To declare war on all those who are judgy-pants-about-others-parenting-and-I-believe-I -could-do-it-better

[professorsnape]

A work mate/acquaintance came to visit today and commented on the fact I gave my DD, 4, diluted blackcurrant with her dinner and not water and that I let her have 2 chocolate biscuits for dessert.
(Just for the record, DC eat lots of fruit and home cooked meals, so shoot me if I give treats too)

The other day, MIL was telling me a story on phone of how her niece "cuts up her daughter's meat at dinner for" (said daughter is 12.)

So what??!!!! Are these crimes against humanity!!!

I'll be damned if I'll be judged on my entire parenting over a few perceived weaknesses.

Everyone knows it all and is full of opinions about everyone else's parenting!!!!

Rant over

Hi all :)

Ok, feeling less ranty now, after nice dinner and . Bit of a ceasefire Been entertained by the reponses though:)

Some were asking for context to 'cutting meat' comment by MIL - in fact, said niece is a very bad eater/only wants to eat pasta, so maybe her mother felt it was the only way to get her to eat it!

My point was thus:
Who appointed MIL/any judgy pants the expert as I really believe that most mothers know and do what's best for their children. I'm almost killed worrying sometimes about the actions/decisions I make with my kids

And maybe (ok, at the risk of sounding like 'Carrie Bradshaw') maybe I was judging myself a bit for the blackcurrant/biscuits thing. We also have 16 month old identical twin boys so we've been in 'whatever goes' survival mode parenting style.

My new years resolution is to work at some of the 'weaknesses' methinks...

On a final note - I do probably in my head, judge other parents (like other day, when I visited a friend, she told her 8 year old son who was asking over dinner if two men can get married, she said that it was 'wrong'! I remember being slightly horrified at her approach) but I said nothing and bit my lip.

So more stiff upper lip/lip biting needed as parents don't want to hear the negatives!!

They can go on MN for a good rant

do you want to judge me? We went to a party when DD was about 7 months old. Non crawling, The birthday girl had a stack of cupcakes with a few inches of icing on top that her dad had made. After having 2 or 3 (me and DS, not DD, she was far too young) and saying how lovely they were (they were) they gave us some in a tupperware box to go home. We went back in their lounge and I put the box with my bag at the other end of the sofa. Bear in mind DD could not crawl. Well we were talking and I realised after a minute or so that DD was not immediately there. We found her, down the other end of the sofa, having got the tupperware lid off (something I struggle with), face down in the cupcakes :o She was particularly enjoying a one with bright yellow icing :o

at "face down in the cupcakes".