MIL

[BenRoo]

My MIL usually has my DS on a Tuesday,she has her other grandson on a Monday.
The other grandson has tonsillitis. He usually goes to nursery on a Tuesday.
I'm anticipating he'll be there in the morning,although my DH has just asked what's likely to happen and she's said he'll still be going to nursery.
AIBU to be pissed off if he IS there tmrw?
Surely his Mummy should take the day off to look after him...
And I don't want my DS getting poorly!!!!!

yabu for using the word "mummy" on a thread full of adults

whose fair point, I suppose I find people who are complaining about their free childcare not matching their very precise standards a little tiring.

You sound a bit selfish OP. Your SIL is struggling with a sick child and childcare because you have 'booked in first' with MIL.
I really hope that someone doesn't kick up a fuss when you really need childcare from close family. well actually, I hope they do
What goes around comes around OP.

Not much else to say really although I'm sure some of you haven't quite finished
Feeling very satisfied I got what I want as my only intention was of course to get one over on my IL's.
Thank you Whose for your support

Blimey Benroo you really don't like people disagreeing with you on AIBU do you? :(

You know, Benroo if you didn't want people to disagree, you shouldn't have posted in AIBU

And you sound like you're crowing over your SIL wee boy being ill and that your DS got to go to the zoo when her child was ill.

Which really doesn't come across as very caring or thoughtful. And actually makes you look a bit petty and self-centred.

Poor SIL, poor nephew.

I hope your nephew didn't leave any germs on door knobs or toys when he was at your MILs yesterday, I'm sure your SIL would feel terrible if your DS was to catch this bug now not

It's not the disagreeing it's the tone of some of the comments that's all.
Anyways,I didn't post for an argument and didn't mean to offend.
I probably won't post on AIBU again tbh.
bows out gracefully

Where are all the men.

It's your MIL so you must have a husband/partner. So is your SIL your MIL daughter or married to another MIL son's.

I have to say your child is going to suffer when they go to school if you keep them away from all germs.

Perhaps there is a specfic reason as to why your SIL could not her plans today.

It's one thing taking a day off work to look after your own sick child, but how could the OP square it with her boss that she was taking the day off because her SIL's child was ill?

By the way, your MIL sounds lovely, actually. And whilst I'm not wishing tonsillitis on your DS, at least if he did get it, she'd be on hand to help out with some of the care - presumably there's be a limit as to how much time you (and your DH) could take off?

BenRoo if you object to the tone of some of the comments, maybe you should take a good hard look at your own comments.

They hardly leave you smelling of roses

Op, you are not allowed to complain about free childcare on MN.
Ever.

Lesson learnt....

I know this is AIBU, but....
... BenRoo, I think you have been given an unreasonably hard time here. I think any mother would be concerned about their child spending a whole day indoors with another child who is clearly suffering from some bug or another.
For what it's worth, I think you did entirely the right thing by offering to make alternative arrangements and that your SIL and MIL also behaved admitably.
More harmony and cooperation displayed by the women in your family than on this thread, unfortunately ;)

admirably, rather.

It's one thing taking a day off work to look after your own sick child, but how could the OP square it with her boss that she was taking the day off because her SIL's child was ill?

Exactly! I can't believe some of the posts on this thread! How dare the OP not take the day off work because her SILs child is ill! How dare the OP not want her child to catch tonsillitis! How dare the OP not let the SILs child take priotiry over her own child and take her own childs place at MILs for the day (which I believe she did actually suggest to MIL I seem to remember)!

You lot saying that the OP is BU sound bitter and jealous about the free family childcare the OP is getting. I'm rather jealous myself but that doesn't mean I think the OP shouldn't put her own child first before her SILs child. Or that she should risk pissing off her boss. Or that everytime the SIL has a childcare need the OP should forfeit the childcare she already has in place so the SIL can have it. Why should SIL get priority?!

"the OP shouldn't put her own child first before her SILs child"

Agree. Well done OP for securing zoo for your LO ! That will teach em to stay well away from your days!

Wow talk about misquoted! You should work for a newspaper.

sorry, i did misquote (although in all fairness yours "but that doesn't mean I think the OP shouldn't..." was a bit convoluted)
Screw them all! (Is it better?)

sorry, i did misquote, but it wasn't intentional

Yes mine was convoluted!

bloody hell how childish "I got what I want, my child went to the zoo"

I feel so sorry for the poorly child, I hope if your child gets sick on you MILs day with the other grandchild you have to find someone else to dump him on as it will be the other childs "day with nanny"