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in not moving dd out of her room for guests?

29 replies

samoa · 21/10/2011 21:29

We moved countries 2 months ago and dd started nursery 3 weeks ago. Since then her sleeping has been all over the place and it is hard getting her settled at night. This is obviously because there have been quite a few changes.

Anyway, we live in a 3 bedroom apartment and next week SIL and kids (7 and 9 yrs old) are coming for 2 weeks. SIL will be sleeping in the guest room and dh has suggested that we move our dd into our bedroom for 2 weeks and let SIL kids sleep in there.

I am not too thrilled about this. Considering that dd is having problems settling down I really don't think it is a good idea to move her out of her room, otherwise it is just going to take ages for her to settle back again when she returns to her room.

The guest room is big enough to add a blow-up bed in there for SIL and kids to sleep in there.

What do you all think?

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pranma · 21/10/2011 21:30

I'd put your sil and her dc in together.

NinkyNonker · 21/10/2011 21:31

I'm with pranma.

squeakyfreakytoy · 21/10/2011 21:31

SIL and kids in a room together. You are right, and it will give confusing messages to your child, and it could end up being hell getting her back into her own room again.

SazZaVoom · 21/10/2011 21:31

I would do as pranma says. Having said that, my DD1 always moves into DD2's room (bunk beds) when we have visitors.

Minshu · 21/10/2011 21:32

I do see the problem, but others with older / better sleeping DCs may not. Could either you two or SIL sleep in living room?

FabbyChic · 21/10/2011 21:32

I'd not move my child, sorry it is your child's bedroom not a place for others to sleep in.

I never understand why people move their own children out of their bedrooms when they have guests, it's mean. If you cannot accomodate then don't invite them.

louismummy · 21/10/2011 21:32

agree with pranma

ScaredKittyWitchyKitty · 21/10/2011 21:34

Situations like this are why hotels were invented.

SazZaVoom · 21/10/2011 21:35

But Fabby, we can accommodate them if DD1 and DD2 share. The DD's want their cousins to come and stay next week and are happy to move. Your viewpoint is very blinkered Confused

GeorgeEliot · 21/10/2011 21:39

I think it is hospitable to make your guests as comfortable as possible - and would normally move my dc around so there are enough beds/rooms etc depending on the guests families.

however I think this situation is a bit exceptional - but i would explain it carefully to your guests and i'm sure they will understand.

Original poster
samoa · 21/10/2011 21:39

we do have a pull out bed in the sitting room, so i might suggest to my dd that we sleep there.

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samoa · 21/10/2011 21:42

usually i wouldn't have nay problems in moving dd . I also believe in making guests feel as comfortable as possible. But the last few months have just been crazy for dd and i would like her to get settled. If it was just for a few nights i wouldn't mind but 2 weeks is long and I am worried that this would just make it even more difficult for her to settle back into her room.

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badmummy101 · 21/10/2011 21:44

If there is room for them all in the spare room put them all together.

grumplestilskin · 21/10/2011 21:46

in your case I would not move your DD.

My policy (based on knowing my own child I don't assume that everyone's should be the same) is that for visits up to 3ish nights DS gets moved into our room, for longer visits no!

but if he was disrupted from other factors I prob wouldn't move at all

AllGoodNamesGone · 21/10/2011 21:47

I agree, let SIL and her children share. Children of 7 and 9 can usually sleep anywhere and are much easier to share with than three years olds!

If I was SIL, I'd be happy to take the airbed and let the childen share the double (so I didn't get kicked in the night!)

GovernmentHooker · 21/10/2011 21:56

Let 'em share. They are probably saving heaps of money on not going to a hotel, so they have to make do and fit into your family's routine. Sharing a room isn't a bad thing for her or her kids. They will be fine.

exoticfruits · 21/10/2011 22:06

I agree with everyone else-SIL and DCs can easily share.

DogsBeastFiend · 21/10/2011 22:11

I'd normally have no issue with moving DC to accommodate guests but your situation sounds like it will cause all manner of problems for you so there's every reason why you shouldn't. I'd like to think that your SIL will understand too.

startail · 21/10/2011 22:20

Fabbychick DD2 has to move out of her room for visitors, it's unavoidable. No spare room. The same deal applies to her as applied to me. You have the biggest room, you have enough space for your junk and to play, 3 times a year you have to squash in with your sister. Sister probably doesn't want you either. However you like seeing my sister and your "god mother" and her DH so tough.

startail · 21/10/2011 22:21

The op has my sympathy though, toddlers are a different matter to stroppy 10 year olds.

FabbyChic · 21/10/2011 22:21

Id move out of my own bedroom for guests but I'd not move my kids.

lydiamama · 21/10/2011 22:27

If I were your SIL I would completely understand that your daughter is unsettled, and I would always like to sleep by my two children if that is possible and comfortable, as they may get a bit unsettled themselves away from their home. You have space in the spare bedroom so I do not see any problem at all, just tell your SIL about the accomodation and see what she says???

Original poster
samoa · 22/10/2011 07:02

Thanks everybody! I think we will move out of our bedroom and sleep on the pull-out bed.
Thanks again!

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halcyondays · 22/10/2011 08:43

Yanbu, I wouldn't move your dd.

CompleteMug · 22/10/2011 08:46

Samoa, as a travelling guest with children, I'd quite rather sleep WITH my children in the same room, so why don't you go with the idea further up the thread? SIL has spare room and her DB on the airbed? Kids love airbeds. I use them all the time for when a young cousin stays with us.

Everyone happy then Smile

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