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To think straight married sex in "The Slap" is not portrayed accurately?

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lesley33 · 30/10/2011 04:19

I have been watching The Slap online which has lots of portrayals of sex between married/long standing couples. I was actually a bit shocked that the sex was almost uniformly portrayed as 20 seconds kissing, penetration or bj and thats it. I can't see how that would be satisfying to many women - although I appreciate it may be to a few.

AIBU to think that in rl straight married sex is usually not like this. I am a lesbian, so I don't actually know - I guess I hope it is not an accurate portrayal.

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PenguinsAreThePoint · 30/10/2011 04:21

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runningwilde · 30/10/2011 05:00

Well I think penguin has made a great point!

No Lesley, straight and married sex is not like that. Obviously it varies from couple to couple, but it can be very different depending on time and mood - and it can be WILD! Grin

PureBloodMuggle · 30/10/2011 05:48

the author's gay?

Didn't know that, not sure it's the eason though, I had thought that it was becuse the author was a selfish prick. I mean gay or straight sex needs to be more interesting and satisfying for more than one partner.

YANBU, thoufh you just made me realsie that i meant to watch this!

AurraSing · 30/10/2011 05:48

I think he research the book by watching porn. After reading it, I was left with the feeling that the author hadn't spent much time with women, so I wasn't surprised to find out he was gay.

Although my Australian friend said she has met a fair few straight men like that.

tyler80 · 30/10/2011 09:02

YABU

The program's what, 50 minutes long? A more 'accurate' portrayal probably wouldn't leave much time for the rest of the storyline.

SeeLyon · 30/10/2011 09:02

they MAKE THINGS UP ON TV?

Amonstercooper · 30/10/2011 09:07

Tyler presumably you're joking?

SeeLyon · 30/10/2011 09:08

i loved the book
and the sex
but i think you need your head examining OP

tyler80 · 30/10/2011 09:20

I suppose I answered the question wrong

YANBU to think straight married sex is usually not like this.
YABU to think a TV program can give an accurate portrayal

Amonstercooper · 30/10/2011 09:30

I disagree, I think with good actors and directors tv programmes can very accurately portray all human experiences, including sex.

noddyholder · 30/10/2011 09:34

It is very accurate for a certain type of person which he is. They are not trying to show love making but selfish impulsive and spontaneous and drug and alcohol fuelled!

LeBOOOf · 30/10/2011 09:35

The author is not a selfish prick AT ALL- read the web chat we had with him, and you will change your mind on that one. The characters he created were horrid though.

northernrock · 30/10/2011 09:39

Oh OP. You have hit on something that has me regularly shouting at the telly.
I dunno about married sex, but straight sex in general is portrayed so uniformly on TV.
Its just what you said-20 seconds snogging. Thrust! Uh! Uh! (the woman immediately looking ecstatic) Unnhh!!
The End.
Noone is asking for real time sex with all the foreplay elements present and correct BUT would it kill dramatists to play around a little with the formula??
I mean, sex is something that can be variously erotic, funny, embarrassing, resentful, tender, passionate, routine etc etc etc.

It is possible to imply a lot of different types of sexual activity without actually showing it.
It's no wonder so many young men are crap in bed if this is what they see as a representation of sex-ALWAYS!

tyler80 · 30/10/2011 09:45

Judging by a lot of TV programs you could be mistaken for thinking that wearing a bra during sex is the done thing [hsmile]

noddyholder · 30/10/2011 09:45

I think they represent a certain demographic of drunken druggy media types and i think the sex really captured that manic selfish vibe.

thefurryone · 30/10/2011 09:49

I haven't seen the tv programme but I have read the book and the majority of the male characters are incredibly misogynistic. The sex is portrayed in that manner to demonstrate the type of men that certain characters are. It is not typical of heterosexual sex.

HarlotOTara · 30/10/2011 09:52

That explains the constant talk of big dicks throughout the book then Grin. Loathed the book, for the life of me I can't understand why it won some prize or other as it is so badly written.

FabbyChic · 30/10/2011 09:54

Well to be fair when I was married there was no kissing, he used the same technique every single time, so it was tits, fanny jump on and roll off. After five years it got a bit boring.

screamingbohemian · 30/10/2011 10:04

after five years?

northernrock · 30/10/2011 10:07

Ha ha Fabby!It was the "after five years" that made me laugh!

The thing is thefurryone, it seems that most sex on telly is a bit like this, plus his wife in The Slap (at least in the TV version) appears to be enjoying it immensely!(yeah right!)
I know the odd quickie can be nice, but it really does seem to be ALL you ever see on telly.

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lesley33 · 30/10/2011 10:19

I totally understand the premise that this type of sex shows a certain kind of character. But all the sex has been like that. I think its perfectly possible to at least imply more happens. And i do think The Slap is worse than other programmes for this.

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noddyholder · 30/10/2011 10:25

This is a book full of characters with no redeeming features all out for themselves and saving their own arses. To portray any of them as sensitive and considerate wouldn't work. I think it also reflects the general pace of the story.

echt · 30/10/2011 10:27

:o

ImperialBlether · 30/10/2011 10:29

Yes, I posted something similar on another thread about The Slap.

It was the way the woman (knackered and resentful after being up since 6am preparing for a party (with no help) which then turned into a disaster) giggled, kicked her knickers off and was ECSTATIC to have immediate intercourse. He came - the director/writer forgot that that was a possibility (or rather impossibility) for her and her reaction wasn't shown at all.

ImperialBlether · 30/10/2011 10:30

The usual way is to show them kissing, then the next shot is of them in bed or on the sofa afterwards, if you want to show the passing of time.

Unfortunately for the woman in The Slap, I don't think there was any passing of time!