to think that thanking your own organic juice to give to your child at a party because you disapprove of the squash provided by the hosts us just rude?

[OhBuggerandArse]

Obviously I don't think I'm being unreasonable and would really just like you all to join me in my disgruntled ire. But go on, give it a shot at putting the other side of the story. No behavioural issues involved, if anyone was wondering whether that might be a possible tactic.

:o at there not being water available. This is in the UK right?

original poster - I don't know a single consultant gasterenterologist who would agree with silken ladders point of view, thae fact that it concerns basic principles in the A level biology specification makes it even more dubious.

It is extremely precious and rude unless the child has health issues. No wonder some kids are so ungrateful and spoiled if this is how they see parents their behave.

I think it is a much more important lesson to teach children to appreciate and be thankful for what they are given. A party is a one off.

It is rude. I wouldn't invite that child again until they were old enough to come without their parents. I think parties are best left until the kids are old enough to come without parents.

Okay, which is ruder in a soft play party situation?

1. Child says, 'I don't like squash. Do you have any juice?' or

1. The parents to drop child off with sports bottle saying, 'I'm so sorry, he's a fussy bugger, I've brought him some juice because he doesn't like squash.'

I really don't think I'd be offended by 2 but I would think 1 was annoying and I would feel that I should get the child something else to drink and that would be a hassle (even if it were only water). If I had a drink, I could just shove that in front of them

Classic thread .At ddi s recent party my homemade cake with organic butter , free range eggs etc. Was rejected by 2 out of the 6 guests .As dairy sends them mad !! They were provided with shop bought full of chemical s but at least no dairy cakes.Mental IMo but.live and.let live, you can't please all the people all the time.

I don't give my kids squash - even the full sugar version contains sweeteners, colourings, preservatives etc - it's just cheap, nasty rubbish. Don't see why people think squash is ok and think fizzy drinks are evil - read the ingedients label the difference may just be a little bit of carbon monoxide.
I don't object when they get offered squash, but I am judging.

Fucking hell you're making it out to be that we want our children pumped with opium. It's water, what's the problem? Surely your little darlings are equally as "fussy" for drinking multicoloured squashes?

This is all getting a bit conceptual. There was nothing to suggest that the child would have any problem at all with drinking squash, it was the mum who whisked it away and whipped out the organic whatsit.

I wouldn't be offended if it was because he was a fussy bugger ,I have one of them myself

I would be offended if it was because they thought the drinks I had provided were shite

cheeseandmarmite I'm afraid I'm guilty of taking my own teabags to other people's houses. I can't tolerate caffeine and that means no caffeine, not "decaffeinated" which is not caffeine free.
I find that my friends are very tolerant of this, many of them now keep caffeine free tea for me and the rest don't think it is remotely rude of me to ask to use my own bags. I've never had anyone look askance at me for asking.
BTW, even though I am caffeine intolerant, I keep "normal" tea and coffee for guests and wouldn't dream of making them drink my drinks unless they wanted to.
WRT juice, I don't drink squash, but DCs do. I tend to just water down pure juices.
I think it depends on the mum's motivation in the case of the party, as others have said.

I would also take the piss after they had gone

Oh well in that case OhBugger, that's ridiculous. Classic Sunday thread though - good job :o

I think the mother was il-informed .If the kids were running around getting hot. Then dilute squash would be amuch better option than diluted fruit juice not matter how organic.

Sorry undiluted fruit juice

If I invited someone round for tea and they said they didn't like tea I would be a bit that they had come round for tea. If I didn't have anything else in then they would have to drink water. I'm sure they wouldn't die. If they pulled out a flask of organic Camomile I would piss myself.
I'm not suggesting that people should force squash down kids who actually don't like it but in my experience it's the parents who generally don't like it - not the kids.

Two of my closest friends don't drink tea or coffee Roman but I still invite them round for tea. They just have cake without the tea :o

Roman, are we not responsible for our children and their diets? If we didn't put our feet down the majority if children would live on chocolate and ice cream.

RomanChristingle -guess I'm not coming round to yours for tea then .

This reminds me of one of my friends who was obsessed with the idea that other parents would whisk her ds off to McDonald's the minute she turned her back if she left him with anyone else. Literally, completely obsessed with keeping out of McDonalds. Her objections were on 'health and political grounds' The thing was:

a) None of us actually took our dc to McDonald's
b) She let him eat every other junk food going including KFC
c) He is now 11 and his favourite food is...you guessed it (she always tells everyone his favourite take out food is Wagamama's and he contradicts her!)

And yes it is relevant!

I don't think you can compare occassional squash at a party to living on chocolate and ice cream. I think it's very sad that some kids never get to have treat food - even on special occassions.
My kids have very healthy diets - generally unsweetened cereal or toast with fruit for breakfast, sandwiches with veg sticks, dip and fruit for lunch and a homecooked healthy evening meal. They only ever snack on fruit. However at a party they can fill their plates with whatever crap they like - it's a treat.

carabos It wouldn't offend me in the least if you brought your own tea bags. MIL only drinks Barleycup and brings it with her when she comes to stay. It saves me going to the health food shop to get some.

I don't think the comparison with inviting someone round for tea stands up tbh. Unless you invite someone round with their mum and their mum snatches the tea from their hands and insists they drink the organic stuff they have in their bag.

Great thread.

I don't buy squash (well, I can't cause they don't sell it here) but would not object to my DC having squash at a party.

It is a party, fgs, not a party political conference where the children have to be worthy and sensible.

Those who would not allow their children "shit food" at a party - do you never have a slice of cake? Or a glass of wine?

My little darlings dont have squash very often and will drink water happily.

I buy fruit juice and they will have that with some water with their meals sometimes.

So not fussy at all.

Where do you get multicoloured squash from? It sounds fun.