to think a romantic "surprise" should at least be attempted when proposing?

[CupOfBrownJoy]

Recently DP has made it very plain that he wants to propose, wants to get married and have children with me.

So far so good.

However, he's so excited about the whole thing that he keeps saying he's going to propose "soon" and when I say "oh yes?" he sort of winks and says "sooner than you think!". So I think, ok, bless him he's really excited, I'll try not to get too hung up on where and when and just go with the flow...

Now he is asking me for hints and advice as to how to go about it. As in, do you get the ring beforehand or choose it together? Does he have to go down on one knee? How does he know the size of ring? etc etc.

AIBU to at least hope for some sort of romantic surprise?

I'm not talking a balloon trip over the Eiffel Tower, but at the moment I feel like saying "forget it! I'll just get myself a ring when I'm in town on Saturday and save you the bother!"

Oh I'll have a "word" myself Chrissas if it comes to it!

It's not a problem as such. I'm heading over there tonight so we'll have a glass of wine and a good chat about everything. He'll be able to get his worries (if he has any) off his chest and I'll tell him to chill!

It'll all be fine [hgrin]

One other thing that's slightly concerning me on the wedding front is that, although I don't want a big "do", his family and my family will have to be there (they'll go nuts if we elope as I really want to). The trouble is his family is German and his parents don't speak a word of English. Mine don't speak a word of German, so how on earth are we going to have a fun intimate party together? His brother speaks some English and DP is fluent, but I can't help but think its going to be a bit awkward.

Any suggestions?

I knew DH's proposal was coming. We'd even bought the ring together in advance of proposal.

It was a romantic setting, but he just said "I love you, will you be my wife". Perfectly nice, but I'd have liked something a bit more personal to us. Not that it really mattered, in the grand scheme of things.

YANBU DP asked me over the phone when he was pissed watching the rugby in Ireland. Told him to ask again when he was sober [humm]

Oh bollocks [hhmm]

How grim do I feel sitting here on a friday night hearing about everyone's romantic stories...
Being single sucks sometimes.
:(

I ruined DH's romantic proposal plan by refusing to go to the location he had in mind. As he couldn't drop a hint that really, I should go, we didn't go and he just quietly announced he would be buying me a ring the following weekend. So he did, and I went with him and chose it. Then we got pissed.

The thing is, I didn't jump up and down with joy or anything because he had been given an ultimatum. Marry me, or ship out. (It wasn't that I thought marriage was the only way to sustain the relationship, btw, but because DH is a Catholic he wouldn't live with me either and I'd had enough). So I was more relieved that I didn't have to dump the bloke I loved.

Anyway, we've been married for 5 years now, 1 DS and TTC DC2 so it's all good despite the non-romantic start.

Dp just rolled over in bed at about 11.00 at night and said:
"umm, do want to get married then?"
I said very sleepily "yeah one day"
Dp " oh, right, coz I've got you this ring..."

[hshock] sat up in bed and shouted yes!

Turns out he'd had it for about a month, but kept chickening out of doing a giant romantic proposal, he's very shy and kept worrying about whether I'd guess something was going on, I wouldn't say yes, evener would look etc. We get married a week today!

LOLerskates that was me 6 months ago... things can change quickly!

Snowy - good luck for next weekend!!

I don't get this.
If you are talking about 'proposing' surely by definition that means that the proposal has been made and accepted?

It's like peopel who talk about 'getting engaged' at Christmas/Easter/3 pm on Feb. 12.

wtf?

If you are talking of it, the agreement is there!

I don't think you're being unreasonable to want that. I wanted it (I think most women do) but my husband just isn't that kind of person. He was nervous and did his best to make it romantic even though we'd been to choose the ring the week before and I was with him when he picked it up!

I know it's predictable to say this but it's the other stuff that matters more to me - I love him, I can depend on him and he's a wonderful father to our baby boy. At the time I kind of wished he was also romantic but really out of all the qualities you look for in a husband, that was pretty low on the list for me.

I've been out with some very romantic men in the past but they were useless at everything else! If you have a man who is romantic on top of everything else then great, if he isn't I don't think it's worth losing any sleep over.

I didn´t have a romantic proposal either.

He asked me to get married, I said yes.

We bought a ring together the next day & then told people.

That was fine for me.

But I don´t get why he has told you that he will propose-instead of just doing it.

That would piss me right off tbh.

My DP proposed in bed. He rolled over to look at me and told me he wanted more children, a home and to be married to me and then asked me. At the time I was happy, of course, but a bit let down he hadn't done it romantically. Two proposals later (one involving a ring from a 20p machine and another with pist it's leading me to a dining table full of my favourite things and my actual ring) I realises the first one was perfectly romantic and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Sorry to hijack :(.