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Original poster

To think straight married sex in "The Slap" is not portrayed accurately?

76 replies

lesley33 · 30/10/2011 04:19

I have been watching The Slap online which has lots of portrayals of sex between married/long standing couples. I was actually a bit shocked that the sex was almost uniformly portrayed as 20 seconds kissing, penetration or bj and thats it. I can't see how that would be satisfying to many women - although I appreciate it may be to a few.

AIBU to think that in rl straight married sex is usually not like this. I am a lesbian, so I don't actually know - I guess I hope it is not an accurate portrayal.

OP posts:
aliceliddell · 30/10/2011 14:43

northernrock 'sweaty monkey sex with lots of extras' Grin

rycooler · 30/10/2011 16:22

leslie33; a 3 minute quickie is more than enough trust me - sex is very overrated by a lot of people.

rycooler · 30/10/2011 16:23

Oops - spelt your name wrong - sorry.

Original poster
lesley33 · 30/10/2011 16:27

You see I can understand a 3 minute quickie occasionally. But part of being in a long term relationship is imo that you know what each other likes and that you do things that each other enjoys. And I can't believe that for all straight women that translates into a 3 minute fuck.

Maybe you think sex is over rated because you need more than this to truly enjoy sex?

OP posts:
rycooler · 30/10/2011 16:30
rycooler · 30/10/2011 16:31

Er.... Maybe?

Original poster
lesley33 · 30/10/2011 16:32

Sorry, I can't tell if you are being serious,laughing, etc,so I don't know what to say.

OP posts:
rycooler · 30/10/2011 16:40

I need to remember that what I say can be read by millions.

MillyR · 30/10/2011 16:44

Lesley, I don't know whether Rycooler is being serious or not, but I've been with my husband for 15 years, and it is very different to my experience.

Pollykitten · 30/10/2011 16:44

hateful book, trying to be all 'zeitgeisty' but actually relentlessly grim and shite.

carernotasaint · 30/10/2011 16:44

Im glad im not the only one who got annoyed about the sex scene in The Slap.
So agree with the poster who mentioned the sex scene in Dont Look Now. Best sex scene ive seen in a film. In fact they did it so well that there was a rumour going around at the time that they actually did do it on film. They insist not which just goes to show that they are brilliant actors.
The fact that this film was made in 1973 shows that the director/producers of that film did actually realise that women need more than three thrusts to get any pleasure out of sex.
Cut to 2011 and the Slap and not just the Slap but also the sex scenes in other shows and its almost like we are going backwards.

Original poster
lesley33 · 30/10/2011 16:46

Fair enough!

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MurderBloodstabsandgore · 30/10/2011 17:01
NoOnesGoingToEatYourEyes · 30/10/2011 17:09

OP - I just realised I didn't answer your question. In our house the foreplay lasts for a good long time, most of it for my benefit Grin because without it the sex would be impossible for me anyway. We've been married for years, we know what we both like but still sometimes manage to surprise each other too (DH will die if he finds out I wrote that on the internet Grin.

Original poster
lesley33 · 30/10/2011 17:57

Thats reasssuring - thanks.

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rycooler · 30/10/2011 18:08

And...it's not just me who thinks sex is over-rated, Boy George would rather have a cup of tea.

GalloweesG · 30/10/2011 18:29

Or tie up a rent boy!

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lesley33 · 30/10/2011 18:29

Sorry rycooler - Boy George later said he lied. He was an openly gay pop star at a time when that was very rare and in later interviews he said he thinks he was accepted by buyers of records (thats how long ago it was!) as they saw him as an asexual doll. This statement was a deliberate ploy to encourage that view.

I'm not trying to say though that everyone thinks sex is important - I know some don't.

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rycooler · 30/10/2011 18:48

Hour long sex sessions resulting in multiple orgasms are not the norm for most women - the reality is a 5 minute fuck because we're either shattered, busy, or just cba. I stopped reading Cosmopolitan at 19 because I knew even at that age, that I was being fed bull-shit. The media driven image of women having fantastic sex 7 days a week ( or she's missing out ) is harmful imo.

tyler80 · 30/10/2011 19:00

How does anyone know what's the 'norm' for most women?

Can only speak for myself really, but in my life I've been in 5 long term relationships (not at the same time obviously [hgrin]). A 5 minute fuck has been the exception rather than the norm in all of these relationships (and 5 minutes can be long enough given the right circumstances [hwink])

twinklytroll · 30/10/2011 19:31

I really hope that most women, or men for that matters, are not settling for 5 minute shags most of the time .

Original poster
lesley33 · 30/10/2011 19:45

I don't think for a minute that hour long sex with multiple orgasms is the norm. But I know I couldn't normally come for example with a quick 3 minute pentration.

OP posts:
rycooler · 30/10/2011 20:21

Good job you're not with me then - 3 minutes and that's you're lot Grin

northernwreck · 30/10/2011 20:23

My trusty Rabbit can do that Lesley Grin

rycooler · 30/10/2011 20:31

Ahhh typos! My predictive text is like my sex life... predictable.