To declare war on all those who are judgy-pants-about-others-parenting-and-I-believe-I -could-do-it-better

[professorsnape]

A work mate/acquaintance came to visit today and commented on the fact I gave my DD, 4, diluted blackcurrant with her dinner and not water and that I let her have 2 chocolate biscuits for dessert.
(Just for the record, DC eat lots of fruit and home cooked meals, so shoot me if I give treats too)

The other day, MIL was telling me a story on phone of how her niece "cuts up her daughter's meat at dinner for" (said daughter is 12.)

So what??!!!! Are these crimes against humanity!!!

I'll be damned if I'll be judged on my entire parenting over a few perceived weaknesses.

Everyone knows it all and is full of opinions about everyone else's parenting!!!!

Rant over

Honey diuluted backcurrent is really bad for her teeth, I gave it to my kids, their teeth rotted one had five taken out at aged 5.

YANBU. People really need to mind their own business and stop minding what everyone else is doing or saying.

This is such a non subject it really makes me laugh

YANBU

Who gives a shiny shit what other people feed their kids?

lol @ fabbychic, honey!

I didn't give my pfb any chocolate for the first year of her life and my brother bought her a chocolate pudding and fed it to her without my knowledge. I was cross as the time but I got over it the day I gave his pfb a chip, with gravy, from the paper it was served in.

Fabby...you can also just have shit teeth unfortunately. A lot of it is hereditary.

Fabby get some bloody perspective!!

Thankfully I just give my dc's blackcurrant diluted with water and not diluted with honey, so they should be ok...

Fabby, did you not brush their teeth from time to time?!

Parenting is a judgy business. Just look at the arguments on breastfeeding, baby-led weaning, night sleeping and so on. Thing is, everyone parents differently but the very fact that we are members of Mumsnet means that we do actually give a shit about our kids. So when posters are berated by other posters for doing what they think is right, it really gets my goat.

Thing is, there are always different ideas about what is right and wrong. 50 years ago it was fine to put a bit of whisky in their milk to help with teething. Just 8 years ago it was recommended to wean after 3 months. Just think what the new ideas will be in another 5,10,15 years.

We all do our best and we don't deserve to be criticised for that. So professorsnape, do what you think is right and as long as you remain educated about what is and isn't good for them then you won't go so far wrong.

OP - doesn't matter what your parenting is, it will be judged. Tis The Rule of Life. Or something

I agree though, can get a bit annoying, and 2 chocolate biscuits is hardly the crime of the century (unless they're shit biscuits that taste like crap, in which case YABU)

scoundrel just reminded me, when i nephew was 4 months i gave him a whole jar of baby chocolate pudding. i then found out that he wasn't even weaned then but he did really enjoy it

op - i don't get it either but thinking about it i'm the one being judged behind my back

my mum knows someone who gave their DCs FISH FINGERS on Christmas day ffs

My two sometimes drink Dr Pepper.

My DS once put salt on his dinner

blackoutthesun - have you been allowed near him since?? OOoops

Judging is part of our nature - no point in worrying about it simply tell them to STFU

cutting up food for an nt 12 yo is just wrong

blackout that's had me in stitches.

Dd accidentally weaned herself on a hijacked piece of pizza at a birthday party, I let her get on with it.

My friend then insisted on having her. I later found out she stole her so she could feed her the icing of the birthday cake

Obviously this neglect has left her nearly two years old 9 stone and toothless.

yes i'm allowed near him

dn1 is now known as my trial run

I would be surprised that a 12 year old has their meat cut for them. I am curious as to what the comment was? I think some people can get offended in an empty room.

YABU to declare war. I do care what DC eat, I donlt think it makes me judgy.. Biscuits and squash are no big deal though.

I know I get judged on my parenting primarily by my parents/inlaws because I choose to do it so differently to them.

But I am happy with the way I do things. There are times I bend my own rules, and that's fine too.

So people can judge me all they want. I know I'm doing what's right for me and my children and if other people think I'm being "stuck up" or "making a point" or "unnecessary"... well it's bothering them more than it's bothering me so they can suck it up.

I judge people for abusing their kids, feeding them so much shit they are overweight/vitamin deficient and failing to meet their basic needs.

beyond that unless we all fuck up and fuck them up.

I didnt realise how much people judged until I joined MN and NMs

Now I realise that at any given time, in any given place, I am being judged my by someone for something.

Bovvered?

I've got a picture somewhere of DD at about 6 months old eating pizza crust she was given by DS "because she looked hungry"!
Both of my DC's refused the jar of chocolate pudding when offered so of course I had to finish it myself...
I bet the 12 year old just loves having her food cut up for her!!
Bugger everyone elses opinion, we are here to be judged, might as well let them get on with it!!

Even on this thread it's judgey though. Who cares that this 12 year old wants her meat cut up? If she wants it cut and her parent is happy to do it then what business is it of anyone else?

I'm not this child's parent by the way

blackout's abuse had me snorting
DD1 was fed according to latest texts on the subject
DD3 ...I draw the line at coca cola but everything else goes

texts means books for all you young 'uns