to ask how often you have sex?

[my2centsis]

just that really... on tv etc they always says in a healthy realtionships people have sex around 3 times a week? in that normal in RL?

Everyone also implys that their dp/ dh always wants sex... is that usually the case?? in my house i feel like im the 1 that wants to be intimate more then my dp, for us its once maybe twice a week on a good week.

but the most we have gone without is 3weeks.

we have a 3.6yr old dd and son due in 6weeks...

aibu to be suspicious and feel like he's not interested in me or am i just being ridiculous and need to get over myself lol

twice a week but pretty much only ever at the weekends or on holiday :(

My sex drive has increased dramatically recently and DH's has plummeted. Might be an age thing or a TTC thing or maybe he does not fancy me as much as before.

Stopping the pill defintiely increased my libido

Daily.... at least once.

Can't remember when we last had sex, possibly on holiday earlier in the year?

It is something we need to work on but it's kind of a mutual thing, it's not a case of one person turning down the other. Partly age, partly just being out of practice, partly that we don't fancy each other as much as we did the first couple of years we were together, partly us both being lazy. DH has never had a big sex drive though and hasn't initiated sex for years, so it's been up to me.

well done EvilElizabethPonsonby

If you want it to happen, and be any good, you have to pay attention

"I'm too tired to cook, and I haven't got time to keep the garden tidy" = you will have a rotten diet and a horrible garden.

would people dare say "I'm too busy to look after the kids, and after ten year's I've got bored with them"

Loving all the "can't remember when"s and "5 years ago" ( as long as everyone's OK there ) - It's making me feel much better about our state of affairs, though also slightly

< well fancy that ! >

It goes up and down....

Once or twice a week, DH would have it every day, Me not so much!! To be fair he doesn't pester me, He used to and it made me want it even less.

Our youngest has ASD and is very hard work and I'm so tired all the time.

I still fancy the pants off him though just can't be arsed to do anything about it!!

Not an awful lot! Twice in the last six weeks since I fell pregnant again, a lot more before that but ttcing, generally 2-3 times a month with more regular "intimate moments" that don't involve full sex. I am not a great fan of it to be honest, even though we actually have some really good times together.. I find that after commuting three hours a day, working to get our toddler to bed and working on my MSc, cooking, cleaning etc that there isn't a lot of headspace for it. More likely to happen during times that can be a bit more spontaneous e.g. like on holiday, on lazy weekends where we don't have a million and one visitors.

I just think there is natural ebb and flow. A lot of problems in relationships is comparing ourselves with what everyone else is doing, or worse still, comparing ourselves with romantic novels and TV. After 12 years together we're bound not to fancy one another as much as at the beginning, and most of our energy goes towards our 6 and 2 year olds. And our relationship was never really about being at it like rabbits, it was always about friendship and laughter with occasional sex. And as I say, I think DH has never had a massive sex drive. Plus the fact we've had two children and completed our family, and we are now 35 and 40. That's not to say we're saying game over, we aren't old but we are old-er.

Just quickly - I have started a thread in chat but wondered if anyone here thinks that being on the pill (or a certain make of pill) makes their sex drive lower - I think it might for me... We've been together nearly 6 years, married for 3.5 and have a nearly 2 year old - I just sort of think that we "should" be having sex more than once/twice a week (sometimes a few weeks without), and almost feel guilty but don't actually feel like having sex more than that! I think having a toddler hanging off me a lot probably leaves me craving some space rather than cuddles in the evening

I really dont miss it at all and nor does dh.We chat about it sometimes and each agree that we would quite enjoy it if the other one really wanted to but it seems so unimportant now.I'd rather have a lovely cuddle and a cuppa any day :)

We don't have that much sex. May not have it for months and months, and then have it 3 nights running. Don't know why it has dwindled since the kids (7 and 3). Yet we are very affectionate, and i love giving bj's. If I never had sex again, I wouldn't mind. Dh doesn't seem that bothered. But I don't think its fair/right. I have asked my GP about it. she just said that a loss of libido is common in diabetics. Great. Thats leaves me nowhere left to go.
I don't really mind. But I do feel a bit ashamed. As if I'm not doing my 'duty' or being fair to my husband.

But Oblomov I don't think we can really have sex if we don't want to. We can try to make the situation and relationship more conducive to the possibility - like the poster who said it's more likely on a lazy weekend day. I quite like watching a bit of comedy together on the telly and sharing a But there's only so much you can give IMHO

But pumpkins, I want to. Or I feel like I Ought to want to. I should want to. That would be considered normal. no?

Oblomov - that's what I feel like sometimes - that I should feel like it but don't? And I want to feel like it but don't? (Sometimes I do feel like it but more often I don't)