disagreeing with DSIL wanting vouchers for DN and DN age 2 and 4 for xmas?

[AnxiousElephant]

We don't live close to each other but my parents are able to take presents this year as they live near DB and SIL. I would like to buy presents rather than send vouchers because I feel for children this age they would enjoy having gifts that mean something. I want them to remember that we sent something and I know that if I send Debenhams vouchers as requested they will just go on designer clothes and they won't know they came from us. I have to add that they are financially very secure and do not need more designer clothes..................they apparently have everything . I wanted to get something that they can enjoy and grow into during the year?
AIBU?

My 4 and 2 year old were massively overwhelmed by the volume of presents they had last year (although in comparison to many children i know they didn't have that many). We do ask grandparents/aunties to give the DD's cash if they have no ideas of what they want to get them - if they do then fair enough they go with it and so do we. The money goes into their savings account and can be used when they really want/need something.

At the moment this is not the case as DD1 does NOT play with toys. None of them. She does craft and plays outside. Her birthday present from us will be a trip to Hobbycraft and she has asked for some dive sticks - this idea has been passed to a friend who asked what she wanted. DD2 on the other hand does enjoy toys so will hopefully be easier for other people to buy their choice of stuff for her.

As others have said our house is crammed with stuff, even though DD1 plays with very little of it

I would however definitely appreciate an annual pass to a local venue and we would all get much joy out of such a gift.

OK in the end I compromised

DN is 4 and got her hello kitty wellies, princess pjs and a disney camera
Dnephew is almost 3 and got a gruffalo backpack, pjs and wellies.


Done!