To think a midwife shouldn't say to a woman in the middle of labour...

[Roseflower]

..."So you'll be going on a crash diet once the baby is out then?"

Said while Im lying naked, in pain and feeling completly degraded in front of room full of people as it without this comment?

I gave birth to my daughter 6 weeks ago, and aside from actually meeting my dd I feel really sad this comment from the midwife is my overiding memory of dd2 birth.

Now, I fully admit I did pile on a lot of weight in this pregnancy and yes, I do need to lose it, but really- does this need to mentioned in the middle of labour? When Im in pain and feeling very vunreable and literally exposed?

And aren't crash diets really bad news anyway?

Am AIBU to feel upset at this comment?

If it's true I need to lose weight then should accept she is only pointing out the obvious?

I was really hoping for a postive birth experience this time round and I feel quite upset the midwife needed to say this tbh

Sorry MyChild Excellent name btw!

She doesn't deserve your time thinking about it but I'm not surprised you are upset - I definitely would be :( The comment was totally inappropriate and I do think it would be reasonable to make a complaint. She needs to be prevented from making insensitive comments to more women in the future!

Congratulations on your DD.

What a complete bitch!!! I would make a formal complaint about such a nasty and unnecessary comment so that no one else suffers this. Every pregnant woman carries extra weight, it's necessary. Most do have to diet to get rid of it. Try not to take it to heart, she should apologise to you. What does DH think?

I was standing in as a birth partner for a good friend and the midwife told my friend she was being silly and childish because she was screaming in pain (It was her first child and she was only 18).

After putting the ignorant cow right she acted a little more professionally.

Her apology was that she was tired as if that was a decent excuse.

OP -. Just . Poor you...

Roseflower: we're ok thanks. She's 14 months now and amazing and wondeful and cheeky and funny and exhausting :) love her to pieces but the meeting with the hospital definitely made me feel better.

Remember ladies, you can ask to swap to another midwife during labour if the one you've got is making you uncomfortable or unhappy, they switch cases if someone else is available.

That's unprofessional of her, I would complain.

Yes and just to add to snuff's point you can also request in advance (say you had another baby) that you don't want a certain midwife. I did it in my first pregnancy because one midwife asked if I was 'sure' my pregnancy was planned and told me I should have a good think because pregnancy didn't suit me. (I had hyperemesis and was 18 weeks with a uti and spotting and was making a fuss by bringing any of this to her attention)

you should have said to her " AND YOU NEED TO LOOSE YOUR ATTITUDE AND BAD MANORS..". So sorry to hear that. Labour is already difficult but beautiful thing to go through and it's so intimate ...o dear. My midwife was talking about her new puppy when i was in the middle of strangling my DP cause of contractions and actually it did help a bit..she was funny...