to think that thanking your own organic juice to give to your child at a party because you disapprove of the squash provided by the hosts us just rude?

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Obviously I don't think I'm being unreasonable and would really just like you all to join me in my disgruntled ire. But go on, give it a shot at putting the other side of the story. No behavioural issues involved, if anyone was wondering whether that might be a possible tactic.

Christine!

Ok, ok, over the top. But it really did wind me up!

Can I just check something? When we're talking about squash, we mean stuff like Ribena, right? I am just thinking from some of the posts on this thread the UK must have invented a new type of squash that contains crack cocaine?

I can honestly say I don't think I've been more shocked by a MN thread. I don't understand how grown women can get so upset about something so innocuous.

Yes nicey i do. For a reason....

Organic juice is so 2006......

I can honestly say I don't think I've been more shocked by a MN thread. I don't understand how grown women can get so upset about something so innocuous.

You never saw the ones about the Jam Samwidge or the Whole Grape :o

:o That was a brilliant bit of hyperbole OhBugger

This reminds me of DS2s birthday party where one of the mums asked if any of the food would be organic. I just sort of noncommitally said that I hadn't been shopping yet but it might be if it had a reduced sticker on it. The mum then asked if I could keep some of the organic food aside for her DS as that's all he's allowed. I then ended up buying mostly organic stuff because I felt sorry for the poor little mite who would otherwise just have had cherry tomatoes and hummus.

OP YANBU. It's the insinuation that the particular foodstuff is fine for everyone else's kids, but instantly poisonous to their special little angel.

Whatme I did though, and I'm still more shocked than that .

Maybe I'm just too much of a child of the 70's but back then parties didn't mean just squash- we got (whispers) coke and lemonade, and party rings with lurid coloured icing, and sausage rolls of dubious origin..........and I'm still here, have all my teeth and have a BMI of 22.

I just cant understand the hoo-hah

And how depressing that you would teach your children to prioritise anything other than courtesy and kindness at somebody else's special occasion.

Banker Training 101.....

Maybe I'm just too much of a child of the 70's but back then parties didn't mean just squash- we got (whispers) coke and lemonade, and party rings with lurid coloured icing, and sausage rolls of dubious origin..........and I'm still here, have all my teeth and have a BMI of 22

I too am a 70's child, and we also had (whispers) coke and party rings, and even ....toffee apples! Think of the tooth risk we faced!

Organic in those days meant the mould on yesterdays jam samwidges!

They bred us tough :o

YABU, it's not rude. personal preferences and all that.
I hate cheap nasty squash full of chemicals and marketed as 'healthy' because it has no sugar. It tastes vile.
I wouldn't stop my kids having it at a party, though - a glass of it won't kill them.

Banker Training 101.....

Too right. Maybe I should invite the Occupy The London Stock Exchange people to the next party, they could monitor all PFB tendencies and chant at miscreants.

OP, have you stated that you were serving cheap nasty squash marketed as "healthy" and tasting vile? Is this your own taste in squash?

hmmmm my son cant have some squash,it gives him migraines so we have to be really careful now so it could be they suffers something like that or just a case of being a overbearing parent but if they want to bring thier own then more for the others to drink ;)

It's about knowing your audience too- in many parts of the country organic food and healthy food would be a given, and if that's your circle then you can all enjoy it. If it's not, I'd suggest you change circles to one which suits you more rather than inconviencing others with your wannabe wandworth mummy tendancies.

'and while little Tarquin's mum made sure her precious little boy didn't have any nasty chemical filled liquid to drink, Tarquin took himself under the table with a large bowl of Smarties and Skips....'

'and while little Tarquin's mum made sure her precious little boy didn't have any nasty chemical filled liquid to drink, Tarquin took himself under the table with a large bowl of Smarties and Skips....'

I am sure many Mummees would be horrified to know that Perfect Peter is a satire :)

If she just quietly gave her DC it then so be it. If she gave a lecture on the evils of squash too then rude rude rude.

YANBU - childrens' parties are supposed to be dens of e-numbers, excess sugar and other illicit vices. When he/she is 18 she will consuming alcohol and having sex with unsavoury people - a little orange squash is tame in comparison.

I wouldn't think it rude though. Just a little odd.

Im just wondering what is so evil about squash it isnt poison It really isnt , I have had my children at parties where they had kwenchy kups , its not even real juice and they are alive and well , and how much squash will a child drink at a party, All this hooha baffles me yes 70s child with cola and lemonade

I never banned anything with my now teens , everything in moderation imo isnt going to damage children and send them into overdrive , some mums just need to chill out

And how depressing that you would teach your children to prioritise anything other than courtesy and kindness at somebody else's special occasion.

what I teach my children to prioritise at a social occasion (and at other times too, naturally) is their own health and well being - although this can always be done with good grace.

and squash would not cut the mustard for me, I am afraid.

both girls are sent to parties with their own food (for allergy reasons; as I am not there to police every label, and I do not expect any other parent to do so either, their lunchboxes include crisps, sandwiches, cake, even sweets, so that they can enjoy party food along with their friends, without having to get someone to check every single label). I also send drinks, as often what is on offer is not suitable for them.

dd1 always has a drink with her - she can only drink from a sports bottle for a start (SN), and cannot have:

apple
orange (or any citrus)
or any colours/flavours/preservatives. and yes, I do know how pfb that makes me sound. but there you go. woe betide any parent who raises their eyebrows and thinks "what FrothingBeserker doesn't know won't hurt her" and slips dd1 squash/capri-sun/fizzy drinks - she loses continence when she drinks them (yes, tested more than once when she was younger), and so apart from the hassle of having to clear up several wee accidents over the course of a party, the embarrassment and social exclusion for her if it were to happen would be enormous (she is in Y3)

she also, due to SN, will not drink water - and yes, she would dehydrate rather than drink water (not over the course of an afternoon of course, but if she gets over-thirsty it can be hard to get her to drink again, which then snowballs somewhat. at her worst, she has refused all liquids to the point of hospitalisation).

so in short, a whole lot of damage could be done by offering her squash/fizzy/water and thinking that I am overly pfb for sending organic juice with her (not that her sports bottle is labelled "ONLY THE FINEST ORGANIC JUICE" )

and no, I don't always explain in full to the party hosts. I do mention the allergies in passing, and say I will send food along to save the hassle of working out suitable foods. but tbh, too many faces when I have tried to explain why dd1 cannot have the squash either, and given her age now, it is not fair to dd1 to have me explaining to all and sundry that she wets herself if given other (commonly served) drinks.

but it would be useful if other parents did not always assume I was a raving mad lentil-weaver type who cannot bear her children to have anything other than handcrafted organic produce.

I used to have to provide juice for ds - If he has sweetners he turns into demon boy, extremely hyperactive!! So it was either provide our own or have him ruin the party/get together/ lunch with friends. We didn't use organic though, just normal full sugar squash.

Yanbu at all. Precious much? Unless there is an actual, literal, allergy to squash then it's pathetic and rude to bring your own.
MackerelOfFact I am reeling at the rudeness of organic mother!
Buut then I know somebody in real life who wouldn't let pfb ds have a lick of icecream until he was 3. For some reason I cannot get over that .

FrothingBerserker, thank you for spelling that out in such great detail - but we have all, I think, agreed that genuine medical issues are different. And in this case no SN, allergies or anything other than parental (not the child's) preference are involved.

seeker- i didnt mean everyone had to have squash! if the child had asked for water or something else, i'd have happily provided it for them. but it was the fact that a parent couldnt be bothered to turn up to police their bizarre pfb-ishness! and inclusiveness was the justification given by the staff but that clearly isnt its true meaning.