to think CM shouldn't leave DS in a dirty nappy?

[MissIngaFewbaubles]

because my supply ran out as he had a big wetting day today?

Collected DS from the CM and he stank. I smiled and said to the CM blimey he's stinky, has he just pooed? Se said that he had pooed half an hour ago but I didn't have any nappies left as she'd had to change him more than usual so I would have to change him when I got home.

I'm very angry and upset, how could she just leave him sitting in his own poo for that long? He's 2.3 and always tells you when he's gone and doesn't stop telling you until you change him.

If she had no nappies what should she have changed him into?

But if she didn't have any nappies what could she do? Fwiw I always change ds straightaway as leaving them can lead to nappy rash but if I didn't have a nappy I'm not sure what I could do.

Does she have any other children who are likely to be in the same size nappies? Otherwise the no nappy thing would be an issue, but for the sake of half an hour personally I would have left him with no nappy on.

Perhaps leave a strip of nappies with her aswell as ones in the bag do she always has some available.

Why didn't she clean him and leave him bare bummed or on a towel?

How horrible, poor thing.
Not sure what she could do if he'd no nappies. Would you have preferred her to have called you and asked you to collect him?

What should she have done?
And if he's that advanced have you started toilet training him?

Do you know if she had nappies that would even fit him? if not what should she do? Shove his arse in a t towel?

Why dont you send more nappies than she needs? Surely you send double and what is left is carried over to the next day?

When my son went to a child minder I left a bag of Pampers.

Jeeez just a days supply at a time, thats ridiculous.

What if he ha the squirts?

Bugger sorry, thought I had said everything relevant.

CM has 3 other toddlers today so I don't see why she couldn't borrow one of theirs.

I am not allowed to leave nappies/spare clothes with her, we have to take everything we need every day.

I was surprised that she doesn't have a small 'just in case' supply TBH. I know it's my responsibility to supply nappies but I sent him with the usual amount and there is normally 1-2 left over.

Maybe that would have left the others with not enough?

I don't feel 1 or 2 is enough spares tbh. I always send double his normal amount with Ds to nursery and they do have spares! I would rather stuff his bag with to many than them run out.

oh come on surely most CMs have spare nappies. Size for a 2ypo not that important - they could in an emergency wear anything from a 3 up.
Not to mention, yes, at 2.3 and having just had a poo he could have been left nappy less for half an hour.
Either way - leaving him in a dirty nappy was stupid and downright neglectful.

I think this unacceptable
Surely any nappy is better than been left in his own poo
Could the cm have got some nappies ( any nappies) from somewhere?
Massive red flag for me
I would get a small supply for emergencies, and then the regular supply
Tbh I'd also question if you actually have the right person looking after you child
Surely as a professional she would be on top of this sort of thing?
Let her know you are

In that case if she could have nabbed one from another toddler you are definitely not bu

my DCs' nursery and CM have occasionally run out of nappies and yet they always manage - I always make sure they take a couple out of my next pack to replace the ones they use.

YANBU. This would concern me too.

What would happen if DC had an accident and needed more than the one change of clothes you supply each day... would he be left wet/puked on etc?

She could have easily found another nappy with so many toddlers and if she CM's every day should have a small supply of spare stuff for emergency's.

that's really awful, poor boy; of course she should have used initiative and nabbed a spare from another bag

as an aside, does she have a variation to have 4 under 5's? most CMs can only care for 3 without a variation from the regulator

I wouldn't be impressed, I'd have preferred a phone call.

Hmm, I'd be annoyed - because my dd starts blistering and bleeding within about 10-15 minutes so 30 minutes sitting in dirt would mean four or five days of extreme agony for her every time we changed her, steroid cream and possibly calpol. She gets so bad that I am in tears trying to change her. So if someone had deliberately left her then I'd be leaving that childminder (it's about the first thing I tell anyone looking after her)!
But I usually allow for five nappies a day and then add another five so even with a really wet day I'd be amazed if she got through them all - just so we don't have this sort of situation. Perhaps leave a spare bag of nappies with childminder for the future.

My CM always had spares and let me know if I'd run out and I always sent a few extra for her supplies when that happened.

You don't leave a child in a pooey nappy thats just not on.

Yanbu, it's not right for her to leave him in a dirty nappy like that. I would have thought having a few spare nappies around would be pretty essential for a childminder who looks after young children. Also, it seems a bit awkward of her not to let you leave a few spare nappies and clothes with her for emergency use. Very strange.

And just seen you can't leave spares - well, it kind of backs you into a bit of a corner. Maybe turn up with a huge bag of nappies each day now (leave it in your car so it's ready). She can't have it both ways. Either she can leave spares there, or she needs to have a plan ready for when she runs out (as sometimes she might) which does not involve leaving a child sitting in their own filth.