AIBU for being angry at my saintly husband?

[MarianneM]

This is going to sound bizarre, but...
We were both invited to a housewarming tonight by a local couple. We agreed DH would go and I will put the DCs to bed. Party starts at 8.30pm. So at 8pm DDs and I settle in the bedroom, I read lots of stories, I put them to bed, wait for them to fall asleep, which always takes a long time... Keep hearing DH faffing and pottering around, washing dishes (!) and the time ticks on. It's 9.30pm, it has been quiet for a while so I think he must be gone, but I haven't heard the door go. Girls still not asleep, but it's fine. I look out of the bedroom door, and there sits DH, all combed and perfumed, waiting. I ask him what he is waiting for, and he says he is waiting until DDs have fallen asleep. Dishes all washed, dinner mess (girls make a huge mess at mealtimes) cleared up, everything just so. And I...suddenly feel so ANNOYED with him! It's hard to put my finger on exactly what I find so irritating about this...

YANBU, dump the bastard. Then send him to me. Thanks.

I think you may be annoyed because you may(as a couple) have unresolved issues regarding him being the stay-at-home parent .He may feel that he is better at the childrens routine,you may feel judged for not doing it to his 'standard'.

Or else he is just a nice bloke who wanted to make sure you weren't under pressure from the kids before he left for his night out.

If it helps, I'd have been annoyed too. The arrangement is: you stay in and do the childcare, he goes out and enjoys himself. If it had been the other way around, you'd have gone out at the right time and enjoyed yourself. The source of your annoyance is that it's a complete waste of a good night out.