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To be so shocked this women treated my baby like this

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tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 03/12/2011 21:13

In the park today, DS 20months, toddled off to the roundabout where another child with parent??? aged about 20?? was pushing her around.

The roundabout was stopped by the little girl and DS got on, I helped him up onto the little bench seat and said hang on darling.

Expecting the other mother to push slowly as there was quite an age difference, I had to say "can you slow down a bit" as she pushed so hard and laughed, at that point I went to step in and she pushed again throwing DS off!!! :( He screamed and fell directly onto his face at which point she laughed :0

She said something to her DD?? in another language and kept laughing showing no concern to my screaming baby.

I said "how dare you" at which point another mother and my DH came to help me as DS had taken quite a knock.

I feel quite sick about it. She just laughed at us and then left!

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madmomma · 03/12/2011 21:36

how bloody awful! Nasty bitch!

coraltoes · 03/12/2011 21:36

I'd have punched her... And when she went down like the sack of shit she is I'd have laughed right back in her face. Stupid stupid cow. One day she will pick on the wrong people....

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tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 03/12/2011 21:38

God I feel terrible now. If I had called the police would they have come straight away and search with our description??

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lisad123 · 03/12/2011 21:40

You can still report it, they may already know who she is, or can make appeal in local paper ect.

sozzledchops · 03/12/2011 21:40

Some adults just amaze me, something similar did happen to my dc. He was on one of those spin around net things the kids stand inside. He was a little younger than the other boys there with their father, I assume. The dad was spinning it faster and faster and my son was distressed and screaming to get off, the dad just looked delighted and spun it faster. I had to yell at him and physically jump in to slow it down.

Op, hope you and your little boy get over it quick, how horrible for you.

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tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 03/12/2011 21:41

lisad123 he seems ok bless him....even with the lump :( Thank you x

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Wafflepuss · 03/12/2011 21:42

If she's local you'll see her again. Be ready for it, tell her exactly what you'll do to her if she even so much as looks at your ds again. Then tell her you know where she lives, look her squarely in the eye then walk away. That'll sort the stupid bitch out.

BoffinMum · 03/12/2011 21:46

I would have cornered her and given her a multilingual tongue lashing. But tbh there is not a lot else you can do in situations like this, realistically.

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tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 03/12/2011 21:47

Wafflepuss wish you were with me!

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coraltoes · 03/12/2011 21:55

So you, your mother and your husband were there and you let her walk away?! I'm stunned.

hmc · 03/12/2011 21:56

What coraltoes said, I am unfortunately rather volatile and would have whacked her. No wonder you are stunned - unbelievable

lisad123 · 03/12/2011 21:59

My dh was spinning one of those net spinner in the summer and an older kid fell off and he was horrified!! Sad he was very upset and couldn't stop saying sorry Blush

GypsyMoth · 03/12/2011 22:00

Hitting her would solve nothing and could result in getting yourself a prosecution.

hiddenhome · 03/12/2011 22:01

I'd have punched her.

sozzledchops · 03/12/2011 22:01

What do you expect them to do, physically restrain a young woman with a young child while you await the police. Oh officer, this woman pushed the merry go round too hard, arrest her. I think they were shocked and more concerned with dealing with their son. That's right blame the OP.

ilovesprouts · 03/12/2011 22:03

i would of been so bloody mad hope dc ok id of lamped her one :0

MitziKinsky · 03/12/2011 22:04

She sounds mentally unstable, or drunk.

Either way, she shouldn't be in charge of a child.

I hope your DS is OK!

GypsyMoth · 03/12/2011 22:05

Far better to have taken a pic of her....or your DH, if brave, could have done a citizens arrest?

FrauHolle · 03/12/2011 22:06

I would have screamed at her and taken a picture or called the emergency number. Crazy bitch as others have said.

Your poor bubba. Lots of cuddles and some arnica and I hope he will be better soon. Poor you, what a nasty shock!! Nobody expects this but keep an eye out for her now. Make a note of the date and time when it happened and still report it now, saying you were in shock. Wait till you see the bitch again and take a picture or call the police to come and get her.

Plonker · 03/12/2011 22:08

I'd still report it mary. Ring them and give them a description.

Good luck.

OrmIrian · 03/12/2011 22:08

No yanbu.

Good thing you didn't thump her - I can't beleive some of the posters on her who see it as a merit to respond to outrageous behaviour with more outrageous behaviour. It isn't the right default response.

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tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 03/12/2011 22:24

We were so shocked and DS needed us and then before we knew it she was leaving, even before we had stood up really.
DH isn't even sure if we can remember enough to describe her. Young, long hair, white, medium build.....hooped earings....I am sure if I saw her again I would know though. I will report now.....might feel like a little justice for my little chap. It breaks my heart as he was just gaining confidence and choosing things to go on etc... It was hard today as it happened so fast, we had older DS as well. I just reacted to DS whilst I shouted at her.
The mum who came to help wasn't my mum, another nice mummy in the park didn't know her, but she was lovely.

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DaPrincessBride · 03/12/2011 22:34

Oh the poor little guy Sad

To be fair OP I wouldn't have thought to call the police either at the time. It might be worth making the local station aware of her though - she might be a regular.

I think I would probably have lamped her whilst screaming so you have a lot more restraint than me...!! She sounds totally mental and vile. Grrr. Feeling angry now!

CrumbsOnTheFloor · 03/12/2011 22:38

It is sad because kids that young need to trust adults around them. Its a shock when people are inexplicably mean to them. I'm glad there was a kind stranger to comfort you both.

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tryingtobemarypoppins2 · 03/12/2011 22:42

CrumbsOnTheFloor you have hit the nail on the head. That is why I am most upset. Mummys in parks should always be caring to little children. I have always told my older DS if he was to ever get lost (horror!) to tell a mummy with a pushchair he needs help......now I wonder how sensible that advice is. I always encouarge DS to play with others and chat to other mums etc....make me so sad to think this women was so deliberatly horrible to my little boy.....why??

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