to not want to go out for christmas dinner in a pub with the family, but DP has already said yes

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Someone in the family has decided it would be a good idea for us all (20 odd people) to go out for Christmas lunch in a pub. They asked DP who provisionally said yes, but I really really do not want to go for so many reasons.

• I want to cook my own christmas dinner

-I don't want to eat lunch in a nondescript pub which describes it as Christmas lunch with 'all the trimmings' -It costs £60 a head (for 4 of us) without alcohol -it is 20 miles drive away, not far at all I agree but who wants to drive on Christmas day? -I don't want to go

• I don't want to go

Why can't we do what we normally do at Christmas - the whole family goes round PILs in the morning to swap gifts and bucks fizz for an hour or two, and everyone buggers off by lunchtime. So I can go home to merrily potter round the kitchen cooking and pissing about, and it is all relaxed.

I HATE the idea of a crappy lunch in a pub. How can I say no without coming across as a petulant twat?

Dear God no, sounds awful.

Dear Aunty Mabel. DP has told me about the plans to have Christmas lunch out. Quite frankly it sounds like my idea of a gold plated hell. So thanks but no thanks. Have a lovely Christmas! x

Don't blame you!!!

Sounds horrid!!!

YANBU!!!

Noo! I hate the very thought of not being at home on Christmas Day, pottering around with a glass of wine/ baileys/ both while cooking, the kids all playing with their new Christmas toys, dad, Dh and uncle all playing with the kids new Christmas toys....

Our Christmas lunch/ dinner takes about 4 hours with drinking relaxation time between courses. I love love love it. It's not even about the meal (although I do a fab Beef Wellington on the day, even if I do say so myself ) and I prep for days in advance so I can be chilled on the day.

If DH said we were going out, I think I would cry , so your "diamond shoes too tight" whinge sounds like a righteous one to me! Maybe you could invite them, safe in the knowledge (hopefully!) that they wouldn't come! Maybe they could come to you for drinks later?

Hope you get your At-Home christmas without too much fuss!

I hear you re the food, cost wanting to cook etc. YANBU.

But you could say no thanks, we both like to enjoy a drink at Christmas and clealy can't do that if we have to drive!!

How about suggesting a family pub meal on boxing day?

Plus it's still months away so not too late for a change of plan