AIBU to think DH is being bullied at work?

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Have name changed to protect DH id incase we decide to take it further. Basically DH works in a smallish team (around 15 people) and there has been a number of cases of bitching going on, more so in the past year or so. DH therefore came up with the idea of a friendship group which he took to the supervisor and also offered to let him know each time someone bitched about another member of the group so they could be dealt with instantly. This would eventually lead to a decrease in the bitching, surely? It was half my idea.
Anyway the supervisor laughed in DH's face and then told the rest of the group what DH had suggested to which they all burst out laughing at him. IMO this was done specifically to single DH out which makes the supervisor just as bad, surely?? Since then DH has been quite isolated from the rest of the team and has not been invited to the latest christmas get together. He's becomming quite stressed about it and doesn't know how to deal with it, he can't just walk out as there are no jobs to go to.

AIBU to want DH to take this further?

Custardo is right, the boss behaved inappropriately and clearly isn't professional. I'd put my bottom dollar on the fact that this is why there is bitching and moaning in the first place; because the team isn't managed well.

You must feel very sad that he is suffering through this; I've made my comments previously about the friendship group idea so won't go into that again.

oh come on, the boss probably thought the OPs husband was joking... because if a grown man came to me and suggested friendship groups and offering to grass up the others if they were gossiping or larking around.. I really could not take it seriously and would assume they were taking the piss too...

The suggestion was terrible - why would he have the right to choose what is a bitchy comment and run to the boss with it?

However, the boss should not have told everyone either.

Can you elaborate on the bullying aspect - bitching in itself is not bullying so there must be more to this. Post this in employment issues with more detail on the bullying

It's work - he just needs to keep his head down and get on with his work. He doesn't need to be friends with these people. It's not like they sound like people that he would want to be friends with anyway

Hopefully this will pass and they will 'move on'. Your dhs boss was thoroughly unprofessional and perhaps is being a bully.
Are you and your dh quite young? He made a mistake which he clearly won't do again. It is a shame he doesn't have a decent boss who could have explained idea inappropriate without being an unprofessional arse and telling everyone.

Sorry but what is this 'friendship group' thing?

Is it something that happens in schools, sort of like this?

Whatever your husband does to fix the situation, fgs make sure he doesn't mention to anyone at work that the whole thing was his wife's idea. He'll just get teased even worse.

If so, then for your DH. Work politics just don't work like that, social engineering type rules will generally get you laughed out of the office and 'supervisor' is in no way analogous to 'teacher'