people swearing

[starshaker]

AIBU to think that swearing just lowers peoples opinion of you. I just dont get the whole swearing just to fill out a sentence thing. Is it just me?

Surely that should be Primarnie Boden :o

FFS! :o

YANBU.
but I find the replies here funny, too :)

Oh, no, me neither, Beer.

I'd rather be a trampy chav,than a po faced pearl clutcher

I used to hardly ever swear - my dad was of the "30 minutes in your bedroom for a bad word" school of thought. Then when I moved seven years ago into our current home, our next door neighbours turned out to be of the "every other word" swearing preference (they have four DC and the expletives were regularly fired their way at full volume!) Many years of long hours spent doing the garden overhearing the endless casual cusses from next door caused a slight brain malfunction and these days I probably curse inappropriately a little more often than I should. Only in times of increased emotion, but to be honest I could probably slip in a few more "oh dears" here and there instead, and I'm honestly working on it and regularly cringe when I forget

I find this interesting, in part because my opinion of people who don't swear is really quite low.
The it's not big, or clever argument is overdone. The rubbish about vocabulary is exactly that.
Women not swearing is from the victorian ideas of class, it's rubbish.

Ooh good it's Friday tomorrow, I get to change my name.

I went to Tampa, Florida for ten days earlier this year and it took me a while to notice that no one routinely swears in the street. One day I heard one of our (British) party exclaim at something with a 'fuck' in the middle of the sentence and it sounded incongruous and ugly.

It really is what we all get used to - over here people pepper everyday language with swear words so it just seems normal. I do it myself sometimes.

I do believe that it makes people sound both ignorant and arrogant to swear constantly with no regard for what anyone else around them might think.

See, I think there are 2 separate issues here.

One is swearing profusely without cause or provocation, with a swear word every other word. The other is having a good swear on an adult forum when the need arises.

I don't know ANYONE on here guilty (if that is the correct term) of the first. The second? Why not? And why should it bother you?

Personally I'm a lot more bothered by people who start threads without capital letters or punctuation, but I'm able to admit that I'm a complete anal pedant. :o

YANBU. I am deeply ashamed to confess that i've sworn like a sailor all my adult life, but went gone cold turkey (except for mumsnet ) about 2 months ago.

what happened?

my dd used the "f" word and it broke my heart. i swore (ha!) i wouldn't do it again.

so far, so good. it's been surprisingly easy actually.

Depends when and where.

I hate hearing swearing in public (esp. when there are children and lovely looking old grannies and grandpas in the vicinity) when it just becomes part of the sentence, iykwim eg "he's a fucking wanker, and I went to him, you're a fucking wanker, and he was like what the fuck, who you calling a wanker, and I'm like fuck you you cunt". You know the type of conversation? So ignorant and antisocial - loathe that.

Otoh, sweary words used in the right context or for humour can be brilliant, but there are some Scottish words which aren't swear words that I think do a better job of things - ya radge

I think £95, 000 for a fucking chandelier is fucking ridiculous.

Maisie I completely agree about swearing in public, especially in front of children and old people. I have challenged people on their sweary public behaviour. But as others have said this is a forum for adults.

Agree with the OP and agree with Maisiethemorningsidecat and those inbetween who don't like gratuitous bad language.

When DS was little he became obsessed with swear words so DH made him look them up in the dictionary and learn to spell them so that he was aware of whether he was using the vocabulary correctly . The only word DH ended up drawing the line at was "bugger"!

DH got his come uppance when DS was about twelve though and said the F word and was ticked off - roll of eyes followed by "dad, you taught me years ago - it's simply the Anglo Saxon word for copulation". DH's face was a picture.

I think that's the issue though - one person's idea of what's appropriate won't be anothers. For example, telling someone who has simply disagreed with you (not posted anything offensive) to fuck the fuck right off or to get a fucking grip/life sometimes seems a bit unnecessary. Most people generally wouldn't speak to other people that way in RL - they're perfectly capable of applying the filters there!

Fuck, is that the time??

Oh fiddlesticks, I have just spilt red wine on my white linen and all over the pine table and it's not even 2.30.

I like to swear. I don't do it in front of my DS, but he isn't on here, is he? (Is he???)

Forty Many American's don't blaspheme as a general rule either and I'm sure that has an impact on the lack of other swearing. I find it makes their language anodyne and boring, personally. And they are frightened of bums - that's why they say 'out back' instead of 'out the back' - in case someone thinks they're talking about bumsex.

I completely agree with you OP!

ImperialBlether no, it is not a split infinitive because 'I can't' is not the infinitive form. 'To be' is the infinitive. And split infinitives are not incorrect in my book, anyway

It's odd, really. I swear on here but very rarely in speech. I think somehow swearing is quite amusing in writing.

My opinion is quite opposite to that of Creamola. I find swearing out of genuine anger or frustration quite foul. It's like hitting with words. I think it shows lack of control, really. Swearing in pain is another issue, mind.

Swearing about the cunting bechemel sauce curdling because of too much fucking basil is quite funny to me because it's obviously meant in a sort of funny, exaggerated way.

Maybe I am just immature.