to hate the term passive agressive

[RedHelenB]

You are one or the other, you can't be both at the same time!!!!

Passive-Agressive is this.

Sitting quietly watching television with your DS and DIL.

Starting to weep quietly until somebody notices.

Then, when asked if you are alright, saying "I'm fine, I'm fine, it's nothing" and refusing all offers of help, brushing off all attempts to find out what might be wrong.

Then, when they feel at a total loss to do anything to help you, you tell them about a minor non-event of a slight you feel your other DS and DIL have committed in your imagination and use it to then engineer a way to get something you want out of the DS and DIL your are currently with by making them feel guilty and sorry for you.

Or much more simply, it's saying "fine" in a way that most people, usually your DP, knows full well to mean "over my dead body and you know there will be hell to pay if you do, but I want to make my refusal look like your decision."

Non-verbal communication - facial expressions to so accurately and scathingly convey what you want to say without even opening your mouth.

Martyring yourself, sighing and seething but saying nothing.

Anyone heard the term 'vague-booking'? Updating FB statuses (statii?!) with 'So Upset!!' 'Well, now I know who my friends really are!' And then when people pile in with their 'you OK hun?' type comments, are responded with, 'i'm fine, it's nothing' or 'can't really say on here'. Grrr, STFU then!!!

Seriously - are you understanding the term a bit more now after this thread? To deny it exists make you look a bit simple like you have trouble grasping simple concepts.

Oh yes, the strike out function on MN is used ALL THE TIME to be passive-aggressive on here. [hwink]

Slinking, I have a very irritating "friend" on my FB friends whose statuses are constantly like that. It's very annoying. Either that or they're cryptic or attention-seeking in other ways. I've ended up hiding her updates on my newsfeed as the "are you okay Hun?" comments are puke inducing