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To be selfish over my pudding?

63 replies

cambridgetinsellyferret · 05/12/2011 21:28

Need to vent - was in the local pub yesterday, came to dessert time and I ordered a pudding, Dh said he didn't want one but would have some of mine.
To which my response was that he should order his own if he wanted one.
He then showed a perfect catsbum mouth and said that he wouldn't bother then.

Point is he wasn't even paying for it (treat from parents)

AIBU to want a full pudding instead of the half that I would have been left with??

OP posts:
Morloth · 05/12/2011 23:44

YANBU.

Shared pudding is fine if all are in agreement.

But for the love of God do not say you don't want pudding and then proceed to eat mine.

You touch my food without permission and you are pulling back a bloody stump.

I am one of 6 children from a poor farming family, I do not share food.

MissMogwi · 06/12/2011 00:14

YANBU pudding is not meant to be shared. Fact.

MrsRhettButler · 06/12/2011 00:20

It totally depends on what the pudding was....

What pudding was it op?

midori1999 · 06/12/2011 00:55

YADNBU.

It took me about five years to get DH to realise I am really not going to share my food, unless it's a swap. There's no way I'd share a pudding.

I also come from a family of 4, so maybe that's it. However, I have 4 DC and so far they are all very good at sharing, although one's still a baby, so maybe there's time...

Eskarina · 06/12/2011 02:16

DH came from this school of thought. After 7 years I still need to remind him that my pudding is MY pudding. Actually I'm happy to do swapsies if he has one too, but I'm not giving up half of mine when he claims not to want one. And don't get me started on MIL. She's of the "communal pudding" way of thinking, will never order one, couldn't possibly after such a big meal, then will a)try to influence everyone else's choice of pud, then b)oh go on, just a taste of each one, I'll get my own spoon, and lo and behold she's eaten more than everyone else put together the originally pudding orderer.

Which is a long winded way of saying yanbu!

Einsty · 06/12/2011 06:18

I am one of 6 from a poor farming family, I do not share food Grin

Can I add: I am the youngest and weakest of 4 offspring of a low-paid factory worker, I DO NOT share food

EmpireBiscuit · 06/12/2011 07:05

I suppose if he used fresh cutlery and took a tiny piece it would be okay but definitely no second scoops or double dunking (bleugh). Other people bodily fluid in my food is a massive no no. Also, no one can drink from my glass either - that is wrong.

Panzee · 06/12/2011 07:07

Touch my food, feel my fork.

YANBU.

Shutupanddrive · 06/12/2011 07:32

YANBU, a taste is fine but expecting to have half? No way! Unless you were both fairly full and decided to share one before ordering.

DuffyHasABeard · 06/12/2011 07:48

No, YANBU. Want pudding, order your own. I hate that "oh I'll just share some of yours" expectation.

Katisha · 06/12/2011 08:05

THere was a thread a couple of years back where a SIL kept taking food off the OP's plate in restaurants. There was general outrage but i don't think we ever heard whether it was satisfactorily resolved.

Dirtydishesmakemesad · 06/12/2011 09:06

The would annoy me unless it was a pudding meant to be shared, if he wanted something why not just order it Confused. Dh and i often get two puddings we both fancy and swop halfway through so we get to try both thiugh!

WhoopsyLa · 06/12/2011 11:01

katisha I just HAD to find that SIL thread Grin

SooticaTheWitchesCat · 06/12/2011 11:04

I would be very upset if anyone tried to eat my pudding Shock

DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 06/12/2011 11:52

"I suppose if he used fresh cutlery and took a tiny piece it would be okay but definitely no second scoops or double dunking (bleugh). Other people bodily fluid in my food is a massive no no. Also, no one can drink from my glass either - that is wrong."

Really? You wouldn't share 'bodily fluids' from your DP/DH's cutlery?! Jesus wept, I've had his semen in my mouth! A bit of spit from his bottle of coke really is not going to harm me!

Although I am fully in agreement with the OP that pudding is not for sharing. If you want one, you order one. Dunk your spoon in my crumble and I will bite your fingers off.

altinkum · 06/12/2011 11:56

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lollilou · 06/12/2011 12:08

We always get 2 and share them!

DeeOfTheNorth · 06/12/2011 12:15

No-one shares my pudding. I make this clear when ordering and no amount of "ooh that looks nice" type comments or sad puppy dog eyes will sway me.

GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy · 06/12/2011 12:16

I read about 8 posts on that SIL thread before I started to feel my bp rising.

And I'm having to laugh at the posts further up on here from the tiny fairy folk who can't possibly manage their own pudding and therefore think that no one else should be able to either. Order your own or don't have one. Unless someone actually says to you "I don't want a whole one, do you want to share?" then piss off.

valiumredhead · 06/12/2011 12:17

We always share food so YABU in my eyes Grin

AKMD · 06/12/2011 12:20

YABU. You should have ordered three puddings, had one each and then shared the third one :o

Katisha · 06/12/2011 18:03

Yep - that SIL thread never did finish properly did it. Wonder if we can ferret out that OP.

Bubandbump · 06/12/2011 18:58

I'm sorry, I just don't understand this phrase 'share pudding'. Surely those two words can only be together when preceded by a 'not'.

Anyone who comes near should be bashed on the hand with the spoon.

Bubandbump · 06/12/2011 18:59

Oh and I come from a family of 4 where the cake cutting was a precise operation...

DartsAgain · 06/12/2011 19:08

No way do I share puddings!

You want a pud? Order your own!!!

I've been to many places where the puds are quite small, so there's not enough for sharing!?!

Having said that, DP and I will often swap food in our main courses, it's just the pud that's not up for grabs. Luckily we do have very different tastes in puddings, so it's rarely an issue Xmas Grin