AIBU or is this teacher being very unprofessional?

[UnprofessionalTeacher]

Have name changed for this incase I get flamed for being so inconsiderate, etc. Can't take a pasting atm. Am not a troll, poos in memorable places, mile for Maude, Cod, etc.

DD is in Yr 1. She's in a class which emcompasses reception, and Yrs 1-2. Obviously a small school, but class is fairly big due to different years.

DD's teacher has a daughter who started at reception in a different primary school in Sept. This primary school only did half days for first month. So every afternoon the teacher's DD would be dropped off at school and spend the afternoon in the classroom with her mum while her mum worked.

Now this other primary school isn't far away and finishes 30 minutes earlier. A friend of the teacher's picks this girl up and drops her off with her mum every day. IE; with my daughter's teacher in the classroom for the last 20-25 minutes of the day. Now according to dd and a couple of older kids there is a fair amount of the last 20 minutes of the day spent with the teacher having her attention focused on her DD, listening to what she did in school, etc.

So one of my friends has written to the headmaster asking if he's aware of what's happening and that parents aren't happy. He's written a letter back saying as far as he's concerned it can carry on. The letter is snotty and states that he would rather have this arrangement and have his staff happy than have them pulling sickies all the time. Direct quote.

I can't believe how unprofessional it is. Its maybe not the worst thing in the world but its 20 minutes a day for the next few years where the teacher isn't focused. Not good enough in my book.

I really don't get some of the attitudes on this thread.

"no other place of work would allow it" so what? this particular place of work obviously allows it, what goes on in other places of work is irrelevant here - surely?

And all the talk of ratios and insurance and a mother having a conversation with her child!

As for what goes on after the children have gone home, well really that's none of anyone else's business, is it?

When I was growing up I went to work with my parents.

My mum worked in a video shop so I got to go and watch videos all day

But my dad worked on a construction sight So I used to get to go and play on bulldosers and in big trucks, play with his tools and I even got to drive his landrover. (and I have been blind since birth). Can you imagine the resulting ibu thread?

Really people need to lighten up a little, IMO.

It isn't usual (I would never ask, as a teacher, bar an emergency) but it must be a very small school -more like a family. They obviously find it acceptable. I would go with it rather than spoil the goodwill and friendliness. Make a fuss and you could 'throw the baby out with the bathwater'.

well said WannBee

Dancergirl, it isn't particularly an issue that it applies to only the staff and not to the families of the children who go to the school. But if it does apply only to staff, then people on this thread shouldn't be making out that it is about community, a family feeling in the school or any other such pleasant thing.

"Now according to dd and a couple of older kids there is a fair amount of the last 20 minutes of the day spent with the teacher having her attention focused on her DD, listening to what she did in school, etc."

So these children are in Yrs 1 and 2 aged 5-7. Is it not possible they are not a little envious of the teacher's DD? Might they be exaggerating the amount of time being spent between the teacher and the DD?

Unless there was proper evidence that the other kids are being neglected/ignored (and not read the thread fully so not sure if anyone has observed the teacher/daughter interaction enough to know that there is) then I would leave well alone.

Many schools offer places for the children of employees - not sure how this is different, really. The real issue is, are the other kids really suffering?

My place of work "allows" it.

I'm the boss so it's up to me.

My dental nurse's 9 year old daugher comes to the surgery straight from her school and waits for her mum in the waiting room. She reads books or does homework and even helps tidy up. She is a lovely girl and I am only too happy for her to be there.