to think that people who are thinking of joining a long-established internet forum (say 10 years +) would be well advised to get a feel for the place

[bibbitybobbityhat]

before jumping in and criticising the conventions of the forum hither and thither and then threatening to flounce in a massive hissy fit?

Nobody has to post like everyone else. And it dies change all the time which is great. New posters are great.

But new posters who roll up just to whine are odd.

you seem to understand enough to object
are you really a toaster or any bog standard electrical item?

Yes,the wind-ups are no fun!

I do think though,that there is an expected posting style?

Maybe its just me?

Oh FGS

Stop being so bloody precious. It's a chat forum, people can say what they like, why does it bother you?

It's like a pub, you don't just barge into one and launch into an attack on the music, the beer selection, the rough sweary love/hate beknuckled clientele. You shuffle off to the next one til you find one that you feel at home in.

dint agree start about expected posting style,that caused all the grief in the feminism section.a fair few there had their expectation of posting style and content

I've been coming on here for several years and noone's ever thought to tell me about these 'ere Rules

YABU. Anyone can jump in and say what they like on the internet - that's half the fun! It's more open and random than having a coffee morning at your house where you control the "conventions".

the point is there is no point
pile in

people have been going on about this for years 'oooh it's not the same, there be strangers in town etc bloody etc

yes,but tellingly not themselves as strangers or rule breakers

What hells said about cliques.

I love a good flounce.

I am even more about this the more I think about it.

Why should anyone get a feel for the place? And even if they do why should anybody conform? And conform to what exactly?

MN isn't by invitation only and newbies should not be hesitant about posting whatever the hell they like.

Oh come off it - this place can be vicious at times. There have been occasions where it's been like being at the Colosseum watching some newbie being torn to shreds by the lions because she's dared to speak out of turn, made some innocuous comment that breaches an unspoken MN etiquette or - worst of all - posted on the wrong topic area.

dont need feel for place or brown nosers
need funny,sharp posters who aren't constrained by someone else notion of how mn should be

NO SM you've gotten that all wrong.
It wasn't different posting styles that caused the grief in teh FWR section - it was misogyny in all it's myriad guises. The fems can spot it, and don't stand for it.

Well true Arachnophobic newbies or anyone can post what they like but others will pick them up on it. If you're just stirring for the crack why go for it, upset as many as you can. But if you do feel like MN is the place for you and you'd like to join for any other reason but bunfights wouldn't you try to get a feel for it first? Like joining any RL community, really.

As a newbie this was the first thread I read so my impression was that mumsnet was a place where self-indulgence and tweeness got mocked in a highly amusing fashion. I think that was correct.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/252806-is-this-the-worst-and-most-selfabsorbed-piece-of-journalism/AllOnOnePage

Mumsnet is what it is

You know where the door is..

no.it was the its a fem board asking for different mn moderation.asserting it wa a feminist safe space until mnhq clarified fem topics same as rest of mn and no different.not requiring different moderation.plenty of posters were asking mn to moderate to recognise as a feminist space.at one point posters accused mnhq of being against the topic and unsupportive

It's the nature of the beast I guess. There are always going to posters you favour more than others {I have my frenemies}. But I don't give a flying fuck frig.

Just don't take it personally, remember you don't know these people.

My postings tend to change, probably due to being schitzophrenic what time of the month it is. And whats going on in my life. Sometimes I like to play and ruffle a few feathers.

So you see you can do all sorts on here.

I will also say that when a poster is in genuine trouble, the support they receive is phenominal from everybody.

I think bibbity was talking about posters who post " I am new here but your swearing is awful, you should be ashamed of yourselves"

The use of 'conventions' makes it sound like normal posting styles or something. But I think she just means "why turn up and bitch immediately. If you think mn is full of sweary gits or bitches then why post at all"

Of course I may be wrong.

Well, it often depends on who you are as to what MN is, Tiffany.