To have sex with my 9mo dd in the room?

[WhoahThereCrazyHorse]

So. Large, child-safe room, DD playing happily on the floor, 5 min shag.

Oh and it's my birthday.

AIBU?

[Cheeptrickortreat]

Sorry but sex when child awake and in same room yuk.

Child asleep in room - ok
child of that age in another room for 5 min - ok
older children and i would have to check they were asleep before i could relax and have sex.

Its your birthday could you not have someone babysit for you for an hour or two and have a um better time of it?

[AnyPhantomFucker]

it isn't bizarrely puritanical to decide that having sex in front of your aware children is not a good thing

out of interest, what would be a person's cut-off point where they would stop doing this ?

1, 2, 3 ?

school age ? Imagine the Monday morning "and what did little Freddy do at the weekend" scenario...

[HardCheese]

Gosh, some people are bizarrely puritanical on here. The only way I would have a problem with this situation is if the parents were being shouty/grunty/screamy while having sex, and the baby got distressed because it misread the situation as causing hurt. It doesn't sound as if this was the case.

I agree I would personally find it a passion-killer. Babies have those huge-eyed, frank judgemental gazes at that age... But then I am still freaking out at the proximity of my partner's penis to our unborn baby when we are having pregnant sex, which is completely irrational.

[SolidGoldVampireBat]

It's not hugely ick and certainly won't have harmed the child. Not as much, BTW, as having a big row in front of a child that age would - well, as long as you weren't screaming and hollering during the sex.

[spookshowangellovesit]

hahaha leboo try continuing a conversation with your mother with a particularly persistent and amorous dp partner vying for your attention if you know what i mean.

[AnyPhantomFucker]

OP, were you so desperate for a shag you couldn't wait a couple of hours ?

asleep in same room...no problem

asleep in same bed (child of that age)...no problem

any child of any age awake in same room...not good

[spiderpig8]

gordy- does that mean i might be misinterpreting your user name too?

[LeBOOOf]

Yes, sex with a gurgling baby looking at you is a bit of a passion-killer. As is answering the phone to your mother, but we needn't go into that.

[gordyslovesheep]

yes LeBOOOf - pretty shit present all told [hgrin]

[LeBOOOf]

Oh give over, spider pig. A five minute shuffle under the covers is hardly the same as working your way through the bleedin' Kama Sutra, is it? Granted, it doesn't really pass muster as a birthday treat either, but that's a separate issue...

[gordyslovesheep]

you may have done level 2 safeguarding recently Spider but take it from me - I more than understand the legislation and what that specific passage means :) you are wrong - bite me :)

[spookshowangellovesit]

oh my god again please someone get spiderpig some medication as she/he/the are clearly on a different planet to the rest of us.

[startail]

No problem at all she's not going to care.
Her parents play with her and cuddle her they play with each other. She doesn't know there are different kinds of cuddle and play

[spiderpig8]

that isn't what it says Gordy, that is your interpretation.
The fact is that the OP has crossed a line that shouldn't have been crossed and it is worrying that she and her dh didn't have the judgment to recognise this.

[gordyslovesheep]

pmsl talk about overkill - spiderpig you are being a tit - that is NOT what that means - it's using such activity to groom children - clearly NOT what the OP is doing - get a grip :)

[spiderpig8]

Ok from safe guarding children website
fSexual abuse involved forcing or enticing a child or young person to take part in sexual activities, whether or not the child is aware of what is happening...... They may also include non-contact activities, such as involving children in watching sexual activities,

[LeBOOOf]

How does anybody know when 'primitive people' had sex? Are there cave paintings of couples surrounded by barleycorn, or speech bubbles from the baby that say 'zzzzzzzzz'?

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

Like I said on another thread half term comes around quickly.

[spookshowangellovesit]

oh my god spiderpig! what about having sex in the next room as your children and they are awake and know full well what you are doing is that child abuse. you are insane.

[spookshowangellovesit]

i really dont understand peoples attitude to sex in this country.

[frutilla]

YANBU....it's better than only doing it once a month because there's always an awake kid around. Better asleep but if you're co-sleeping that doesn't work either. Happy Birthday btw!

[CointreauVersial]

Some weird views on here. No way is a 9-month-old going to remember, rationalise or be remotely traumatised by seeing parents having sex.

Having said that, I would have found it a bit of a passion-killer. We were at it in a hotel room once, with DS1 (about the same age) asleep in his cot beside our bed. Just as things were warming up, I looked over, and he was stood up silently observing the scene. Needless to say, it was a bit of an....er...anti-climax.

[TiarasTimeOutsAndTantrums]

So glad I clicked on this thread.
YANBU. I presume the DD wasn't right next to you?! Invest in a travel cot, plonk it by the tv and bite a pillow

[MakesCakesWhenStressed]

I think that's actually kind of offensive to all the people who have been genuinely abused.

[spiderpig8]

YABU having sex infront of your awake child is child sex abuse.