To be utterly sick of my husbands gym habit?

[rogersmellyonthetelly]

He wakes at 5.45 am every day, get up and goes to the gym. He goes at this time because his friend also works out and they go together for motivation.
Problem is that he 1) always puts his alarm on snooze so not only does it wake me the first time, it wakes me again 10 minutes later. 2) he wakes up the puppy which then shuffles round in the crate and sounds like a small elephant tap dancing on a drum. 3) him going downstairs and turning off the burglar alarm wakes up the kids who then come and get into my bed thus ruining any hope of getting back to sleep.
Aibu to be utterly fecking sick to the teeth of my whole house being woken up 1.5 hours before the required time every day of the sodding week?
He also goes to bed at 9pm and eats only chicken and rice which is really really pissing me off as we don't have meals together either as a family or as a couple any more. It's been like this for 2 months and so far I can see no change in his physique whatsoever.

I'd stop putting the alarm on so it doesn't wake kids up
I'd wear ear plugs
Or get him to sleep in the spars room/ sofa
The food thing and early nights would pee me right off
Hope you're not cooking his chicken and rice every night

Yanbu, have you spoken to him? x

Are you married to my DP?! Almost identical except we don't have a puppy. Has he discovered protein shakes and supplements yet?

Would you feel better if he was looking buff? My dh was a gym bunny for a few years and it did drive me around the bend, so I can totally sympathise (especially the food side - dh ate 7 meals a day, all a bit weird and never at a time that suited us).

Is your dh doing cardio or weights? If he is weight training every day then it's totally excessive and probably counteractive too. Do you have any idea why he has suddenly thrown himself into it? Exercise can be addictive I know but every day seems really OTT. Does he feel bad about his body for some reason perhaps?

you can go off people rapidly when they wake you up.

2 months shows exceptional forebearance on your part.

I suspect you ae too tired by now to do all sorts of things... anything for his benefit of course it seems like he has opted out of family life.

Tiaras, yes we have a cupboard full of shakes, he is weight training but as he only has an hour in the gym he tends to work on one bit every day. He's home for 7.30 at my insistance to help get kids ready for school.

YAB a bit U. It's a good habit to have, would you rather he was down the pub every night? Just ask him to get up on the first alarm and be bit more quiet

I'd rather he went to the gym at another time that doesnt disrupt the entire house and not have antisocial Eating habits

He could go any time of the day btw, and so could
His mate.

YANBU. Has he told you he's gay yet? That's what happened to a friend of mine whose DH kept running off to the gym at all hours to be with 'a friend', but never acquired any muscles

Doesn't he work?

If he can go at any time yanbu. Also, he could sleep (or you could) in a different room the nights before gym so he doesn't wake you.

One of the traits of my ex this was. It didn't work out for us. Im all for some exercise bug I'm not for total disruption of a relationship for it - no meals together, no socialising because it wasn't the right food and he wanted to be in bed early, my sleep ruined everyday, both by the alarm and the smell of frying mince at 5am. Oh yes and the protein shakes.
Yanbu

That would drive me mad. I would tell him to sleep in the spare room.

Yanbu. My dh has to do this as part of his job but he goes at 6am 3 days a week and comes back to take the kids to school so as I can get some rest. He then goes to other days but the gym has a crèche so he takes the dc with him if I need to get on and do stuff. Still hate it but it's his job. There is mo way I'd be able to put up with it for leisure. He also manages to leave in am without waking anyone although we are expecting a baby so I suspect that may change.

I should say though my dh is a massive arse when it comes to other things, feel like I'm stealth boasting about my dh. We have worked this system out over the last 7 years out of necessity.

yanbu.

Could you tell him that if he wakes the dcs he has to stay home and look after them? It might motivate him to be quieter.

YANBU. Let's hope he doesn't discover steriods.

He needs to be a lot quieter- I'd suggest a No Snooze button policy, and not putting the burglar alarm on at night.

Unfortunately the alarm is a condition of the house insurance so daren't leave it off. Kids are normally in light sleep/shuffling around by that time anyway, it only takes a small noise to wake them.

Blackeyedsusan summed it up IMO by saying he has opted out of family life. The eating thing would probably bug me more than the alarm.

Even if someone is downstairs? Perhaps he could sleep down there if he is retiring at 9pm anyway.

I'd be massively pissed off in your shoes- it's really selfish behaviour.

I think, that on the face of it, it seems like selfish behaviour.
If he can go at any time of day, why does he want to go at silly o'clock in the morning?

How old are the children?