To think 3 weeks post-birth relatives can come and visit me, not the other way round?

[feelingratheroverwhelmed]

That's it really. They are nearly an hour away. All other things are equal (transport, we all have older children etc). I had a section, i've still got afterpains and I'm knackered.

So, if they want to see the new bub (and I am welcoming visitors) then they can come to us, and not be annoyed if I don't yet feel like a trip to theirs?

I've had this a lot, both while pregnant and post birth. The majority of my family and friends from home fail to realise that the M1 runs south as well as north.

YANBU. Even if you were feeling 100% I wouldn't subject a newborn to more travelling and visiting people than absolutely necessary. Let them come to you if they want to see bubs, and if they can't come, send them photos!

YANBU

Let them know they are welcome to visit you, but make some ground rules. There is plenty of time for you to go there when you are fully recovered and feel like it.