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to not want to drive with the baby?

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jan2011 · 29/11/2011 20:36

i had my baby a couple of months ago. before that i was not a very good driver, only got my test last year, have only ever driven locally and never in rush hour etc. i have health problems which mean my concentration is sometimes not the best and if people are talking or the radio is on i just cannot concentrate fully and am very nervous about driving anyone anywhere...i am much better on my own.
since having the baby i have only taken her to the doctors up the road... my friend lives near here and i think she is wondering why i haven't offered to take her and her newborn out, instead just arranging to meet her at her house - or she can come to mine meaning we both walk. i do want to be able to drive with the baby but i just don't feel confident, and don't want to take the risk with my and another person's baby its just not worth it. if your friend (and you didn't know she had any health issue) told you she wasn't very confident in the car and didn't drive a lot, and didn't want to take the risk with the babies, does this sound reasonable or does it just sound stupid? i feel stupid.

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mumblechum1 · 29/11/2011 21:55

ADHD would be something I'd expect to be declared tbh, Attention Deficit being a Bad Thing when you're driving Grin

bonnieslilsister · 29/11/2011 22:21

I know Sirzy but a baby crying might be much more distracting than other things out of the car....

jan2011 · 30/11/2011 08:26

thanks for the encouraging responses. my medical issues do not limit my ability to drive in the times that i am feeling well...so that issue aside... i feel that in time, i will gain confidence and one day be able to drive more places etc, for now i am quite content just driving local andnot in rush hour and keeping to my comfort zone, maybe practicing a bit more at times when i feel like it. its good to hear of others who were nervous too and who are now doing much better with the driving, it gives me hope too. i don't think i need to stay off the road because of it. yes ill not be driving with baby for a good while, wasn't intending on it.
i just assumed my friend would want me to take her places as im the one with the car and we have bad weather and the only place we can really go without getting a bus is each others houses but i have explained this to her, i will in more detail when i see her and hope she understands

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jan2011 · 30/11/2011 08:28

yes ill check with DVLA

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