To shop neighbour who has been given disability car as a "gift"

[Jollyranchermuncher]

neighbours dad has a brand new sporty disability car that he has gifted to his daughter for her own full use.

It is hers, the dad stays in the next town and never it, I know she has full use of it.

Usually I would mind my own business over most things but it just makes me seethe that she has been given this and so many people who need things have to go without.

It also has a built in bluebadge so she can conveniently park in disabled spaces.

Am not quite sure how payment for disability cars work I take it her dad has to use his dla for the car? But it still seems like a huge take the piss off the system?

I posted earlier on this site and now just want to say:
Was driving my motability wav Doblo back from tesco yesterday afternoon with disabled child and older child inside and some poor old biddy (yes I did feel sorry for her) smacked in the back of me. Boot now won't shut, lights smashed etc. Don't feel sad for me ... but it is half term and the car I will get loaned while the Doblo is being repaired will not be wheelchair accessible so DD2 (aged 13) will be house bound until repair done. Goodness knows when. So all is not sweetness and light for us lucky folk with motability vehicles.

thanks Herbie so do I .

plainwhite Sucks indeed.

Has always puzzled me. When OH's people automatic, people carrier gets a prang it is replaced with a manual diddy car.

Plainwhite That happened to us. Huge 7 seater goes in for repair and we get a tiny peugeot 105. There are 6 of us now so we won't all fit in it. When we complained that the dd's car seats didn't fit so we couldn't go out in it the mobility woman said the car was fit for ds and that was all that mattered.

i don't agree with losing the mobility car if dc's go to residential schools. Most of these schools are very far away and the only way i would feel comfortable putting ds in one would be if i could bring him home every weekend. Losing the car would essentially mean dumping ds there and never seeing him

I agree there is the possibility that the father purchased the car, which is entirely different.

And if the OP is concerned, why doesn't she simply ask the father? If you're friends with the family, then simply mention to him that DD is saying this and that you don't want people to misunderstand and cause problems for him. You can just explain that some people might hear what the DD is saying and assume the worst - you know - judgemental and gossipy people that don't concern themselves with facts that may not be available to them?

anyone note the irony there?

Anyway, the interesting thing is that the OP does not appear to be concerned at all that the father may have been manipulated or encouraged to do something not in his benefit, but that the DD may be getting away with using a blue badge that is not hers (which she doesn't even know if the DD is using anyway!!).

For what it's worth, I wouldn't be discussing caring responsibilities with others regarding my parents (if, obviously, I was doing them, which I am not but just as an example). I would be worried that it would be embarrassing for them to have others know if I was doing things for them that they couldn't do themselves anymore. My parents have always been very self-sufficient, so when my dad had a severe brain injury 2 years ago (he passed away in March of this year), he needed constant care and supervision. He was coherent enough to realise it, and it really upset him (which of course upset my mum). Having others know about his difficulties would have truly embarrassed and upset him more. Perhaps this girl is simply not gossiping. Again, a novel thought.

Sorry, these types of posts can be so aggravating.

YABU mind your own business

My dad has a disability car which is my geandads. my grandad has had over 10 strokes and can't drive himself so ky dad droves the car for.him and takes him places as and qhen he needs but my grandad doesnt get out much as he's 80.

Although if anything happens to my grandad I.e he dies. If my dad cant pay the car off then It gets taken away.

Tbh If you think therr Is nothing wrong with tour neighbour you couks be misjudged and he could have had a stroke

Sorry about spelling. Touch screen phone.

We are eligible for a mobility car because of Ds1. I however, scraped and saved and bought my own car, taxed it, and insured it...and haven't bothered applying for a blue badge.
I don't want people judging, gossiping or speculating about us, so opted out. Sometimes I regret it, as the money I might save would be very handy, but then I read a thread like this and it confirms that I made the right decision.

Nuts isnt it 2blessed?

Why would anyone bother if they didnt have to? Its not worth the bloody stress.
(although I do think you should get a badge if you can - handy for appointments at least).

I am not sure we do save any money apart from if the car gets damaged. If we had bought a good, second hand motor I think we would be better off than we are now.

OH's benefit would go straight into our 'all in one account' so would be helping to pay off our mortgage for the short time it stayed in there (I dont mean we would be using it to pay or mortgage it would be a side affect of it going in to the account)

That is one of my big fears, OH suddenly having to stop work and us losing the house.

we had no choice but to have a motorbility WAV, there is no way I could afford to buy or run a WAV on 17p and hour

I suspect all these snippnets are exactly why the government is taking a close look at this subject. Gifting cars and using the mobility car to go to work surely cannot be right.

You get 17p seven? Blimey you must be seriously loaded then. I only get 15p per hour (30p per hour divided by two severely disabled children cos what most folk don't know is you only get one lot of carers allowance even if you care for more than one!!!). Won't see that little snippet of info printed in the Nazi Mail though eh, they're too busy vilifying all us 'scroungers'!!!

I bet you're having a party on that extra 2p per hour!!!!!

i better check my maths, i Think Peachy once said it was 17p.

No night time rate either

I had talk with mobility because ds3 gets Hrm as so do I but since ge got his first we got a wav for him but then I qualified got high rate this year and phoned up asked how would work as obviously seems silly to have 2 wav depending who was needing/using

And they were quite happy for it to be used for either one or both of us even though it is technically ds3 car not mine

can someone please answer a question for me?
i get the higher rate dla and my parents are the only people who take me out in their car.
they live about 2 miles from me - do you think i could have their car tax paid?

thanks

oops I am rich
it actually works out as about 33p an hour.

Mycatsach found this on the government web site

To claim exemption from paying vehicle tax, the vehicle must be registered in your name. Or registered in the name of someone you nominate to drive for you (a nominee).
The vehicle must only be used for your purposes, for example shopping or getting prescriptions.
If it is being used by the nominee or someone else for their own personal needs, then the exemption will be lost. If you no longer qualify for vehicle tax exemption, you'll need to pay vehicle tax.

ok not so straightforward then.thanks very much seven .

sorry i messed up your name

didn't even notice

unpaid for god's sake, do you think they're made of money? Sense of entitlement etc.
I phoned DVLA, they said to go via DPWP and DLA. Will try it.

Seven's figures my fault; based on one HR one MR, at old rate

2 blssed we're the same, decided against appealing for MRM and getting a car and blue badge- just to know the old banger outside is ours and we can do what we bloody well want with it