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AIBU?

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Original poster

To talk to a good friend on the phone for 55 minutes.

34 replies

RattusRattus · 16/10/2011 22:51

I am not a phone fiend. I don't do it often. In fact I very rarely do it. DH thinks I'm out of order. He was there throughout the conversation and at no point intimated that I should stop the call.

AIMBU?

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squeakytoy · 16/10/2011 22:53

What is his problem?

Was he trying to watch something on tv? If so then you should have left the room.

If it is cost, well as far as I know it is free upto 59 minutes..

purpleturtletoise · 16/10/2011 22:53

Might depend on your phone package.

But mine gives free calls for up to an hour's duration, so by curtailing conversation at 55 mins YANBU.

said · 16/10/2011 22:54

I'd be annoyed if I was the same room as someone on the phone to their friend for that long.

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RattusRattus · 16/10/2011 22:57

Nothing to do with cost. We were in the same room when she rang. He started watching TV after the call started, in another room but all open doors, which he could have shut if noise was an issue. At no point did he suggest he was pissed off.

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Midori1999 · 16/10/2011 22:58

I would think nothing of being on the phone for 55 mins, nor would I expect DH to tell me how long I should or shouldn't be on the phone for. Most of my really good friends and family live ages away, so I only get to talk to them on the phone.

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RattusRattus · 16/10/2011 22:58

So, sorry, when I say he was there, he was in the house, not in the room. He could have gone anywhere.

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RattusRattus · 16/10/2011 22:59

She's a friend from school so I see her often but don't get to chat that often IYSWIM. Ships that pass in the car park.

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LeBOOOf · 16/10/2011 23:00

So what is his problem? I agree that it's rude to yak away for ages when you are in the same room as someone, but that wasn't the case.

squeakytoy · 16/10/2011 23:00

He should have shut the door then, yanbu.

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RattusRattus · 16/10/2011 23:01

He thinks the time is the issue. Not where I was.

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sayjay · 16/10/2011 23:01

I could spend that long on the phone to a friend I was seeing tomorrow Blush

ShowOfHands · 16/10/2011 23:03

I rarely speak on the phone as I am an antisocial bugger but tonight I talked to my dad for 75 minutes. We covered bot flies, Romania, Dracula, boils, climate, Ninja Turtles, Enid Blyton, orthodox christianity and approx 879 other topics. DH said it was rather distracting if a little bizarre. But he wouldn't complain.

scarlettsmummy2 · 16/10/2011 23:03

He is just pissed off you weren't giving him your undivided attention. I would just ignore him.

belledechocchipcookie · 16/10/2011 23:05

Goodness, I spend hours on the phone to one of my friends. I get free evening calls so will hang up after 55 minutes and call her back. The longest has been 3 hours. He's getting off lightly Grin

squeakytoy · 16/10/2011 23:05

It is none of his business how long you were talking.. if the mate had come round to see you, would you have ushered her back out of the door after five minutes.. lol!! tell him to stop being such a prat..

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RattusRattus · 16/10/2011 23:06

SoH - you see DH wouldn't dare complain if I did that with my dad. There's no-one else I regularly do it with so i think it's odd when he gets pissed off at me doing it so rarely. I am truly bemused.

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 16/10/2011 23:08

I have a friend who calls every now and then, usually when her ex is pissing her off. These calls are rarely shorter than an hour and a half. I remove myself from the room with the telly, and when I return DH will ask how she is. No drama.

yellowraincoat · 16/10/2011 23:09

When I talk to my best friend, we're on the phone for a minimum of 3 hours.

ChippingInToThePumpkinLantern · 16/10/2011 23:24

He's being a twat. Not really sure what his problem is other than maybe he was feeling neglected.... poor diddums. An hour is nothing - he should count his blessings he doesn't live here!! Grin

skybluepearl · 16/10/2011 23:27

yes agree he is a twat. You are entitled to a social life and some relaxing down time away frokm chores/hubby/TV

BustersOfDoom · 16/10/2011 23:54

He is a twat. I had a friend whose controlling arse of a husband would unplug the phone when he thought she had talked enough. We are not in touch anymore as I was not on the approved friends list. She cut me and one or two other friends off completely. I've tried to get in touch since but have got nowhere.

Don't let it come to this OP. I can easily talk to my family or friends for hours. My OH only gets annoyed if I talk/laugh too loud when he is trying to watch TV - as do I when he is he is on the phone and does the same - not about how long I am talking for.

Trying to limit communication with friends can never be a good thing.

SamMiguel · 17/10/2011 00:05

Oh dear...your DH would have filed for divorce long ago if he lived in my house. I am notorious for talkingrubbish having long conversations on the phone!

Casmama · 17/10/2011 00:14

What exactly does he think you should have otherwise been doing with your time and if he was on his arse watching tv in another room then I don't think he has a leg to stand on.

iscream · 17/10/2011 09:27

I do this regularly. Usually at night while my dh is at work, but sometimes when he is around.

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RattusRattus · 17/10/2011 09:58

He seems to think I have all day to do it. Never mind the fact that I work every afternoon and my friends work too.

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