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AIBU to not want a workman to poo in my toilet?

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 14:00

Earlier today I was having my boiler serviced and two men came to do it.

The older man said 'can I use your toilet' , I said 'yes of course' and directed him to the bathroom. Thinking he just needed to pass water

But he had a poo in it! He was in there a good 10 minutes and has colleague was looking embarressed as we chatted.

It stank ! Really stank ...why do people think it's ok to poo in someone elses house

Would it be unreasonable to refuse workmen toilet access in future [hshock]

I'm using the term workmen because I don't know what else to call them

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BimboNo5 · 16/10/2011 20:10

Many children have a poo phobia. If they are made to feel dirty/ashamed etc of poo they can hold it in, becoming constipated, impacted and some even require surgery and it fucks up their bowel habits big time. I urge anyone who feels remotley like they have issues with poo to never show it to their kids.

pigletmania · 16/10/2011 20:15

Thats ok creamola I am not sure as he died 23 years ago, and I was only 11, I will have to ask my mum. He did not recieve any treatment for his cancer as he was passing blood and ignored it, but when he went to the Dr it was too late, it was terminal Sad. It is a good idea to go to your GP creamola and he will refer you to a psychologist if you want help that is. I was halfway through my training to become a Chartered Health Psychologist but put it on hold when I had dd, and now I am pg with dc2 I am aware of psychology being used to treat phobias and anxiety.

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CreamolaFoamless · 16/10/2011 20:24

see Bimbo your just getting me annoyed again

There is no reason for someone to come in and do a 10 minute job then do a 10 minute Jobby

It is rude

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BimboNo5 · 16/10/2011 20:26

Why is pointing out the fact shitting is normal and people need to shit 'annoying you'?
You could always not ask people their views? Just a thought...

JustRedbin · 16/10/2011 20:30

Next time you have "workmen" in you could supply them with corks.

Bunbaker · 16/10/2011 20:34

"There is no reason for someone to come in and do a 10 minute job then do a 10 minute Jobby "

Look. You might be one of those lucky ones who can hold it in all day, but some people can't. So, yes, there is a reason. If this chap wasn't familiar with the area he might not have known that there were other toilets in the vicinity.

"It is rude"

How is needing the toilet rude? How many times do people on here have to point out that it is a necessary bodily function that some people have no control over?

I'm sorry but you have a complete lack of understanding of other people and how their bodies might work differently from yours.

Get over yourself, or better still train as a plumber and learn some DIY and then you won't have to get anyone in in case they contaminate your toilet.

bialystockandbloom · 16/10/2011 20:43

Ok I haven't read the whole thread but I sense I am in a minority here.... but what the hell. I'm in that kind of mood.

OP I agree. I am repulsed by the smell of a stranger's shit in my loo.

And even worse, when they leave skid marks and don't clean it.

Tbh I can't understand people who don't mind cleaning a stranger's shit off their loo

bialystockandbloom · 16/10/2011 20:44

Or should that be

Bunbaker · 16/10/2011 20:45

Oh, I mind alright, but I understand that when someone has to go they have to go.

I think it is totally and utterly unreasonable to not understand that. I don't suppose the workman wanted to use a stranger's toilet, but he had no option.

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CreamolaFoamless · 16/10/2011 20:47

I don't think he was holding it all all day .....

It was 11am and if he was touching cloth he would have said 'can I use your loo' the minute he arrived.

I think he was just an older guy who thought it was ok to shit in my toilet probs be ause his wife didn't let him shit in their toilet.

I do think older men have no respect about they take a dump but younger men and women do

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Andrewofgg · 16/10/2011 20:49

Oh Creamola where the hell are you getting this from?

He needed a crap. End of.

Have you ever heard the expression When you're in a hole, stop digging?

LostInTheWoods · 16/10/2011 20:51

Creamola, you're hilarious.

Do you fold a little triangle-shaped pleat into the end of your loo roll and get upset when others don't?

I love the way your embroidering the poor mans entire life story - complete with a mad, toilet-refusing wife.

You're wrong, get over it love.

MissBetsyTrotwood · 16/10/2011 20:52

Be flattered, your loo must be superb.

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CreamolaFoamless · 16/10/2011 20:52

Get over yourself, or better still train as a plumber and learn some DIY and then you won't have to get anyone in in case they contaminate your toilet

bunbaker my dad was a plumber so I do know how to unblock a toilet at sort a stopcock

Some of you people just don't get my angst

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LostInTheWoods · 16/10/2011 20:55

No, we think you're both mad and terribly rude.

pootlebug · 16/10/2011 20:57

"I do think older men have no respect about they take a dump but younger men and women do"

I am female. And not especially old. If I need a crap I go for a crap. Whether that is in a public toilet, the toilet at home, or the toilet in a friend's house. It is a TOILET ffs, that's what it is there for. It never occurred to me that someone would be offended by this. I would obviously clean it if there was any sign of it after flushing though.

Andrewofgg · 16/10/2011 21:00

Well now, pootlebug, you've told us what your toilet is for, and I agree, that's what mine is for too, but perhaps we are all wrong and Creamola's is for something else . . . but in that case I wish she'd tell us what! :)

fortyplus · 16/10/2011 21:11

Ok - I have the workman poo story to end them all (I hope!)

We had an extension built a few years ago and one of the brickies did a poo in my downstairs loo that was about a foot long and so solid that repeated flushes and wodges of loo roll wouldn't get rid of it.

In the end I had to unbend a coat hanger to chop it up.

Love to know what CreamolaFoamless would've made of that! Grin

654321 · 16/10/2011 21:11

See this is why we have a downstairs loo.....I cant bear the thought of a stranger pooing on my toilet so I only really use the one upstairs....

I would hate to have to say no to someone....to defend the OP somewhat, I find it a bit strange that the workmen turn up and one immediately asks to use the toilet (from reading thats what sounds like happened) I ould assume that somewhere along the way he would realise he's gotta poop and maybe find a public toilet...I would hate to turn up at someones house and have to go and use their toilet...but then we arnt all made the same...

I remember once a guy came to fit wardrobes in he was all day fitting these wardrobes and then as about 4.30 in the afternoon he had to admit defeat...he told me he had just come home from holiday and had a bit of an iffy tummy and had been on and off my loo ALL day...I though progress had been slow!!!! Shock I was mortified...the guy had had the wildies on my UPSTAIRS toilet ALL day and not thought to say anything!!!!!

I did feel sorry for him but at the same time I was v grumpy about it..(in my head not to him) I just chased him home nad told him to come back when he was better

654321 · 16/10/2011 21:14

Creamola...Im with you m'dear....Smile

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CreamolaFoamless · 16/10/2011 21:32

*Ok - I have the workman poo story to end them all (I hope!)

We had an extension built a few years ago and one of the brickies did a poo in my downstairs loo that was about a foot long and so solid that repeated flushes and wodges of loo roll wouldn't get rid of it.

In the end I had to unbend a coat hanger to chop it up.

Love to know what CreamolaFoamless would've made of that!*

I would have probably called the police for toilet abuse and emotional pain

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fortyplus · 16/10/2011 21:33

Snigger! Grin
I have to confess it does haunt me still... Wink

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CreamolaFoamless · 16/10/2011 21:34

you can not chop up someone elses Jobbies that is beyond sick

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fortyplus · 16/10/2011 21:36

Well it was Friday afternoon and they'd scarpered for the weekend so it was either deal with it myself, wait till Monday morning and tell them to do it, or phone them up and make them come back.

Luckily for him he was an excellent brickie or I would've sacked him!

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CreamolaFoamless · 16/10/2011 21:45

I'm going to phone him tomorrow and ask if he he really needed to poo or just took a poo advantage ?

I will report back

I'm being made to feel bad because I did not want a random guy shitting in toilet .

It was 10 mins .......it was not an in and out bowel condition , as I have expalined

It was a proper formed solid poo that took 10 mins ....

Why I am wrong in thinking that is wrong .

I would not shit in house or his van .......so why would he shit in my house

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