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To have let DS 3 wee in the street?

74 replies

BoobleBeep · 18/10/2011 21:56

Was at the shops with DS today, he really needed a wee and both shops we asked wouldn't let us use their toilet because of health and safety. The only cafe I couldn't get my buggy with sleeping DS2 in so I took him around a corner and let him wee against a wall beofr ehe wet himself. I recieved a couple of dirty looks, was IBU?

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CharleyBucket · 18/10/2011 22:02

YANBU when they've gotta go... they've gotta go!
Ive seen people whipping out pottys in shops for their kids. Wouldn't do it myself but can see why people do it!
Who cares what anyone else thinks!

pigletmania · 18/10/2011 22:04

YANBU, there were no toilets nearby, and your ds is only little, don't worry

squeakyfreakytoy · 18/10/2011 22:04

My mum used to hold me over a grid. You could have helped him do that rather than up a wall where it will smell and people may have to walk through it too.

marriedinwhite · 18/10/2011 22:05

completely reasonable - mine have peed down innumerable drains.

pigletmania · 18/10/2011 22:05

The rain will come soon enough and wash away

soverylucky · 18/10/2011 22:07

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aldiwhore · 18/10/2011 22:07

YANBU my DS does this, but I try not to encourage it [parentalsternface] Smile

Birdsgottafly · 18/10/2011 22:07

No YANBU as long as you were discrete.

What else are you supposed to do? There aren't public toilets like there used to be. I pop into pubs when i am out, but you cannot always do that with a buggy.

MrBloomsNursery · 18/10/2011 22:08

Hmm I think you should plan your trips and make DS go to the loo before leaving the house, and not give hiim too much to drink if you know you'll be out a long time. Honestly. That is just horrible. I hope it wasn't someone's garden wall. I'd be really angry if someone did that against my wall.

LordOfTheFlies · 18/10/2011 22:09

One of my godsends was a TomeeTipee fold-up potty when DD was a toddlers.(They have a little bag with an absorbant pad it in).

DS wouldn't use it (he's DC1)

DS peed in a drain once in town .There were no toilets nearby and he had to go. Two policemen walked by, neither one said anything.

So don't worry. As long as he's not peeing in a shop doorway [hgrin]

PelvicFlAAAAARGHOfSteel · 18/10/2011 22:10

YANBU - particularly when you have a baby you can't leave, sometimes you just have to do whatever you have to do.

helpmabob · 18/10/2011 22:10

YANBU, not even worth giving it a second's thought

pigletmania · 18/10/2011 22:11

MrBloomsnursery not easy with a 3 year old who might want to go again after going at home. Pre schoolers can be predictable. Also I have made dd 4.5 try and go to the loo before we go, she sits but nothing comes out, then suddenly half an hour later she needs to go, so I either pop into a public loo if there is, if not find somewhere discreet.

pigletmania · 18/10/2011 22:12

meant unpredictable.

worraliberty · 18/10/2011 22:14

Kids have pissed in the street since time began Grin

That's the beauty of having boys, it's so much easier to deal with Wink

MrBloomsNursery · 18/10/2011 22:16

pigletmania how do you find somewhere discrete for your DD? Really, I am intrigued; boys are easy - they just point and pee, but it's a whole different ball game for girls. Do you take her trousers/knickers completely off her legs? I can imagine wet clothes and shoes.

ButHeNeverDid · 18/10/2011 22:17

Oh of course YANBU.

pigletmania · 18/10/2011 22:17

Well in a park, with no loos nearby, so a bush will do, where there is a will there is a way. They are only little at that age, not like an older child who you would expect to hold.

kim111 · 18/10/2011 22:18

YANBU, it's not ideal but you tried several other options.

I have one of these for my 3 year old twin sons, it is really discrete so no one can complain :)

worraliberty · 18/10/2011 22:19

MrBloom I've got 3 boys but I could still easily manage my DN's.

You just learn to hold them a certain way so the wee doesn't hit them.

Actually you have to do the same with little boys (hold them while they lean forward) so they don't wet their clothes.

pigletmania · 18/10/2011 22:20

I just hold her in a seating position, or get her to squat like we do.

MrBloomsNursery · 18/10/2011 22:21

I see, thanks worraliberty, let's hope I never have to try with DD, but good to know these types of things for the future!!

duvetdayplease · 18/10/2011 22:21

Hahahaha at the idea you can make a three year old go when they don't want to and then stop them when they do. Cos, you know, the bladder has a special brain all of its own, it is biddable. Plenty of adults leave the house and think 'oh, bother, need the loo'.

Of course YANBU, if he'd pissed himself it would have been on the floor anyway wouldn't it. People are so judgey, dogs wee everywhere. The reason humans don't is due to standards of decency, rather than it being more unhygienic for a human to pee on the floor than it is for a dog.

Sevenfoldedbloodybodies · 18/10/2011 22:21

yanbu that is what drains are for

pigletmania · 18/10/2011 22:21

DD has SN so we can still be unpredictable with our toileting