To tell my DH that I've had a crap day

[Womblychic]

I stay at home with our two boys age 3 and 2. They are 18 months apart and insanely jealous of each other. They both play up all day long to get my attention: fighting over toys, food, well everything. It is exhausting and I am so bored and fed up of being with them. When DH gets home and asks about my day he wants to only hear positive things. If I dare tell him the truth he gets angry and picks a fight with me. If I can't moan to DH about his own children, who can I vent my frustration on? Please tell me if I am being unreasonable, or offer other suggestions on how to make life fun again. Thanks

yanbu to expect your dh to listen to you if you need a moan sometimes, as someone said im sure it would help if he just acknowledges your feelings and appreciates you are doing a good job.

my oldest two ds are nearly the same ages as yours so i know what you mean about how it can be annoying dealing with arguing and if they are playing up etc.. we have just moved house too so have less local friends now which does make a big difference too, it is so much easier when u can just go out to local groups where you feel at home and know everyone, it keeps the dc busier and fills your day but when you are new in an area even going out to all the groups is more of an effort and chore as you dont even have friends there, so it is a lot easier to feel more down by the end of the day - it is understandable.

your dh should understand that you are supposed to be supporting each other which includes listening and cheer you up if you are down. although mine is a bit like that too he wouldn't wana listen to me moan and does get a bit sick of it if i do, so the other thing that can help is if you have other friends in similar situations who you can offload on instead, sometimes they understand more.

i hope it gets easier for you op, im sure it will as you get more settled in your area and also just as they grow older (well i hope so, i dont wanna think that they will all argue more as they get older cos i am really waiting and looking forward to mine to play together more without fighting over toys)

Bluddy.

It is only 4 extra letters. Or type 'kids', the same number of letters. 'Boys need to run' etc winds me up (mind you everything does today, i just had an argument with bil and sil. i better go to the shops and get some fresh air)

I wrote boys simply because I was talking about my own dc - and the two of my dc that are 19 months apart are DS1 and DS2. And also because in the OP, it says 'our two boys age 3 and 2'.

i'm in the same situation and mine are boys too. i just assumed all the girls are sitting quietly and playing nicely together

i like the bit about it being so different/better/easier in 18months time but then my 2 youngest will be 2 and 3yrs.