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AIBU?

To think that sexless marriages

64 replies

JustBinIt · 06/10/2011 23:19

Are very sad and those who claim to be happy in them are in denial?

OP posts:

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Cheeseandseveredfingersarnie · 07/10/2011 09:45

think op's just come to boast what mind numbing sex shes just had.i can imagine her pitying everyone sat with a post sex fag hanging out of her mouth.
we are not worthy op,your judgey pants are far too high.

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Hammy02 · 07/10/2011 09:48

OP. If you were genuinely happy yourself, you wouldn't give other people's sex lives a 2nd thought.

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RhinoKey · 07/10/2011 09:52

Why do you care OP?

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havinhoops1974 · 07/10/2011 09:53

I sort of agree tbh but that my view people differ, personally if my husband said to me 'I don't want sex with you anymore' I'd assume if he wasnt already, gettting it somewhere else was hoping too, or just didnt like me both are deal breakers.

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KellyKettle · 07/10/2011 10:15

OP isn't coming back is she?

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Cheeseandseveredfingersarnie · 07/10/2011 14:36

shes having sex.

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SnakeOnCrack · 07/10/2011 15:26

bizarroooooo

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ChooChooWowWow · 07/10/2011 19:12

Dh and I have been together for 15 years. For 6 years we didn't have sex (wont bother going into the reasons). Three years ago the sex resumed. We are no happier or more in love now than we were before or after our period of abstinence. I think I am more relaxed after a good session and we both missed sex during that period. We were never sad though, and our relationship was as warm and committed as it is now. I think the key is if you find yourself in that situation to keep talking and still keep the romance going in other ways. A real relationship will survive without sex if needs be.

So op from my personal experience you are talking rubbish.

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ouryve · 07/10/2011 19:29

YABU. Not everyone wants the same from a relationship.

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NorfolkNChance · 07/10/2011 19:37

I've got 20:1 odds on that the OP is the OW and trying to justify herself. You won't get better on that, NNC's Betting Shop Guarentee!

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maypole1 · 07/10/2011 19:40

So if your not snagging like a rabbit your not happy WTF have you boot thought some people actually seek out others with low sex drives just like them

How's the view from trollsville

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KellyKettle · 08/10/2011 01:10

And actually, having sex isn't an indicator of anything.

When I was 15 I caught my parents having sex . A week later my mum had left my dad for a man she'd been seeing for a year.

My dad went around for weeks telling everyone who'd listen how shocked he was because their sex life was great and they'd "made love" the night before she left.

Sex wasn't much of a barometer there.

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NorfolkBroad · 08/10/2011 08:58

Well can only speak for myself but i was definitely miserable and in denial in my sexless relationship with my ex. Now I am extremely happy with my DP of 7 years in what is a very lovely relationship with lots of sex. Some of my friends in sexless marraiges are happy with it and others are really fed up. I dont think u are alone in wondering this at all.

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NorfolkBroad · 08/10/2011 09:01

But its not just about the sex obviously. Am surprised at the difference it has made to my life though.