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to ask how often you have sex?

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my2centsis · 31/10/2011 02:28

just that really... on tv etc they always says in a healthy realtionships people have sex around 3 times a week? in that normal in RL?

Everyone also implys that their dp/ dh always wants sex... is that usually the case?? in my house i feel like im the 1 that wants to be intimate more then my dp, for us its once maybe twice a week on a good week.

but the most we have gone without is 3weeks.

we have a 3.6yr old dd and son due in 6weeks...

aibu to be suspicious and feel like he's not interested in me or am i just being ridiculous and need to get over myself lol

OP posts:
SjuperWereWolef · 31/10/2011 10:19

no amount of nookie was getting this baby out boo [hgrin] he is very stubborn!

thats my waters gone properly today just waiting to see if labour starts, if not hospital tonight for a check up [hsmile] raspberry leaf tea and a major crying session last night got me going tell your sis to get drinking!

oopslateagain · 31/10/2011 10:30

Once or twice a week AT MOST. Sometimes we don't at all for a couple of weeks, sometimes it's 3 or 4 times a week (but not often... Grin).

KingofHighVis · 31/10/2011 10:46

We have a 12wo daughter and I think we've had sex 3 times since she was conceived. could I ask, in the absence of sex due to babies,k how often Di you think it is normal/acceptable for dp to sneak off for a wank, and how is this best achieved when dw and 2dc are at home all day?

BOOareHaunting · 31/10/2011 10:50

Oh sjuper good luck. Let us know when boywonder decides it's time to hatch. [hgrin]

LikeABlackFlameCandleBNQ · 31/10/2011 10:59

I was wondering this as im 34 wks pg. For the last month, it has been the LAST thing on my mind, but I dont think DH is put off by the pregnacy. Im just too bloody tired and heavy to feel anything remotely sexy. I apprciate it must be hard for him Wink but I dont even want to do anything 'for him'....

He can please himself as much as he wants though Grin

Poor sod.

Pre-preg and up to 30wks pg, once a week.

EricNorthmansMistress · 31/10/2011 10:59

Kingof - How often he sneaks off for a wank is completely up to him, there is no 'acceptable' amount, unless it means he is abandoning you mid dinner or something. I would expect him to wait til the kids were in bed and you were occupied/asleep though, it's a bit unnecessary to be racing off for a wank during the day when the kids are about!

spookshowangellovesit · 31/10/2011 11:18

5 to 7 times a week more often than not every day. currently pregnant which adds to the rampant horny hormones. in regards to wanking i would say when ever they found an appropriate alone time ie in the shower or if you had gone to bed etc... do you need to be policing you dp wanking?

SjuperWereWolef · 31/10/2011 11:18

cheers boo will be mentioning him on every thread when he shows up as i am a bit of a hijacker [hgrin]

TheRealMrsHannigan · 31/10/2011 11:25

6-7 times a week here, DH has a very high sex drives and it's easier to just go with it than suffer his moodiness if he is frustrated [grins]...think PMT in a male and thats what he is like with no nookie!

MackerelOfFact · 31/10/2011 13:58

Usually about once a week. Only done it twice since moving house 4 week (partly due to not being entirely sure how sound travels in the new place Blush). Sometimes we'll go through a week or so of having it every day. The more you have, the more you want, IME.

Serenitysutton · 31/10/2011 14:09

its been a while, so i made a pact this morning we'll do it every day this week. the more you have the more you want....

nonookiethisyear · 31/10/2011 14:27

As my namechange for this thread says... :( Blush :(

DS is almost 10m old. Haven't had sex since before he was born. Have absolutely no desire for it :(
DH not seemingly bothered either, so we're in a vicious circle where I can't imagine him wanting to have sex with me (two other DCs under the age of 4 have put paid to my figure), so I shy away from it. He's tried maybe three times in all this time. :( Blush :(

Tis a worry indeed.

TechnoViking · 31/10/2011 14:29

Hardly ever. Do I think DW has gone off me? Nope.

EvilElizabethPonsonby · 31/10/2011 14:30

after an incredibly dry spell of once or twice a year for many years (if that...still managed to concieve dd in that time though!), and a pretty big crisis, we've suddenly turned back into love's young dream and are up to about 5-6 times a week Grin

spookshowangellovesit · 31/10/2011 14:34

thats wicked evil.

atosilis · 31/10/2011 14:43

Any answers from couples who have been married over 30 years? That's the number I'd like to know [hgrin].

I'd be happy if we never did it again!

BOOareHaunting · 31/10/2011 14:43

eveil I'm glad things have righted themselves.

I am single, have been for over 3 years........... nuff said Wink

BlueAndBrown · 31/10/2011 14:47

NoNookie I know how you feel, after two pgs close together and the weight I put on in the first and then the second I couldn't imagine anyone would ever want to sleep with me again Sad. But my DH still wanted me, so my motto was 'fake it 'til you make it' and now we are back to regular sex (twice lastnight Blush)

To have sex for the first time in over a year I had to get a little tipsy, just to loosen myself up a bit, I was nervous like a teenager!

ShirleyGoesBananas · 31/10/2011 15:01

Am I the only one who wanted it every day while pregnant?? Cor, it turned me into a beast!

CBA with it now I've got a baby. It's a few times a month now. Feel about as in the mood as an abandoned sandpit.

birdofthenorth · 31/10/2011 15:20

Kingof- I'd say that's just fine- though your DW may be up for helping you even if she isn't up for full sex!

GruffalowsMammy · 31/10/2011 15:42

Probably 5 times a week, sometimes more sometimes less (I fall asleep really quickly) we have an 8 mo before DS it was more like every night, but I think we have high sex drives.
ke 12
Am confused about the orgasm post does it really take 12 months for 50 [hblush]

GruffalowsMammy · 31/10/2011 15:42

I don't now what ke 12 is all about, sorry

HitTheRoadJack · 31/10/2011 16:04

I had terrible hyperemesis until recently and we haven't had sex since my sickness kicked in...

I'm a terrible wife Grin

scrivette · 31/10/2011 17:06

DS is 4 months and we have only had sex 4 times since he was conceived. DH has an extremely low sex drive and I like my sleep!

kalidasa · 31/10/2011 17:25

2-4 times a week I'd say. Occasionally a bit more (e.g. on holiday) but I don't think we've ever dropped below twice a week. No children yet though! We initiate about equally.

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