parties beforehand .

Sometimes DH has taken a chip of my plate without asking, very bad move and rude!

Bubandbump · 08/12/2011 09:08

Ooh the chip thing bugs me too. I have a habit of saving the best bits till last and DH has a habit of swooping in to steal the last chip or using up the last bit of the sauce on MY plate that I have carefully been saving because he has eaten all of his

after8itsbliss · 08/12/2011 09:37

I agree with you OP, totally unreasonable of your DH. Pudding is my favourite bit of a meal and I often skip starters or have a lighter main so that I can enjoy dessert.
I have a cousin who always does this, as she is watching her weight.
I'll order mine and then she'll say "I'll have a bit of yours". I don't mind if someone says "Do you want to share a dessert?", as I can then say yes or no depending on how I feel, but very annoying when they just tell you that they will share "a bit" of yours, makes you feel greedy if you say no.

hackmum · 08/12/2011 12:46

Am lolling at saintmerryweather. There's something brilliant about insisting he eat a whole chocolate fudge cake all by himself just to make a point. No wonder he's an ex:-)

wahwahwah · 08/12/2011 12:47

How could you marry such a brute? The worst thing is when they steal your ice cream and bugger up the pie/cake to ice cream ratio.

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