to think that thanking your own organic juice to give to your child at a party because you disapprove of the squash provided by the hosts us just rude?

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Obviously I don't think I'm being unreasonable and would really just like you all to join me in my disgruntled ire. But go on, give it a shot at putting the other side of the story. No behavioural issues involved, if anyone was wondering whether that might be a possible tactic.

(and my reasons for hating squash are very much related to the fact that DH himself never, ever drinks water, only squash, which is awfully unhealthy and expensive to boot, and so unnecessary when he's just draining it down in a few big gulps anyway)

If it was 'Oh no sweetums, we don't drink that nasty nasty squash, do we dear? Do you remember why we don't? That's right darling, it's full of dreadful things which will lead to you not going to Oxbridge. Only mothers of ordinary children let them drink that!'

Then YANBU.

If she just quietly gave the child a carton of the stuff, YABU.

Was about to put the same sort of thing as Psammead, only I wouldn't have put it so well

But yes, depends on the way in which it's done.

no, i don't think it's rude actually.

i don't let my kids have anything with artificial sweetners in if I can possibly help it.
cannot stand when you go to a party and all that's available is cheap synthetic chemical-laden "fruit" drinks. vile.

so yes, i would take my own drinks if I suspected tht was all that would be available. or i'd ask for water instead.

My feeling is that generous communality should always trump preferences. Principles, particularly religious ones, are a different matter. But if you make a religious principle out of squash I will almost certainly think you are a bit weird and Wrong.

Chaos makes an important point about the jutty, I think.

Jeeeeze... a bit of squash to add some flavour to water really is not going to do anyone any harm at all.

I dont drink water, I never have, because it is so bloody boring and has no taste. I still have all my own teeth, and no health problems.

What on earth does anyone think a glass of weak diluted squash is going to really do??

If allergies or dc will refuse anything else (4yo DN will only drink water, or occasionally hot choc when we take him camping so squash would be wasted on him) then i'd think it ok

However, it's abominably rude not to have a quiet word with the hosts beforehand to say "Do you mind" and explain the behaviour.

Wading in and shouting saying "Little Ptolemy will only have Organic and Fairtrade from ", while said Ptolemy snatches the nearest monounsatured processed crap from another child, is obnoxious and distasteful

I dont think its terrible. Wilf is limited as to what he can drink due to his intollerance to additives. He can only drink hi juice and 7-up. I would def take his own drink to a party!!

I think it's incredibly rude.

squeakytoy the harm that weak squash can do is that in our case Wilf will get very high and be unable to control his behaviour! It takes several hours (which are not pleasent) for him to calm down!!

YANBU. She sounds pfb and slightly unhinged. As are people who think that a couple of cups of artificially sweetened squash at a party is going to do their child any harm whatsoever imo. I take it biscuits and cake are banned too as they often contain artificial sweeteners as well as sugar?

Was coming on to say exactly what Psammead said. Couldn't have put it any better if I'd tried!

Lottie, I did say in my post before that, that medical reasons were an exception. :)

Just out of interest Lottie has your sons intolerance been diagnosed? It's just that I know a lot of people who say sugar/sweeteners/e numbers/processed food send their kids loopy yet have never seen any evidence of it myself when they have those things.

Lottie, I'm pretty sure you'd have the courtesy to have a quiet word with your host about Wilf's needs. You wouldn't plonk a bottle of 7up on the table in front of him and say "Here you are Wilf, don't drink the crap the hosts have provided"

I would be courteous yes!! No he hasnt been diagnosed. I can just tell....The time he ate a whole tube of smarties many moons ago still remains fresh in my memory!!

squeakytoy Sorry, i only read your second post. Not the first one!

Maybe some parents take their own, homemade, organic, courgette and beetroot cake too

Water is not a good option at a party, it doesn't hydrate hot sweaty children, just makes them wee more, and depending on age, make accidents more likely

water doesn't hydrate?

Who would serve only water at a party? It's supposed to be a treat fgs!