To be sick of of all the 'text book' advise

[Whathashappenedtomyboobs]

Ok I'm a new mum DS is 9months old, I'm just so sick of all the bloody 'text book' advise. If you dare deviate from said advise and do what you think is right you're going to create a little monster...

Just a few things...I'm not saying I do all of these but who cares if someone does.

*Don't feed to sleep, otherwise, they will NEVER be able to get to sleep on their own.
*Put child to bed awake but sleepy, god forbit holding your child until they fall asleep.
*Don't co sleep, even if you follow the guidelines.
*Don't feed older babies at night, how dare they be hungry.
*Only feed organic foods and if your little one so much as sniffs sugar you will cause them to be obese lazy children.

I could go on but I won't.

Babies don't read text books.......Arrrrrrrrh!!

I did a few of those things. My children are now 9 and 12-they are fine. Do what feels right and works for you and your family. Step away from the text books!

Sorry-YANBU!

Meh, who cares.

Do agree with putting them to bed awake but sleepy tho

Burn the boody baby books! The shit I read and tried to implement....gawd, what a waste of time and energy!

DO whatever feels right. I fed my baby to sleep. I co-slept. DD had night feeds up until she was about 2.

Do whatever you want and whatever your baby is happy with and you're happy with. My HV tried to advise me to stop night feeds when DD was 1 years old, and I point blank told her it was easier for me as I was working full time, so I'd rather put her to my breast and give her a feed whilst I slept, than not allow her anything. She made a face, but who cares?!! My baby, my rules!! And DD is a perfect little girl!

Advice is simply that. Advice. It's yours to do as you please with but without it you can't make informed choices. So yes, YABU.

Op yanbu but they're not going to make much money saying do what suits you best, everything in moderation, do what it takesgto get through the days, are they? Well, other than mumsnet :o

We found the text books useful when one of the legs on our bed broke as a replacement until we could buy a new one.

I think when you have a newborn and are struggling you think that all the books have the magic answers that will magically sort out the sleeping/crying/feeding problems. All the stages are temporary, sort one aspect out and you are soon onto another. Mine are much older and I'm still learning

My eyes are bleeding but I'm not going to say 'it'...no, nope, nooo sireee.

I'm not pedantic enough

Advice!

Oh Claimed don't be so pedantic

I feel guilty every time I read any sort of patenting book, because I learn something else that I am doing 'wrong.'

I am waiting for the publication of the child rearing book that says 'chill out, calm down - you are doing great! What ever works for you is perfect.'

Perhaps I should write that book.

Phew. Thank you Worra and Claimed - I've been told off for being pedantic once today already so am glad I didn't have to say anything

OP - YANBU - DP has hidden all my parenting books. They made me cry (yes cry!) too often so he's banned me from going anywhere near them.

off to join the pendants thread --->

Ruth - I'd buy it

well, I bought all the others; I'd clearly get that one too

Now I am confused ClaimedByMe. Pendants?

Ignore, ignore, ignore. Same with (most) HVs I have encountered, tbh - smile, nod and then do it your way. I laughed at my HV when she started sucking her teeth about DS3 'dropping down the centiles' when he was about 8 weeks old - he had gone from 98th (oinker) to 91st (still oinker). Not something I could get worked up about at that end of the chart, especially as he was nearly 3lb heavier than DS1 at birth, so I am sure the 98th centile thing was a red herring and he was only that big because too lazy to come out on time!

Fwiw, he is still having night feeds at 8mo, we co-sleep and he sometimes needs to be rocked to sleep. He is the happiest, sunniest, bonniest baby so it's all good with me.