to just cut off contact in shame

[takingbackmonday]

Last night I truly disgraced myself. I took a few painkillers and antihistamines earlier in the day and ended up so drunk I could barely walk. Lost phone, abused friends, people now hate me and I am sitting at home crying with shame.

WIBU to just disappear from these people's lives forever now I have apologised? I hate myself.

Called someone a c*nt

It wasn't this judgy so called friend by any chance? If it was, maybe his attitude inspired you. He is being rather judgy, mean and acting more than a little superior. You also only have his account of how anyone else felt about it, you may well find out that his view is skewed.

Even if you don't have the traditional hangover symptoms, you will be feeling worse because of the drink last night. Shower, food sort out the practical stuff with your phone and get out of the house for a bit. Then forgive yourself. This will pass.

I've been like that without alcohol or medication, just getting a bit over-excited I still have friends, bless them.

How absolutely certain are you that you were that bad and how many of your friends are angry about it, though? Have you heard from anyone other than Mr High-and-mighty?

I used to do pretty much the same thing every Friday in my youth, and believe it or not, my true friends just ignored it, forgave me and are still friends to this day - knowing that they too acted like idiots under the influence on occasion.

The arseholes who took pleasure in recounting to me all the stupid things I had done and delighted in watching me humilated, I'm no longer in contact with and I don't miss them.

This is an opportunity to reassess which people are actually friends, and which are mean spirited ignorant cocks.

I hope you feel better soon.

I came on here again to share stories because I know there have been times I've acted like a prat and had the same feelings you have now, where you are so ashamed, but I can't actually remember the events that led to that feeling! Goes to show it feels bad at the time but it probably nothing!

Hmm is this a ruse to get us all to fess up? I've done lots of things when drunk but I don't get drunk much now and tbh am over friendly when I do. I don't dole out bjs mind you, just love 'em all

Poor you :-( I really feel for you, and I'm like you - I pull these things completely out of proportion. My entire late teens/early/mid twenties period is littered with one humiliating night after another. Also like you I have had a few nights where I have been an unpleasant drunk and they are particularly mortifying to wake up to. Particularly when you look at your sent box on your phone. :-(
Don't know about you, obviously, but when I was stressed/anxious/down about something, this would make me more likely to be nasty when drunk.

Best thing to do (IMO) is hide yourself away for a couple of days, then you'll be sick of churning it over in your mind and realise it's NOT the worst thing ever. Think of people who have got in their cars hammered and killed people!

Hope you feel better soon xxx

I could be an awful, awful person when I was younger and bevvied up, and no antihistamines were involved

Your 'friend' isn't very friendly is he?

You need people around who you can trust to take care of you and know you're not like that, instead of someone lecturing on the eviiils of drink.

I'd give him more of the same, making sure he knew I was sober saying it this time!

Codeine and piriton plus alcohol - potent mix

I mixed piriton with wine when I had a reaction to tuna. My neighbour started chatting me up at a street party. I was too giddy to move seats but thankfully another neighbour came to the rescue. DH was at home having reacted more to the tuna (histamine poisoning)

I would imagine that most people who drink alcohol will, at some time or another, have overindulged and made an arse of themselves. I've done it more than once and I find that an apology to everyone concerned, no attempt to explain away the behaviour as anything other than stupid drunkeness and the ability to laugh at yourself is the way to go.
Did you assault or murder someone? Did you perform a sexual act in public on someone who is in a relationship with someone else? Did you vomit on your shoes or in your handbag in public? Did you dance naked on a bar? Did you pee in the street? If not, your transgressions are forgivable!!

I have never been an abusive or offensive drunk.
Just friendly.
Very, very friendly.

OP I dont drink as a general rule and when I do I am normally a very placid, sleepy drunk...

Except once when I was on antibiotics and stupidly drank thinking as I finished the course on the morning it would be fine. 5 Vodka and cokes (singles mind, not even doubles) I was absolutely hammered!

Nobody had ever seen me like that as normally although I dont drink often, when I do drink I can drink as much as I like and never get past the tipsy yawny stage.

I was rude. I was obnoxious. I danced like a crazy woman (i dont normally dance) Fell over, accused a bouncer of pushing me over, fell into a taxi, couldnt tell him where I lived remembered eventually. Fell in the house and slept on the hall floor with the dog.

The next morning I phoned my friend to see how Id got home she was very short with me... I bit the bullet and asked what Id done and apparently I had told her her husband was a knob and she could do so much better then tried to get her tapped up with a local idiot! Among a load of other things that where so out of character. I apologised profusely for a while then thought oh well, i can only apologise. Bit later in the day she text me calling me a "muppet" and asking if my head was ok before normal services where resumed.

IT may feel like the end of the world, but it isnt. Everyone has been there at some point. I learnt not to do it again :D

Imagine if you got so drunk you shagged Peter Andre. Calling someone a cunt doesn't seem so bad now does it?

PA was born in 1973, so I'm sure I never made that mistake.

at disco.

I'm feeling a bit queasy now

No, imagine being so drunk you shagged Jeremy Clarkson. That would be bad. That would be worth crawling under a rock in shame. Everything else is fine!

I've just come back to this thread.

I now have an image of Peter Andre burned in my brain I never, ever want to have again...

I think your mates sound a bit boring and judgey, tbh.

At least you didn't shit in anyone's kitchen bin, one of DD's oldest friends did this at her shared house on her 21st birthday, he has yet to live it down but he was eventually forgiven , after scrubbing the kitchen, buying a new bin and buying a new throw for the sofa!

your friend sounds judgey and a bit mean. i've carried a drunk and vomiting friend home, while she hurled abuse at me. didn't mention it the next day, as there really wasn't any point. she was sorry and v embarrassed, and not like i could leave her in that situation now was it?

we've all done it. my speciality is waking up and having the memories of the night come back to me in little bits, so i spend the whole day cringing in embarrassment...

I've behaved like this a few times. For me, it's drinking when I'm really tired that sends me loopy. Your friend sounds quite horrible, frankly! I'm not surprised you're embarrassed, I'm frequently mortified by my drunken behaviour, but really your friends shouldn't hold it against you. Not unless it's a weekly occurrence, anyway!

A few stories for you to make you feel better:

*My friend, at a house party, got so drunk they pissed in the laundry basket.
*I, after consuming three bottles of red wine, made DP's nose bleed because his friend told me too. I then was dragged walked home wailing so loudly that it bounced off the walls of the high street.
*After drinking a bottle of red wine and half a litre of vodka (whilst in halls at uni) ended up outside the halls and then lost my key to the inner door. So I went in the outside door and banged on the door to our little flat until someone let me in. It wasn't until about a month afterwards that someone pointed out I had been sick in my hand whilst banging ont he door and let it drop to the floor. I have no memory of this.
*My friend held a small get together at her house to introduce as all to her new boyfriend. We all got there for about 6pm and then at 9ish, some of our male friends came to join us after watching match. One of them was so drunk that he walked into the living room door frame and then, because he was an angry drunk then, shouted at my friend for having the door in the wrong place. And then called her new boyfriend "an outrageous cunt." It wasn't nice at the time, but I have just giggled to myself whilst typing it out.

There are many, many more. Please stop hating yourself - how old are you OP? These things happen, you feel shit and then you move on. If they are decent friends and you didn't break anyones legs then it will go down in history as 'that time x did this' and everyone will laugh, apart from perhaps you.

Look on this as an opportunity to find out who your real friends are. Apologise profusely to anyone you've upset. Those who don't call you a twat and then move on aren't worth bothering with. We've all acted like arses when we're drunk, and the fact that you're so mortified proves that it's not a regular thing for you. No real friend is going to hold that against you for long.

The no-hangover thing, though . . . do you have a foolproof system? Or are you just lucky? Asking on behalf of a friend, you understand . . .

There ARE people who've never done it because if we all do it once, I've done it on behalf of a lot of other people.

Your mate sounds like he's projecting his embarrassment at his own drunken displays onto you.

A couple more of those nurofen and a night in front of shit telly will sort you right out, love.