To be annoyed by this?

[Kayzr]

I've just popped to the shop as we needed some milk. I got a few other bits too including a piece of Stilton and a fancy bottle of whisky for my Dads Xmas present.

I will add here that I am 9 weeks pregnant.

I got to the till and the woman put everything through including the whisky but refused to sell me the Stilton as I'm pregnant! But the whisky was fine. I told her that guidelines had changed and that because Stilton is a hard cheese I can eat it. She still refused so I asked for a supervisor to come over.

She called for supervisor and they came over with the store manager too. The lady on the checkout explained what the problem was. I then said about the guidelines changing and also about how I was ok to buy the whisky. Apparently I don't look like a whisky drinker. In the end the supervisor apologised and said I was able to buy the cheese.

AIBU to be a bit annoyed at this? I imagine hormones make it seem more annoying than it probably is.

Also how did she know I was pregnant? This is DC3 but I didn't think I was showing yet.

And what does a whisky drinker look like? My Dad maybe?

Worra loada bollocks

what a knob!

Of course YANBU about the cheese police, but have the guidelines really changed for stilton? That would have to be a very recent change, I have an 8 month old and was told when pregnant that it wasn't allowed.

It is because it is a blue veined cheese, not because of hard or soft, so I think you're wrong about it being ok.

Having said that, the risks are minimal, so it's up to you.

Your only 9 weeks pregnant how the hell does she know, its not like you are waddling about with a big fat beach ball as a tummy . I am pg (30 weeks) and have bought alcohol for presents for people, and prawns, and I look pregnant!

I would have told her not to be so rude, and that you still have some weight to loose . Just because you have fat round your tummy does not make you pregnant.

Zonked. MW and NHS website say that stilton is ok to eat because it is hard and there is less water in it than say Danish blue or dolcelatte.

Buggerlugs where did you look? The NHS say that Stilton is perfectly safe to eat.

I think you missed an opportunity here OP - definitely should have looked her in the eye and flat out denied your pregnancy to see what she would do then. She would either have to say she knew you were pregnant from talking to someone else, in which case you could maintain your stand and say she was misinformed, or she would have to say you looked pregnant - at which point you can act insulted.

I'm not an advocate of random lying, but in cases like this where people should just mind their beeswax, it's justified. What a bloody cheek, to say nothing of the fact that whatever the guidelines about food and drink in pregnancy, it is up to you as an adult whether to take a blind bit of notice folllow them or not.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1218197/Pregnant-woman-forced-lie-buy-cheese-Sainsburys-shopworker-refuses-serve-her.html

If this is a recurrent case then it is actually ridiculous

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1218197/Pregnant-woman-forced-lie-buy-cheese-Sainsburys-shopworker-refuses-serve-her.html

I saw my MW yesterday and prawns are fine she said as long as they are cooked. I am not giving up blue cheese and prawns

The reason people advise against blue/soft cheeses is that generally they are unpasteurized which increases a chance of listeria. Listeria when pregnant is not a good thing

I did have a well meaning lady on the deli counter in Waitrose try to talk me out of Brie once but she succumbed to rational argument--give me the fucking cheese.

oh

And a waitress once informed me that rare steak "wasn't allowed" so I killed her

But I think people do it to be nice not out of malice, and it is a helpful indicator of Daily Mail readers.

Kazr I beg you to go back and ask your MW who the fuck eats raw prawns?

I think Kayzr means properly cooked. Properly cooked shellfish, including prawns, are fine.

And I think the pasteurised thing is a bit of a red herring. Some rind ripened cheeses are pasteurised but they are still not OK. I think the rind ripening piece is the key.

I think it's fair enough for shop staff to say 'Did you realise this is unpasturised/has a skin/has been processed by aliens' or whatever if they are selling an unpackaged product and feel the person buying it could be unaware - even if they are wrong about it being a problem or not. At least then the person buying it has been told what the perceived problem is and ca make an informed decision. It is completely unacceptable to refuse to sell it to them.

Sarah

It is a red herring yes. There are lots of foods that can be linked to listeria so you either ban them all or buy from somewhere reputable.. Some hard cheeses can also be unsuitable.

Oh yes sorry I did mean properly cooked. Also she said to make sure food is piping hot. What does piping hot mean? I've never worked it out.