AIBU to think she used my sons gift before she gave it to me, given this evidence...

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SIL gave us a shirt, tie and trouser set for DS's birthday. He wore the shirt on the day, the rest was very very big. Her sons size in fact.

So, I log onto FB and happen to see her son wearing the exact same suit. Coincidence perhaps?

Except that I know, for sure, that she regifted my christmas presents last year from the state of the present and its packaging.

AIBU to think she let her son wear it first?

And if yes, I still have last years gift in fact, AIBU to give it back to her?

I think you guessed correctly.

YANBU ...:)

Don't bother playing her game though.

I would leave a comment on her facebook picture, "nice suit, looks familiar" and see how she reacts.

YANBU in that I think you are right ut I wouldn't stoop to her level - why not just comment on the photo so that she knows that you know though? I would be so tempted...

Is that a problem? Surely if it had no tags on it she expected you to know it was second hand?

TeeHee.....I think perhaps you are right, and she gave you her son's castoffs. Busted.

Present-giving is such a minefield, sometimes I think it would be easier for everyone if we just stopped giving/expecting gifts. TBF, she doesn't HAVE to give your DS anything, and nor to you have to use what she gives.

At least you know now what the deal is when giving gifts to your SIL. You have carte blanche to give her YOUR unwanted underwear, slightly-used bath products and dvds that you've watched.

I don't get the 'stoop to her level' comment btw - I give my mum secondhand books all the time, didn't know there was anything immoral about it until now!

Definately put a message on the pic. You could tag your son too!

Maybe it was BOGOF !

She said it was new (it was an outfit for his first birthday) and it had tags but they came away VERY easily when I put it on him. I did wonder if they were attached but hadnt seen the picture and so had no reason to think she would use his birthday gift before she gave it to him, so just thought they were attached funny.

Im really annoyed because if she'd said 'Ive got one of DS's old suits' then fair dues. She said 'Ive bought your DS a suit for his birthday'.

Ahhh ... that is a bit cheeky, then!

Is she perhaps not well off and a bit embarrassed about it, or is she just rude? I mean she must have known you'd see the picture and put two and two together.

Well, maybe she DID buy it, - poss they were on offer or something, and she really liked the suit and thought you would too?

If it is her son's current size (rather than being somehting he had grown out of) then it seems odd that she would have him wear it once then give it away.

Comment on the photo how lovely it is that they have matching suits and that they should wear them on Christmas day/next family get together.

I dont think NEXT do bogof offers, do they?!?!

Pippi, thats the other plan. Whats the consensus? Regift her regifted gift from last year, or say how cute they will look dressed the same?

Sorry another note : we are not FB friends. She has no reason to think I would see the photo.

Definitely my plan! More cunning.

And if you aren't fb friends then your theory sounds very likely.

XPosted with HeidiKat - devious minds think alike!!

The problem is that as Im not friends with her, I have to say it to her face.

What if I fluff my lines!

FB friends I mean. I cant just leave an offhand comment on the picture.

I wouldn't worry about it if she had been honest about it, but it seems a bit petty of her. You can't really say anything at all though without giving away fb stalking her?!

Ex in laws did something similar when DS was little. They gave him a jumper and attached an overpriced United Colours of Benetton tag, only from the label inside the jumper I knew it was from M&Co and probably cost about £3. ExH refused to believe all the evidence and thanked his dick-head-dad profusely.

Does it really matter?

You are sounding vindictive

I don't know why you are annoyed she gave your son a gift. She didn't have to. And if you confront her, then maybe you won't get any more ....

I don't know, just say wow, great. Then stick it in the back of the drawer or give it to oxfam.
She is being petty (and a bit weird).
Dress DS in something of your own.

A friend once gave me one of those food warmer things - why she thought i would want one I do not know...............anyway when I took it out of the admittedly rather dated looking box there was a half burnt tea light in it. Tight cow. I have no problem with regifting but at least check the thing first!