to think CM shouldn't leave DS in a dirty nappy?

[MissIngaFewbaubles]

because my supply ran out as he had a big wetting day today?

Collected DS from the CM and he stank. I smiled and said to the CM blimey he's stinky, has he just pooed? Se said that he had pooed half an hour ago but I didn't have any nappies left as she'd had to change him more than usual so I would have to change him when I got home.

I'm very angry and upset, how could she just leave him sitting in his own poo for that long? He's 2.3 and always tells you when he's gone and doesn't stop telling you until you change him.

WRT a daily diary, it's considered good practice but not a requirement

Certainly there should be a file held by the CM, charting your child's progress and development (sometimes called a Learning Journey) which you can ask to see at any time, and should be shared with you regularly, and handed on to you at the end of your child's time there

If your not happy then leave. Depending on the severity of your worries I would also consider reporting her to OfSted as it seems she isn't necesserily doing what is right for the children in her care

You're not allowed to leave spare nappies...? What...?!

She obviously changed him A LOT during the day, if she worked her way through your entire supply, so she clearly wasn't prepared to leave him in wet nappies. Odd.

Look - there's a really simple solution here. Just send in extra spare nappies.

What's she going to do?? Refuse to accept them?! Of corse not. Really, genuinely don't see the problem in ensuring he's going to be OK through the day.

I mean if you really are not allowed to leave spare nappies, then that is bonkers and of course you should leave her - I wonder why you ever agreed to this in the first place.

You're not allowed to leave sufficient spares, and she doesn't carry a back-up supply.

Equals completely odd and slightly unbelievable situation. One that I can't believe was ever agreed on in the very first place.

sounds bad I would say to her you were a bit upset that he had been left for so long in a dirty nappy and what can you do to make sure that doesn't happen again in the future iyswim?

You should be getting feedback at every pick up so you know what he has been doing everyday and fwiw I don't think you can concede defeat with potty training after 2 days (after 2 weeks yes 2 days no!) It took my dd at least 4 days to start weeing in the potty and 2 weeks before she was more or less dry.

I would look at getting him into a good nursery.

YANBU at all! Good thing he pooed near the end of the day, what would she have done if it was an hour or two after earlier , left him in a soiled nappy all that time! Really she is looking after toddlers, she should have a packet on standby, what is the price of cheapy supermarket nappies, not much at all, she should be better organised if you are not allowed to leave spare clothes and nappies.

YANBU I would be very concerned about this. I would look at changing cm, as how anybody can think it is ok to leave a child in a dirty nappy when you have the option to change it is ,is beyond me.

Blimy she could have popped to the shop and bought some, and you said you would give her the money for them, why the hell did she not do that! Sounds a bit lazy tbh. You had to tell her he smelt, she did not tell you on handover that he did a poo and is in a dirty nappy

Oh no Piglet, she knew he had pooed, she just left him in it as I hadn't provided enough nappies

I have no idea why I can't just buy a pack of nappies for her house. I turned up with them on the first day as that is what I'd always done with my previous CM (I wish we lived close enough to have her again) and she asked me to take them away with me as she didn't have room. Very odd I thought at the time, but on it's own not a major problem so I left it.

So leave more nappies...?

And have a word with her as well, that leaving a child in a dirty nappy is beyond grim.

YANBU - I would never leave a child in a pooey nappy for more than 5 mins. Nor would my CM. I would be fuming.

I worked in a nursery. a bad nursery (put me off ever using one), but even there nappies were changed as needed as well as at set times. If your child is at a nursery where they leave them to sit in their shite as regularr practise you need to remove your child.

And off topic....re potty training. It might not be that he is 'oblivious' to wees rather that he doesn't really care because they're soaked up by the nappy. Once they're in pants and they feel wet when they wee, they learn quickly. Two days isn't long enough for him to master it, at that age they need a week or so. Not trying to interfere, just putting in my penny worth!

Or she could have phoned you, as you said she knows you finish early and could pop to the shop, that's what I would have done.

DH has hit the roof, DS will definitely be moved to the nice nursery. It's so sad, I thought that he would be better looked after in a home environment. The older DCs had an amazing CM and a terrible nursery.

I will think about potty training him again after Christmas is over, before then there's a good chance it will get derailed with all the changes in routine for him.