MIL

[BenRoo]

My MIL usually has my DS on a Tuesday,she has her other grandson on a Monday.
The other grandson has tonsillitis. He usually goes to nursery on a Tuesday.
I'm anticipating he'll be there in the morning,although my DH has just asked what's likely to happen and she's said he'll still be going to nursery.
AIBU to be pissed off if he IS there tmrw?
Surely his Mummy should take the day off to look after him...
And I don't want my DS getting poorly!!!!!

I feel for you.

Oh no! Whatever will you do? Everybody knows that free childcare mustn't be compromised at any cost. Arf

YABU... tonsillitus itself is not contagious.. it is the illness that causes the tonsillitus. Your child could just as easly pick up a bug anywhere else..

Thank you to linerunner for the sympathy!

Can see both sides. But it is up to the mil really. She might not want to look after both, especially with one ill.

I think YABU, sorry.
Your MIL is needed by both families at the same time.
If she is happy to do it, that's her decision.
If you don't like her having extra commitments possibly look into alternative childcare arrangements for DC.

Given that it is childcare provided by mil then I reckon that the kid can go ill provided mil is not bothered. Not the same rules when family involved.

YABVVVVU and somewhat spoilt and entitled too!

yabu - god help you when school starts!

YABU to expect your free childcare provider MIL to put your dc's needs above those of her other grandchild.

If you're not happy that ill children might be there at the same time as your dc, then you need to look for alternative childcare options but heaven forbid you might have to pay

It is totally up to your MIL what she chooses to do. YABU. If you don't like it you'll have to find alternative childcare this once.

YABU its bloody nice of your MIL to have her gc two days a week as it is. She does not sound very appreciated. I dread when I become a MIL, they can't do wrong for doing right.

Aren't you lucky to have a MIL that is willing to change her plans to look after a sick grandchild. One day you might be very thankful for her.

Some good food for thought...
Maybe exactly what I needed.
Thank you

Are you Reality's SIL?

I can understand you not wanting your dc to be in contact with tonsillitis, that can be so nasty!

Still I am jealous that you have relations who want to look after your dc. I have begged mine to help (in times of great need) and she just goes naaahh.

I doubt it chipmonkey

An update for all my helpful advisors.

Poorly child has been up all night,off food,high temp, ill since Friday,no signs of getting better,and actual illness NOT confirmed by doctor
Surely a child this ill needs to be at home with their Mummy??
I suggested my DS goes elsewhere but this wasn't accepted and poorly child has been sent to Great Aunts.
I think it would be irresponsible of me to let my child KNOWINGLY be around another child THIS ill.
But that's just me and my parenting decision

I can't work out if you are pissed off with MIL or pissed off with your SIL.

Do you like your SIL?

What if you have another dc who gets tonsilitus when his sibling doesnt? will you barrier nurse?.....there are germs at preschool and imvisible germs at Grandmas...think yabu.

Why don't you take the day off to look after your child instead of expecting everyone else to fit in around you?

My mum's house used to be like a hospital ward. She was the one who minded all the kids in the extended family when illness meant other minders couldn't have them. The flu ones are under blankets at either end of the sofa. The armchair by the tv is for bubonic plague. Bottles of lucazade all over the place. And my daughter out in the garden falling in the pond as there was nothing wrong with her she was just pretending so she could go to nanny's.

Your MIL sounds lovely, you sound like an ungrateful DIL. School age DCs come into contact with all manner of germs, how will you cope then?