To have sex with my 9mo dd in the room?

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So. Large, child-safe room, DD playing happily on the floor, 5 min shag.

Oh and it's my birthday.

AIBU?

Eww, I read your thread title wrong at first - to have sex with your DD .

But presuming it's your DP (or other adult lover) you will be having the sex with, I'd say missionary under the covers with no 'sex noises' would be ok, but 'ride me cowboy' type sex all around the room, complete with bondage gear and whip - well nobody should have to see their mother do that, even if they are only a baby and wouldn't understand!

Happy birthday!

Being so 'behind closed doors' about sex is a relatively recent cultural 'norm'. Personally I would be more upset about the short duration of said romp for a birthday treat

OP - just relax. It's happened now, don;t get your knickers in a twist and try and ensure you get a longer birthday treat next time! :-)

What BedatHogwarts said.

YANBU if you are comfortable.

We still share a room with a 7yo and a 3yo, wouldn't do it while they were awake though

She is 9 months! Can't see the problem myself especially on your birthday op! You got to take the moment IMO!

That's kind of what I though tethers :o Too many years on here illustrated by SGB being my moral compass!

Ha ha I know, 5 mins is pretty poor isn't it! Thanks MakesCakes, feeling less stressed now!

It does all come down to personal preference really. I would be ok about this but could not go for a wee in front of anyone even my kids.

I wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy it.

Tethers that's exactly what I thought

I think it's over the age of when it would be ok....newborn baby wouuldn't notice but a 9 month old kind of would.

Out of interest what do people think of having a quickie upstairs whilst the kids play downstairs? Ages 7 and 3....DH thinks its fine but I can't do it....I always feel so louche....like some kind of sex maniac.....

Yabu

Asleep yes, awake noo

YANBU - she didn't notice, so why not? And happy birthday!

It's fine! A 9 month old wouldn't have a clue - especially if you're under the covers. Have done this with an older child I'd say upper age limit probably 18 months coming up to 2, depending how likely your child is to say "What are you doing under there??"

When DS was two we'd send him off on a hunt for some improbable thing around the house while we had a quickie. That's probably worse... Now he's 3 it's strictly asleep in another room or engrossed in TV on another floor only.

YANBU. As long as you're discreet. I've been caught many a time by a DC walking in on me, we just say we're play fighting.

5 mins.....????

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never had a problem with it. Happy parents = happy kids.

Me and my DP used to put a film on for DCs, tell them we're going for a lie down and disappear upstairs.

I think he'd have a go at me now though, he's ExDP and if he thought I were disappearing upstairs leaving the kids for some afternoon delight withsome hunk (I'm not, unfortunately) he'd be calling social services! :o

Happy parents = happy kids.

I do love this mumsnet chestnut. It's so demonstrably untrue.

How do you think the (working class) Victorians had large families whilst living in back-to-back terraces? There's a reason sex ed only became an issue when we started all having seperate bedrooms. And we haven't evolved that much in 5-6 generations!

That said, I'd find an awake baby somewhat off-putting for getting into it, but she won't have noticed you were doing anything interesting. Tbh, I awoke to my parents having sex in the same (hotel) room as a teenager, and whilst it was a bit ick, all I did was roll over and shut my eyes. Its not given me any problems.

Oh gawd no. They can crawl at that age, can't they? Imagine them crawling over to you. And watching you.

A 9mnth old would have a clue what was going on, I agree, but it would put me right off.

Right in the middle, you look over and there's your child grinning over at you. talk about your passion killer.

I'm sorry but I find this really ick.

I have a 9.5 month old and there is no way she wouldn't be interested in what we were doing. She would be crawling over an everything

Yabu.

Gross.

We were indulging in some under the covers fun one morning and I opened my eyes to find 5 yo dd standing next to the bed looking at me!!! We never heard her come in. She asked me why I had been making funny noises . I told her i had a tummy ache and daddy was trying to make it all better.......

we all know it happened generations ago, but we don't live like that anymore do we?

Not for me, but I know of co sleepers who are actively trying for another baby!

Did anyone immediately think of Friends?

Joey: "You can't have S-E-X in front of the B-A-B-I-E!"

Personally, I wouldn't but you won't have done her any harm. As long as you don't ever her tell when she's older.

less mentions of squeaky toys please!!

As for doing the deed while your child is awake in the room.... eughhhh. I even put the dog out of the room!

Would anyone be happy if somebody else was to do it in the same room as their child. I somehow think not.